I48f have 3 kids, only one is still currently living at home, my 17 year old daughter, my youngest. She’s currently 14 weeks pregnant. Before I hear judgement on that, she wasn’t living with me when she got pregnant. When she moved back in with me, she didn’t tell me right away either..
My daughter has two small dachshunds. She’s been trying to get out of walking them, but I told her they were her responsibilities and a baby would be much harder then two dogs. I made her walk them.
She was mad at me for it we got into an argument. My husband and my mother ended up finding out and they were mad, they said it was too hot for a pregnant women to be out walking the dogs. She doesn’t have to take them very far just up and down the street. They called me an ah and said I had 3 children so I should understand. I said I still had to tend to my responsibilities while being pregnant. They basically coddled my daughter and told me I wasn’t thinking of the bigger picture. My husband and I got into a huge argument about this, and our daughter and him ended up leaving that night and getting a hotel. AITA?
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I48f have 3 kids, only one is still currently living at home, my 17 year old daughter, my youngest. She’s currently 14 weeks pregnant. Before I hear judgement on that, she wasn’t living with me when she got pregnant. When she moved back in with me, she didn’t tell me right away either..
My daughter has two small dachshunds. She’s been trying to get out of walking them, but I told her they were her responsibilities and a baby would be much harder then two dogs. I made her walk them.
She was mad at me for it we got into an argument. My husband and my mother ended up finding out and they were mad, they said it was too hot for a pregnant women to be out walking the dogs. She doesn’t have to take them very far just up and down the street. They called me an ah and said I had 3 children so I should understand. I said I still had to tend to my responsibilities while being pregnant. They basically coddled my daughter and told me I wasn’t thinking of the bigger picture. My husband and I got into a huge argument about this, and our daughter and him ended up leaving that night and getting a hotel. AITA?
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INFO: How hot was it?
NTA at all. If she can’t handle walking the dogs, something any pregnant woman (without an underlying condition) should be able to do, then she can’t handle a damn baby. If she can’t be pregnant AND walk her dogs, then she needs to rehome them out sounds
NTA. I have a dauchshund, they dont like being out in the heat for long. They just need a short walk so they do their business and back inside. Your daughter will survive walking her dogs. I am currently 28 weeks pregnant and just walk my dog in the backyard, but still gotta do it.
NTA. Unless she has morning sickness or a medical condition that requires rest, exercise would be good for her.
INFO: how far along is she and how hot was it outside?
NTA – unless her doctor has given her instructions not to, most women are able to and I think are encouraged to maintain pretty normal routines. This isn’t extreme heavy lifting, an IronMan or summiting Kilimanjaro. She probably might even be recommended to walk/exercise…
YTA She’s 17, pregnant, and clearly overwhelmed, and instead of supporting her you’re treating her pregnancy like it’s no big deal. Pregnancy isn’t the same for everyone, and even at 14 weeks she could be exhausted, nauseous, dizzy, or overheated really quickly especially in hot weather. You say you handled responsibilities while pregnant, but that doesn’t mean her body will respond the same way yours did. Forcing her out there to walk dogs when she told you she didn’t feel up to it isn’t teaching responsibility, it’s dismissing her very real needs and putting her health and the baby’s health at risk.
NTA
Unless there is some condition that her doctor has said should prevent her from walking dogs like bed rest, she should be getting some exercise.
NTA No point in sugarcoating it, parenthood changes everything. Making your 17 year old daughter responsible for her responsibilities is not unkind. She’s going to be a mother in 6 months, and babies are an all day, every day commitment. Her life is about to change, pretending it won’t doesn’t help.
NTA – please, weenie dogs need like a 10 min walk, she can do it & barring any preg issues, she SHOULD do it – for the exercise & the responsibility.
Oh and don’t forget the poop bags!
Nip this ‘delicate pregnant flower’ behaviour now or she will become insufferable
Possibly, how hot was it?
NTA. Her dogs, her responsibility. She is lucky to have a place for both herself and her dogs to live.
NTA. The dogs are her responsibility. If she thinks it is hard walking them while pregnant, wait until she has to walk them with a newborn. Put your foot down about the dogs and the future baby. Also, exercise is encouraged for pregnant women. It is good for them and baby.
NTA. She’s pregnant, not an invalid. And she’s only 14 weeks along, walking two small dogs (which are hers) is not a huge task.
NTA. If this is too much for her, she is in for a very rude awakening. She better strat getting used to it if she truly intends to keep this baby.
