I (F22) have jumped on the sourdough bread train. I now make the bread we eat instead of buying it, and when I make a loaf of bread, I post a picture of it and post it on my story. I’ve had several people slide up and say they would love a loaf, including my in-laws.
Right now, we are home visiting our family. I brought my starter and baking supplies to make loaves for the people who have asked, while staying at my mom’s. For my in-laws, I made 3 loaves. The SILs (high school age) wanted a cinnamon swirl loaf, so that’s what I made for them. My MIL says she is allergic to cinnamon, so I made her 2 small loaves (regular and a cheddar jalapeño). I baked her loaves first to avoid any cross contamination, and I wrapped the cinnamon loaf and put it in its own container separate from the loaves that would go to MIL. When I dropped them off, I made sure to tell them that one loaf was cinnamon.
Today, while we were there, MIL cut herself a slice of the cinnamon bread saying she wanted to taste it. All of us said she really shouldn’t since she’s allergic to cinnamon. She said she would avoid the cinnamon swirl and just eat the plain bread. After more protest, it was clear that she was not going to listen. She ate it, said it was good, and cut another slice. After a while, nothing happened. My husband and I assumed that maybe she isn’t as allergic as she thought and everything was fine. We went back to my mom’s house, and an hour later both of our phones started blowing up. MIL says I gave her horrible diarrhea with my “nasty bread”, and is now claiming that I tried to poison her by giving them bread that has cinnamon in it.
My husband has pressed that I did everything I needed to do to keep the breads separate, and that eating the cinnamon bread was 100% her choice. She, and now my husbands grandma are adamant that I shouldn’t have brought cinnamon bread into the house at all and I should’ve just told my SILs no. I thought bringing it would be fine. I’ve been there plenty of times when SILs had cinnamon rolls on the stove, or snickerdoodle cookies in a jar. I assumed that she wouldn’t even touch the container because as far as I had seen, she didn’t touch the other stuff.
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I (F22) have jumped on the sourdough bread train. I now make the bread we eat instead of buying it, and when I make a loaf of bread, I post a picture of it and post it on my story. I’ve had several people slide up and say they would love a loaf, including my in-laws.
Right now, we are home visiting our family. I brought my starter and baking supplies to make loaves for the people who have asked, while staying at my mom’s. For my in-laws, I made 2 loaves. The SILs (high school age) wanted a cinnamon swirl loaf, so that’s what I made for them. My MIL says she is allergic to cinnamon, so I made her 2 small loaves (regular and a cheddar jalapeño). I baked her loaves first to avoid any cross contamination, and I wrapped the cinnamon loaf and put it in its own container separate from the loaves that would go to MIL. When I dropped them off, I made sure to tell them that one loaf was cinnamon.
Today, while we were there, MIL cut herself a slice of the cinnamon bread saying she wanted to taste it. All of us said she really shouldn’t since she’s allergic to cinnamon. She said she would avoid the cinnamon swirl and just eat the plain bread. After more protest, it was clear that she was not going to listen. She ate it, said it was good, and cut another slice. After a while, nothing happened. My husband and I assumed that maybe she isn’t as allergic as she thought and everything was fine. We went back to my mom’s house, and an hour later both of our phones started blowing up. MIL says I gave her horrible diarrhea with my “nasty bread”, and is now claiming that I tried to poison her by giving them bread that has cinnamon in it.
My husband has pressed that I did everything I needed to do to keep the breads separate, and that eating the cinnamon bread was 100% her choice. She, and now my husbands grandma are adamant that I shouldn’t have brought cinnamon bread into the house at all and I should’ve just told my SILs no. I thought bringing it would be fine. I’ve been there plenty of times when SILs had cinnamon rolls on the stove, or snickerdoodle cookies in a jar. I assumed that she wouldn’t even touch the container because as far as I had seen, she didn’t touch the other stuff.
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NTA. You did everything to prevent her from eating the cinnamon bread. You told her not to eat it and to be careful, but she ate it anyway. That was her choice. You made it perfectly clear that it was cinnamon bread and she shouldn’t eat it, it was her own decision that messed her up.
Cinnamon swirl bread sounds awesome. Your MIL is an asshole…
NTA, it’s not your fault that your MIL isn’t very bright
NTA – you did everything right. It is her own fault for eating it after being told several times that she shouldn’t. Also going for seconds is crazy as she would have tasted the cinnamon the first time.
Of course you’re NTA – she’s a lunatic.
