It’s a pretty simple story. My friend is usually really annoying, but I usually take it when he basically bullies me as a joke. I bumped into him once, and he started cursing me out. I mean, I never really liked this friend because a lot of times he joked about stuff that he shouldn’t be joking about (such as r**e, and he says the n word as a white man) So assuming he’s fine with jokes that are “offensive”, I called him some random ass names (obviously meant to be a joke) for starters, I called him a poopy pants. I mean, the whole point is for that joke to be immature, stupid and corny. Then I called his hair greasy. All as a joke, assuming he’d be able to understand it considering the jokes he’s made about me or his other friends. But I jokingly insult him (which I wouldn’t do to a friend that doesn’t do it to me first), then all of a sudden he stops talking to me, is mean spirited towards me, and then disses me behind my back to my other friends (who dgaf) I called him other stuff, but the worst thing I said was “shit-stain”. Like you’ve called me SO much worse, and prolly not as a joke, but I just thought you could handle some joke insults. Atp if I really meant them, they would’ve been much worse.
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It’s a pretty simple story. My friend is usually really annoying, but I usually take it when he basically bullies me as a joke. I bumped into him once, and he started cursing me out. I mean, I never really liked this friend because a lot of times he joked about stuff that he shouldn’t be joking about (such as r**e, and he says the n word as a white man) So assuming he’s fine with jokes that are “offensive”, I called him some random ass names (obviously meant to be a joke) for starters, I called him a poopy pants. I mean, the whole point is for that joke to be immature, stupid and corny. Then I called his hair greasy. All as a joke, assuming he’d be able to understand it considering the jokes he’s made about me or his other friends. But I jokingly insult him (which I wouldn’t do to a friend that doesn’t do it to me first), then all of a sudden he stops talking to me, is mean spirited towards me, and then disses me behind my back to my other friends (who dgaf)
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> The action I took was the slightly mean spirited, but obvious joke I made to my friend. It may make me the asshole because it was “too mean.” I believe personally I’m not, but I don’t want to seem too cocky, so I ask for other people’s opinions. This friend I have is a self-centered jerk, who regularly makes offensive jokes directed towards me and others, but he can’t take one himself.
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He probably reacted that way because it’s true – he doesn’t clean his ass properly. And so he obviously thinks someone told you. That would be my guess. People like him dish it out but can’t take it. NTA.
Stop hanging around with this person. He’s an ass and brings out the worst in you. ESH
Gonna make an assumption that you all are young teens? Hang out and talk to friends that you actually enjoy talking to and don’t mind him making a fuss. He’s not worth your time. NTA.
NTA- He’s not and wasn’t your friend. Stop hanging out with him and don’t be immature at his level to insult him.
At a certain point, calling a person who jokes about R*pe and uses the N-word, a “friend” reflect poorly on you. Do you call him out on his behavior? If you smile and nod, maybe you’re part of the problem here.
NTA
And if he’s like that with everyone, then they all probably just roll their eyes when he starts chirping about you.
Don’t give it rent free space in your mind. Brush it off. If it comes up socially, laugh it off.
NTA seems like if he can’t take the heat he should get out of the kitchen.
ESH – You aren’t friends. You are simply two people who sometimes hang out and insult each other. Stop hanging out with them if you don’t like being insulted and/or ignored.
NTA. This dude is not your friend. Time to move on
You’re friends with racist. You’re the problem too. Why do we care what names you call each other? You’re both disgusting 🤮 you deserve each other’s bs Hate breeds hate. Stop being friends and work on becoming a better version of yourself. You are capable of growth.
NTA – He probably only uses you as his “I have a black friend, I’m not a racist” go-to. Eff him and his greasy hair.
NTA, he can joke to others but he cannot take one? bro is not vibing, you should distance yourself from him, some jokes are half meant and maybe he took it to the heart as he see himself as one of those names you called him lol
ESH.
Why are you friends with this clown?