NTA-Because she got pregnant she gets to take 9 months off? Walking is good for her. I know people that have ridden horses and very active till they gave birth.
No. Her animals are responsibility.
NTA.
Unless she has a medical reason not to, I am unsure of why she cannot walk them for a few minutes. You mentioned it was 80 degrees out. She could have staggered the walks if it was hard on her.
And this is coming from someone who was pregnant in FL in the summer, and walked and played with my 2 dogs (Aussies) outside my entire pregnancy. While I know everyone handles pregnancy differently, there are things such as staggering walks if a short walk in the heat is bothersome or difficult. Or she could look into hiring someone to assist in walking her animals, or ask if you all would be willing to do it for pay.
But it sounds as though there is more here, and this was just something trivial. Do you not approve of this pregnancy? And if that’s the case, does she know you potentially do not approve of it?
YTA. Your experience while pregnant and what you did and didn’t do is not relevant. You still had to tend to responsibilities, doesn’t mean she has to just because you did. If it’s hot out she shouldn’t be out in it, bottom line. She could be feeling nauseous or tired or any other symptoms. Not only that but dachshund don’t need to be outside in the heat and they can get their exercise in the back garden or inside.
She needs your support, not you telling her “a child is more difficult”. She’s aware of that, the ship for talking about negatives and harsh truths have sailed, it’s time for love and support. Although going off the vibe of your post, you seem to be more difficult to deal with right now than a child anyway and I understand why they stayed somewhere else. She doesn’t need the stress or the negative energy you’re giving. You say you don’t want judgement on her getting pregnant while not in your house, but you’re obviously judging her.
NTA. 14 weeks is hardly anything and unless she is on bed rest from her doctor/high risk, she should be fully capable of walking dogs, even in the heat. Drink plenty of water and keep the walk short and early or late to avoid peak heat when the ground is too hot for fog paws.
Most working women end up still needing to work until around 36 weeks, even those not lucky to have a cushy office job.
If she cannot handle dogs at this point, she is in for a rude awakening with a baby.
Frankly, how your treating her is gonna make this worse. Being pregnant at 17 is not a flex. And you “have to tend to your responsibilitys” to her is almost at her level of petty almost. Motherhood is hard, and you do have to tend to them. But you have handle them with grace and maybe no one is nice to you then and now, doesn’t mean she needs to experience motherhood the same way you have, because clearly you’re not happy, your daughter wasn’t living with you sounds like your responsibility but you weren’t there soo…..
This sounds like kinda petty and sad.
She needs to walk her dogs but hearing it from you probably not that solid. Probably why you’re so mad because she reminds you of you.
NTA if it’s not an at risk pregnancy.
NTA. Her dogs her responsibility,
Info: how hot was it?
NTA. Unless it was a million degrees outside, she’ll be okay.
What else is she doing to help out the family? If she can’t walk the dogs, maybe volunteer at a free contraceptive clinic?
NTA. Tell your husband if he wants to coddle her than he can do all the responsibilities she shirks. Maybe then he’d see it your way
No. At 14 weeks the baby is little more than a grain of rice.
How hot was it? Is she experiencing any severe pregnancy symptoms like a lot of morning sickness? You want to make sure she is staying hydrated.
If she’s not high risk and she doesn’t have any difficulties doing activities, and it’s not 100° outside, she should be fine to walk her dogs. They’re her responsibility.
I’m really confused about why you started this post off by saying she wasn’t living with you when she got pregnant lol She’s still your kid and should have been educated thoroughly to practice safe sex. Yes, teenagers are going to be teenagers, but they’re a little less stupid when properly educated and have a comfortable space to be open and honest about those topics. The fact that she hid it from you is kind of telling. Just saying.
Don’t coddle her. Don’t set a precedent She’ll be using pregnancy/baby duties for the next 18 years as an excuse for you to take on her responsibilities. I know from experience.
NTA….I’m sorry. What? I was 30…..violently ill. Not quite HG, but dang near close. I worked a full time job & was in school part time. She. Is. Fine. Better tell her to go ahead & get used to it. Sounds like grandma is going to have her hands full 🫠 being a mom is the HARDEST thing I’ve ever done. I’ve gone to college full time & worked 2 part times jobs. I’ve also worked 2 full time jobs. I’ve also worked 50hrs a week & did 230hrs of online masters degree WHILE pregnant. I’m all for caring for pregnant women. I am. But walking her dogs? At 14 weeks? Nope nope NOPE! Maybe at 40 weeks 😅Time to toughen up sweetheart….