You are obviously NTA, sorry but is your MIL a child? Did she do that to herself for attention? I don’t get it.
info – does your MIL have trouble accepting responsibility for ANYTHING? You did everything you could to bring her bread and the cinnamon for your SIL. Your MIL : 1) Knew that the cinnamon bread was separately packaged, 2) She was told DON’T eat it, 3) She was further warned DOn’t eat it and not only did she eat it, she took a second piece. Is she Patrick Starr? The only explanation is she can’t accept responsibility for being so insistent to eat something she KNOWS is bad for her. NTA
How are you at any logical way at fault here? You baked what you were asked and took exceptional care not to cross contaminate and carefully label what you brought. MIL, a seemingly responsible adult, made the choice to eat something she’s allergic to and suffered the consequences. I cannot for the life of me understand why she and grandma are trying to put her bad choices on you. If she’s so childish and self destructive that she can’t resist something bad for her, that’s not on you. It’s absolutely ridiculous that they’re trying to blame you for her behavior. NTA.
NTA. MIL is quite literally acting like a child who was told not to touch the stove because it’s hot, touches the stove, and then blame you because they burned their hand on the hot stove.
Hey! I have a cinnamon allergy. I always bring my own dessert and would absolutely never expect family or friends to not have what they want because of my allergy.
You are absolutely NTA and your mother in law sounds like a whole lot of work.
Thank goodness she’s not even allergic but just what sounds like intolerant instead. Good Lord if she was actually allergic to something, she’d be dead by now and it would be her fault.
NTA. Did….did she forget?
Your MIL is TA here, not you.
You are NTA
NTA. Bring it every single time. Match crazy with crazy.
My sister claimed she was allergic to cinnamon her entire life. Every single chance I got, I’d put cinnamon in her food. She’s still alive.
Your MIL is an idiot. You literally told her it had cinnamon in it and not to eat the thing. She knew exactly what she was doing. NTA
NTA – I’m sorry your MIL is a moron.
as someone with a cinnamon allergy, NTA and also you’re so sweet for being so cautious
NTA, and your MIL is an idiot. Although personally I think I’d be willing to suffer through a bout of diarrhea for some homemade cinnamon swirl bread.
Your MIL sounds like a child. Eho eats 2 slices of cinnamon bread when they’re allergic to cinnamon??? And the logic if blaming you??? She’s an idiot.
If she can’t control herself or make good decisions, you shouldn’t be sending any food to her house.
NTA
NTA. You were actually above and beyond considerate. AITA for wishing she wound up in the hospital?
NTA
She knows she is allergic……
NTA. You kept everything separate and your MIL knew she was eating something she shouldn’t.
NTA. MIL knew that she was eating something she is allergic to. She even got TWO slices and was completely fine. She is overreacting for no reason and acting like a child.
NTA. MIL is a grown adult who knew exactly what she was eating and carried on despite receiving warnings. She’s clearly an attention seeking nutcase.
NTA-oh please, she’s a grown darn adult with all the information she needed to make decisions. It ends there.
Just dropping in to say my friend is allergic to cinnamon…but turns out there are two different types, Ceylon or Cassia. Most cinnamon is Cassia. A friend told her she should be able to have Ceylon and turns out she can!
Anyway, yeah, you MIL isn’t a child so NTA.
Wow. No good deed goes unpunished huh? I wouldn’t be baking for them again. Definitely NTA
NTA – and honestly, If you did this favor again, I would have the family sign a disclaimer acknowledging receipt of individual and seperate loafs of bread, but honestly this seems like a petty way to punish a good deed. If by any chance you have extra cinnamon swirl bread, I am sure there are many, myself included, that would like some of that nasty evil bread.
Big difference between allergy and intolerance. I have intolerances to food as I age. It’s my responsibility to avoid them or deal with the consequences. Nuts especially cashews are my crack. When I eat them I know I will pay for it with stomach issues. It’s worth it too sometimes. I blame no one for my stupidity. Your mil is the asshole. The term allergy is thrown around so loosely. Sounds like she has an intolerance. She needs to take responsibility for her own actions and go blow. Your breads sounds incredible!
NTA. This is your MIL fault – not anyone elses
NTA, your MIL is an idiot who knowingly ate what she was allergic to. Stop entertaining her ridiculousness and tell grandma that she raised an idiot.