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I, at 36, over 350 lbs and in the 3rd trimester a couple months ago in June/July when it was 90s-100, was still taking my prescribed 20 minute walk. It was more of a galumphing waddle but still. Your daughter is fine UNLESS she has something she hasn’t told you making her high risk. NTA
Absolutely NOT the AH and DO NOT back down on this!
I am 35f, I moved out when I was 15 years old, and had my first child, my son, at 17 years old. He turns 18 in 2 weeks. I also have 14m, 11f and my surprise baby, 3 year old son. So I have literally been there . My son was born in September (obviously) and so I was heavily, heavily pregnant during the hottest time of the year, I still went to college every day, I still had to walk my dog, had to go shopping, decorate our new house, I had ZERO help. And I was also suffering with constant sickness, I forget the word it’s called now but it was horrendous sickness all day, all night, throughout my whole pregnancy. I lost 2 stone while pregnant.
Your daughter is acting entitled and treating pregnancy like it’s an illness. It’s not. She’s seen too many movies where everyone waits on the pregnant woman, going out at 3am for her favourite Ice Cream, putting pillows under their feet and basically pampering them. She needs to realise that those are movies, not the real world. Send her this post so she can see herself, she’s gonna be hit with a MASSIVE taste of reality when that baby arrives and if she can’t even handle walking two dogs for 10 minutes, how the hell does she expect to handle a baby (although I already have a feeling she’s expecting all of that to fall on you)
Your husband is a MASSIVE AH, you should send him this post too so he can see the comments. He’s enabling her shitty, entitled behaviour, to the point of actually physically leaving the house for the night. Well I can certainly see where she gets her entitlement from.
If I were you, I would be the one leaving the house, go get yourself a nice little cheap place, see how your husband likes it when he’s the one being forced to walk the dogs and do everything else she can’t be arsed to do. When the baby arrives and suddenly he’s the one expected to parent the baby by himself. I have a feeling his attitude would quickly change.
Honestly, I’d do that. I’d be so ashamed if any of my kids acted this way, and I know my partner would absolutely have my back the whole way through and support me.
NTA, but seriously, time to really think about making some serious decisions.
Make your daughter get her own place. She is causing problems in the household. Half the world’s population gets pregnant at one time or another and the world doesn’t stop. The dogs are her responsibility and she should walk them. The exercise is good for her also while she’s pregnant. If she can’t get with the program and take care of business then she shouldn’t be having a kid. She’s an asshole and do is your husband. You have another 18 years of child-rearing to look forward to given your daughter’s attitude: let someone else clean up my mess.
Nah I was electively dog sitting up until week ~20 even with severe nausea. 25 minute walks, 2-3x/day, 85-95 degree weather. You do what you have to do. I understand she’s young but it’s time to grow up.
Pregnancy isn’t an illness. It’s fine providing she isn’t at risk and it’s not too hot.
So what happens when she is tired and doesn’t feel like taking care of her baby? Buttercup is going to need to suck it up.
INFO: Why was she moved away before 18? Why did she say she wanted to move back in if it wasnt for the pregnancy?
Where’s baby dad? Why isnt husband walking the dogs if he thinks its so unacceptable? If he can pitch in for a hotel to storm off, he can also pay a dog walker. What does pregnant daughter do all day if shes not walking the dogs? Are they expecting her to be fanned with grapes handfed to her the entirety of her pregnancy? Pregnancy is a disablement, yes, but doesnt make you bolt onto a bed, unmoving, expecting WALL-E treatment.
IDK why everyone is trying to make this your problem, you didnt adopt the dogs and she moved in with the premise she would care for them, IDK why she thought that would change because shes pregnant. so IDK why people are thinking its up to you. NTA.
NTA. 12 weeks here and have been regularly going on 3 mile walks in 75-85 degree heat with my 4.5 lb dog as well as 12 mile bike rides once a week since just before we found out. also work a job where I’m on my feet 80% of the day and am in school full time. no excuses. life goes on and she won’t always have people around her that are willing to help.
When they left did they take the 2 dogs? If they didn’t, I’d let them know that within a certain amount of time, the dogs may be surrendered. NTA. The dogs, just like her pregnancy, are her responsibility. If it’s too hot, she needs to paper train them for the indoors. Your mother can also take the dogs if she feels it’s too much for a 17 year old. This will be your future after the baby is born. The baby will be too much for her to take care of.