Is your MIL a child? Do they need to keep her out of every coffee shop, cafe, bakery, and restaurant that uses cinnamon in case she decides to lose her mind, or does she just blame the staff when that happens? 💀 No way you’re TA but personally I wouldn’t make her food ever again…
NTA.
Your MIL is trying to save face over her bad life choice by blaming you.
Remind her every time she says something that she chose to eat the cinnamon bread. Nobody else is responsible for her choice.
Am I the only one who wants the recipe because it sounds amazing?
“Oh no! Not the direct consequences of my own actions! This can’t possibly be my fault! It must be the fault of the people who explicitly tried to prevent me from doing it! They should have hidden it from me like a parent hiding a chocolate bar from a two-year-old!”
NTA
NTA she did it intentionally, she’s toxic and is trying to blame you for a grown ass woman eating something she knew and was repeated warned contained something she knew she shouldn’t eat
NTA, she’s a liability
NTA mother in law reminds me of my mom’s old dog who insisted on eating poisonous chocolate. The dog was fine for the record.
NTA. Your MIL is childishly stupid.
NTA. As someone who can’t have cinnamon myself, she made her choice. It’s always very tempting when it’s around, but that’s not on you. She knew what would happen.
NTA. But now you know what to get your MIL for her birthday, holidays etc…
Is MIL one of those people who cannot admit to being wrong ever? Or is this weird from her? Either way NTA
Nta. Absolutely absurd. She CHOSE TO EAT IT. Even after she was warned. Unless she has one of those allergies that are airborne triggered or you weren’t careful. But she isn’t & you were. She is absolutely 100% to blame. It’s ridiculous to claim otherwise. It’s almost like she did it on purpose to make you look bad. My husband would put an end to the bs & call her on her stupidity. Then tell her if she keeps it up- we won’t be back. What your mil is doing is really that bad. It goes beyond accountability. She literally tried to force an allergic reaction— intentionally. Then blame you for POISONING HER?! that’s beyond slander. She’s literally accusing you of trying to harm her. And now has other people claiming it too
NTA – your MIL ate it for the attention. She is jealous of the attention you got or get for making the bread. She decided to move the narrative to attention on herself while giving negative attention to you. She wanted people to think negatively of you. It was deliberate.
So, you were supposed to avoid making it because a grown ass adult couldn’t make a proper decision for herself???
She’s sounds like a real dumb dumb with zero impulse control.
NTA, hope your sister in law enjoys that bread.
NTA. That’s like spending my money foolishly and then blaming my boss for paying me.
YTA
NTA
> MIL cut herself a slice of the cinnamon bread saying she wanted to taste it. All of us said she really shouldn’t since she’s allergic to cinnamon
This is some own-worst-enemy nonsense.
> I gave her horrible diarrhea
That doesn’t sound like a capital-a allergy. Could she just be intolerant?
And that is the VERY LAST time your MIL will get any baked good from you! Problem solved. What an immature witch. NTA
NTA. If you ever have a child that has an allergy don’t allow her to babysit because not only is she not responsible enough to handle her own allergies let alone someone else’s but refuses to take accountability for her own actions.
NTA, you did everything correctly. You told her it had cinnamon and it was her decision to eat 2 slices.
She knows her allergy and thinking she can cut the bits that contain it and ear the rest is on her, not you.
Make sure they know that. You are not responsible
NTA! She knew that the bread had cinnamon, and chose to eat it anyway. She is a grown woman with presumably an able mind, not a child or a puppy. The consequences are 100% on her.
In the future though, don’t make anything with cinnamon for your SIL if it might get out in the same vicinity as MIL. She’ll seek it out to make you look bad. It’s not worth the frustration.
NTa
“You were told not to eat the bread because you were allergic; you have no one to blame but yourself. This is the last comment that will be made about this topic. if you wish to continue, go talk to a wall, it will be the same response.”
NTA but your MIL and hubby’s Grandma are idiots. Nobody forced MIL to eat the cinnamon bread, you even told her not t eat it and she still ate it. She did it to herself.
NTA
MIL knew she was allergic to the ingredient. Multiple people told her it not to eat it because it has an ingredient she is allergic to. MIL still eats not one, but 2 separate slices since the first didn’t cause her windpipe to close.
Unless someone or some thing was shoving cinnabread down her throat you forgot to mention, MIL should use her quality time on the porcelain throne thinking about the consequences of her actions.
Hubs can eat wonderbread for a month for not telling his mother to STFU and get some Dudewipes.
Oh no…. The consequences of my actions… NTA