Nta
Nope, she is able to continue daily life even while being pregnant.
NTA – She’s going to have a much bigger responsibility when the baby gets here so if she can’t take of the dogs now she may want to rehome them sooner than later.
Pregnancy is not a disability and seems like she’s trying to take advantage of the situation.
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No. You’re not. She is adult enough to do what got her pregnant, she can take care of HER dogs. Like you said, a baby will be a lot more responsibility
She should be walking , stay active to have a healthy pregnancy
She won’t walk her dogs, what makes you think she won’t just pawn her baby off on you? She needs a very serious discussion about what exactly is going to happen in 9 months…
NTA. I vomited on many blocks walking my dogs while pregnant. Pregnancy is hard! But still life responsibilities continue.
NTA. If, at only 14 weeks pregnant, she is unable to care for her dogs, then they should be rehomed.
NTA and kudos to you for not backing down. If you don’t nip this in the bud, your daughter will be dropping as much responsibility off on you that she can.
NTA you’re right and if it’s too hot then maybe she should get uo earlier or go out later in the evening to walk them. Walking is great for pregnant women
NTA
NTA but your husband and daughter both are. Those dogs are going to be your responsibility unless you get something figured out
NTA. She may be the youngest and got away with being the baby of the family but now she gets to grow up fast and be a mom. Yes she’s pregnant but still has to handle her own responsibilities because there’s no magic fairy to come in and do the hard part of life for her. Yeah it’s hot, yeah she’s pregnant, but she’s young and you don’t mention any reason to think she’d be high risk so she’ll be fine. Plenty of people live in hot places without ac in ever building, even when pregnant.. she’ll be fine
NTA
I was a full-time waitress while pregnant, up until a couple days before my son was born. It was hellish at the time, but it kept my strength up and my weight in a healthy, appropriate range. I bounced back to my pre-pregnancy size almost immediately.
Not only will she be okay, physical activity is actually really good for her as long as she’s been cleared by her doctor. Now is a good time for her to start learning how to manage responsibilities.
>Before I hear judgement on that, she wasn’t living with me when she got pregnant.
You failed if your 17 year old gets pregnant, period.
NTA for the dogs.
YTA
NTA. Her pets, her responsibility. She’s pregnant, not disabled.
Husband can walk them if he feels strongly about it.
She’s 17, pregnant, probably scared out of her mind, and you’re focused on dog walks. That’s not the battle to pick right now. YTA
NTA. If your daughter objects to walking 2 small dogs a short distance, she’s going to find caring for a baby is hell. Good for you for not coddling her!
NTA being pregnant is absolutely 0 excuse
NTA.
If her health is an issue, schedule a doctor’s appointment and ask them point blank if she’s fit to walk dogs once per day.
If it’s genuinely unsafe for her to do so then yes, that would make you the AH otherwise everyone is coddling your daughter for no real reason.
I’m going with ESH. The level of entitlement to expect catering just because you got fucked like every other mother ever is a result of her upbringing, and she’s pushing it.
Time to mother it up and lay down reality. Ittybitty gets the titty even if doggo whimpers or makes a mess and it’s up to the Itty bitty titty committee to fend for her pets and children.
The temp was 80 degrees and she is 14 weeks. This woman needs to be more active than just walking the dog 2 x day. She needs to be actively exercising more than this at 15?weeks pregnant.
NTA. She’s 14 weeks! She’s barely pregnant and probably isn’t even showing yet. Exercise is good in pregnancy, especially so early on. It’s not like she’s hauling cement blocks or something like that.
Stick to it.
NTA, she NEEDS to walk. Tell your husband he isn’t going to be able to give birth for her. What you are doing is trying to encourage her to strengthen all the muscles she’s going to use to give birth and carry around a newborn / toddler for the next few years.
NTA these codlers will be excepting OP to pick up the slack when the baby’s born.
She’s illustrating the fact that she’s still a child and shouldn’t have gotten dogs in the first place. Of course she should not have gotten pregnant either. She wants to be parented and yet she’s about to be a parent. You’re probs anxious about all the work ahead of you as a result of her irresponsible behaviour regarding dogs and now a child. You and your husband should enter therapy to talk about how you are both going to handle this. Your daughter is getting between you and that’s not good. You should be a united front.
NTA. Tell Princess she either walks the dogs or you will rehome them. She’s barely over three months pregnant. She’s not an invalid who is dying in hospice. Pregnancy isn’t a disability that gets you out of the shit you don’t wanna do. She’s playing you.
“You’re not thinking of the big picture” you sure are, but they don’t!! What is going to happen once the baby is born? Is she expecting “the village” (you) to take care of it?? Or will your husband and your mother are planning on taking time off the next 20 years of their life to raise your daughter and her child? Ask them who took care of everything and everyone for the last 17 years because, yeah, YOU had 3 children so YOU know exactly what you are talking about! (And your mom should know better!)
NTA
NTA. She has responsibilities, she has to find a way to go with her dogs. 6am is not that hot, rather cool, as well as 9 pm.
NTA, she needs to take care of her responsibilities. Since your husband and MiL feel so strongly about it, it sounds like they’ll be walking the dogs going forward, but I’m worried about the long term implications of letting your daughter out of doing things she doesn’t want to do. Life is going to be VERY hard if she doesn’t build some resilience.
Did she take her dogs to the hotel with her, or did she leave them for you to deal with?
Edit to add my verdict
were you also 14? That’s a lot on a first trimester body
NTA, I’d tell your H and Mom that she needs to start figuring out things now, because if she can’t figure out how to take care of two dachshunds now, they will be taking care of her baby. Babies are much harder than figuring out daily walks for two dachshunds.
I think ESH. Everyone saying to make her move out, she isn’t even 18 yet. How did she not live with you when she got pregnant? It sounds like this goes a lot deeper than just not walking the dogs.
14 weeks and can’t walk 2 small dogs? Good grief. You are trying to slap that kid with some hard realities. A child will be 100 times harder. You are the only non ahole in this whole thing. Stay strong! And keep steady with being the realistic one! You are in my thoughts.
NTA – if a pregnant girl can’t walk a dog then how am i, pregnant, also taking care of a toddler? good grief
Nta.
The dogs are small and won’t be able to pull her down and harm her. She’s also BARELY pregnant- no where near where she’d be huffing and puffing and even then the doctor tells you exercise is good for you regardless if you’re pregnant or not. I wouldn’t let her out of the little responsibility she does have. She’s gonna be on a wild ride when she realizes how much more you have to do for a baby than a dog. A short walk will not hurt her. I worked at a daycare tending to kids when I was 23 (3 years ago almost) until I was 9 months pregnant and then went right from my job to the hospital to be induced. All be it- I did end up with high blood pressure but I think that’s just cause I’m not healthy and bad genetics. She’ll seriously be ok.
i’m 13 weeks pregnant so i feel like i can chime in appropriately. a dog walker is more appropriate or rehome the dogs. it depends on her symptoms too. but pregnant women can get overheated from being outside too long if it’s too hot, not to mention fatigue, nausea, dizziness, the heat flashes etc. unless you ask you can’t assume she’s ok to walk them. i’ve only been on 2 walks while pregnant and they both drained me. not everyone has an easy pregnancy. it is very much debilitating for a lot of women. find a solution that works for her and your family. YTA.
all the comments from people who have never been pregnant is very telling too.
They’re dachshunds, what is it a block they walk? I walked my friends shepherds when she was pregnant cause that motherfucker needed like a 2 hour walk 2x a day (I took morning and her husband had nights). NTA
Also it’s not like they’re going to be pulling that hard, they’re wiener dogs! She’s going to be in charge of a whole human soon, if she can’t handle this wait until the first night at home with baby! Are they going to call and harassing you for not taking care of the baby for her?
YTA you’re the one who raised her. Look in the mirror. Why was she moved out before being an adult?there’s is definitely more to the story.
NTA, and she will just try to foist all parenting on you. Better get a plan now and manage expectations.
Ha. I tiled my whole house at 7 months pregnant. She can handle walking a couple of potato dogs.
NTA, at all.
I think it depends heavily on how she is handling the pregnancy. My “morning” sickness was so bad I could barely walk myself without getting sick. Let alone two dogs.
If she is having bad symptoms right now, it would probably be great if you, or someone else could help her out for a while.
Otherwise, the exercise and fresh air would do her some good.
14 weeks pregnant, nah you’re good man
As a husband of a wife in her first-1st-trimester, who currently can’t walk upstairs without feeling dizzy and sick, I sympathise.
Although 13 weeks-onwards should be getting back to normality. And walking (dog walking) is the ideal activity!
NTA. I was your daughter’s age when I was pregnant and was a full time high school student while working 20-30 hours a week at a fast food joint, working and going to school the day before I went into labour.
Barring any issues with your daughter and the pregnancy, it’s good to keep moving, especially a low impact exercise like walking. There’a so many benefits for regular physical activity during pregnancy.
NTA.
The world isn’t going to stop turning for the next 18 years and 6 months because she made a bad choice
Is being pregnant a disability now???
I feel like information is missing here. Does she have preexisting conditions that could potentially be harmful? Has she been to a doctor and talked to them about her pregnancy? How hot is it and how active are the dogs.
I’m currently pregnant myself and am almost bed ridden due to the smallest condition (low iron), it makes me very high risk. If you live in a humid area she shouldn’t be walking the dogs as much simply because from my own experience (assuming your experience as well) it’s not only uncomfortable but can be painful, especially when your heart rate is already trying to double itself and breathing is almost impossible.
Are the dogs very hyper? That could easily make her stumble and fall if she isn’t careful. And if she has spoken to the doctors what have they said.
This isn’t to say let her let go of all responsibilities – because obviously she’s old enough to get pregnant then shes old enough to keep her responsibilities – but maybe try to meet her in the middle? Maybe you could buy her a small portable fan to take with her, or even go with her on these walks?
NTA, may as well get her used to the real world now before you end up raising her baby and caring for her dogs. I don’t know of anyone, including myself, who was unable to do something as simple as walking small dogs during pregnancy.
NTA. Pregnancy is the easiest part, she’s in for a rude awakening if she can’t or won’t handle a short walk with the tiny dogs.
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Women who are pregnant are actually told to keep up with exercise such as walking. The temp wasn’t that hot (I converted to degrees Celsius and 26 is like beautiful weather here in Australia) and even if it was a walk around the block it would have been enough.
If they were big dogs like GSDs or Great Danes I’d be like that maybe would be too much but daschunds don’t even require a lot of walking in one hit as they get tired very quickly.
I think they are coddling her way too much
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No.
I hope they took the dogs, because they still need to be walked.
Your mother and your husband called you an asshole? That seems unnecessarily harsh. Neither would be welcome in my home again. Maybe your husband and daughter should go live with your absurdly uncivilized mother. Sounds like she volunteered.
The bigger picture is, your daughter is going to have a baby. If she can’t take care of her dogs she needs to rehome them. If she can’t take care of two small dogs, what is she going to do with a baby? Good thing she’ll be staying with her Dad and/or grandmother.
NTA! She is gonna find out babies are way harder than dogs! Needs to learn responsibility
Take her to the doctor and get their opinion. Unless she’s having some unusual issues at this point I would guess the Dr. will be on your side!
NTA you go mom
NTA. Tell your husband and your mother they are the #1 call for dog/babysitting now if they are so concerned they can deal with it
NTA. I walked my 60lb dogs and worked until the day I gave both. Pregnancy is not a disability. Obviously, the only caveat to this would be if she was on bed rest due to a high risk pregnancy which it doesn’t sound like she is. Time for her to put on her big girl pants and learn that life isn’t going to coddle her, and neither are you
NTA.
I worked full time while pregnant, until 3 days before delivery. And it was a lot easier working pregnant than it was working when breastfeeding a baby every 2 hours so not getting a decent night’s sleep. And I did that too.
She might as well get used to doing things under less than perfect conditions, since she has 18 years of those ahead of her.
Time to rehome the dogs. Not your responsibility. Or tell hubby to walk them.
NTA if she can’t walk the dog how the get rid of them.
Giving birth is like running a damn marathon she should start training now.
NTA. Along with what others have mentioned, she can walk the dogs at dawn and dusk like a lot of people to avoid the heat. If she complains about needing sleep she’s in for a rude awakening once that baby is born.
Nta. Someone could do it for her occasionally, just like they’d normally do if she caught a bad cold or hurt herself, but it’s her responsibility.
At 14 weeks she should be past that first trimester hormonally induced exhaustion & the worst of morning sickness and into the months when she’ll feel the best she will during pregnancy.
Obviously symptoms vary wildly, but generally the second trimester is easiest.
If she can’t handle the dogs now, she really needs to consider what she’ll do with them once she has a baby.
21 weeks pregnant and I walk our big dog around the neighborhood. It’s her responsibility and also walking is good for you even while pregnant