I (27F) was asked to be maid of honor in my longtime friend’s (27F) wedding before I got pregnant. At the time, I was excited and fully committed to doing everything that came with the role.
But after my son was born, everything changed. He ended up hospitalized with RSV and was put on a ventilator. Since then, he’s had ongoing medical complications. Around the same time, I was also diagnosed with a lifelong blood clotting disorder. It’s been an incredibly overwhelming year.
Back in January, I told the bride and her mom that I wouldn’t be able to attend the entire bachelorette trip due to the unpredictability of our situation. I said I could only come for one night. They told me that was fine.
Fast forward to the week of the bachelorette trip — my son started breathing strangely. We were in and out of the Doctors offices- pulmonologists, ent, pediatrician. His surgery was moved up and was scheduled for the exact same day as the party. I told the bride I couldn’t come, apologized, and still tried to be helpful with planning and emotional support. I even offered to take her on a trip of our own and pay.
I still paid my full portion of the bachelorette trip, even though I couldn’t go.
A few weeks earlier, I had also made and printed the bridal shower signs and invitations, and the day of the bachelorette drove 2.5 hours each way with my baby (because I had no childcare) to decorate the venue — completely alone. No one was sent to help me. I even called a few of the other bridesmaids to see if anyone could come, and later, the bride’s mom complained that I contacted them. This was on Thursday and his surgery was Friday. I also told them I’d try to come back that Saturday for the remainder of the party if the surgery went okay. (his surgery was Friday), but we ended up back in the ER again Saturday because he had complications.
After all of that, I found out they were complaining about the decorations, saying I should’ve done more, and acting like I hadn’t put in any effort. The bride told me I “just wanted the title and not the job.” And I was told “it’s not all butterflies and rainbows. It’s a freaking job and you could have at least owed me the decency to step down as MOH if you couldn’t handle it. All the other girls feel the same way.”
Then she kicked me out of the wedding party, and told me all the bridesmaids were mad at me. Just to add it was a diagnostic surgery to find out what is wrong with him and if he’s aspirating. She asked if I could give her a yes or no on her wedding next month and I said 1000% yes of course UNLESS something happens with my child. She also lives on the other side of the country and the wedding is too. She said that’s also the reason she made me not MOH.
I never wanted to miss anything. I didn’t back out because I was lazy or disinterested — I missed her party because I was holding my son’s hand before surgery. It really hurts that even that wasn’t enough to be met with empathy. We have been close friends for over 10 years, but nothing comes before my son. They have made me feel so bad that I’m starting to question if I actually did do something wrong here.
AITA for not going to the bachelorette party and “letting everyone down”?
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This is not your friend. Let her go and spend your energy on your family and friends who will be there for you
These are not your friends. They are disgusting, self involved, entitled pathetic excuses for humans. Please don’t ever subject yourself to them again! I’m so sorry your baby has been unwell. This internet stranger sends you prayers and best wishes for you and your baby. Sounds like more than your so called friends did. You don’t need AH monsters like them in your life, Sweetie.
It literally shows that these are not your friends leave them 😒
YTA for this fake story. What venue lets you put event decorations up 2+ weeks early?
Sounds like you don’t even need to mail a check as a gift when you respond “No” to the invitation
Agree. These are not your friends. Ask for your money back, drop all of them, and priorize your child. You are NTA, but they are. Best wishes for your child’s surgery and recovery.
You didn’t let anyone down. You were dealing with a baby with very serious health issues and still made the time to go and decorate for a party you couldn’t even attend. You’re going to find once you have kids you learn who your real friends are and she’s not it.
This beyotch is not your friend. She’s a hideous person. I’d never contact her again.
I’m keeping such a good thought for you and your baby.
NTA.
They are not friends. They have no morals or compassion. Of course you held your childs hand. They sound like horrible people
This person isn’t your friend. Your baby is literally in and out of the hospital and she wants your focus on her. She is disgusting.
End the friendship. Don’t go to the wedding. Focus on your child.
NTA
This person wouldn’t support you in a literal life or death situation. She is a terrible friend, an absolute garbage friend. Your child may have died and they were complaining about decorations? They sound like the least self aware assholes of all time.
She is trash.
Her wedding party is trash.
They all let you down, and they can’t see it because they’re trash.
You are not only NTA, you are righteous here. Any terrible thing you say to her to make her feel bad as a follow up to ruin her wedding is fair game.
Not one of these witches is your friend. I bet there’s a nice support group at your son’s hospital for parents just like you and your husband, and I urge you to inquire. Time for new friends, preferably parents.
You’ll only be the asshole if you let this person remain in your life. I am so sorry for all of your troubles this year. This person is not a friend and her mom sounds like trash as well. If this is her true self, she’ll end up divorced soon enough. Run far away from this “friendship” and don’t look back.
YTA not because your child is sick and not because you didn’t go to the bachelorette but if you knew your child was in the hospital early on you should have communicated that you wish to not participate and couldn’t fulfill the duties and could help if you had the time and that your son comes first. A wedding is important to most people not that of course your child is not but you should’ve bowed out of the responsibility so YTA for that.
NTA in the terms of choosing your son over an event
NTA, but I don’t think you need further validation nor do I understand why you’re asking something so obvious
Wait, the choice was caring for your very sick child or getting drunk with the girls and the bride things you chose wrong? Damn I hope the groom hears about this so he knows what he is marrying while he still has time to run.
This is not your friend and one day you’ll be glad you didn’t waste anymore time on her. It’s time to make some more meaningful friendships with better people.
You are NTA and these are not your friends.
NTA – there is no comparison, you did the right thing
So decorations sat in a venue for two weeks??
Omfg your friend is an AH. Your baby is so much more important than her wedding. She needs to get the fuck over herself.
This is not a friend, let her go and all of them actually and focus on your son.
NTA missing a party is the least of your worries. Sorry dudes , have fun , I have things to attend to.
See you at the wedding
Fuck all of them. If she couldn’t be there for you then you shouldn’t care about being there for her. Block all of them. You shouldn’t even have to explain yourself.
Horrifying! Get this people: stop acting as the wedding coordinator and spending a lot of money!!!! MOH usually throws one shower but doesn’t pay for everything. Ridiculous. And then for her and her flying monkeys to act entitled to more, not help, and have no compassion. What assholes!
NTA But those people are NOT your friends, so you may be naive. Don’t ever allow people to treat you like that again. You did above & beyond what decent people might hope.
It seems impossible that this is a real story.
NTA. But the bride is. Those aren’t your friends.
You need new friends, not validation from Reddit. NTA
This shouldn’t even be a question. NTA. She is no friend of yours and frankly you’re better off without her.
These people are horrible. The bride needs to get real and show some empathy for a mother with a sick child.
NTA. Your EX friend is a horrible person.
I hope your baby is doing better now.
Yeah, you sound like a colossal jerk, prioritizing your sick child over (most of) a bachelorette party. Maybe you should take your kid somewhere fun instead of going to the wedding since you looooove him so much more than your friend who just kicked you out of the wedding party.
Your friend didn’t care that your child is sick and had surgery. She should have supported you. Sick child trumps wedding activities.
Any friend that thinks anything to do with her would come before your child is not your friend. NTA. You need new friends who will support you.
She is not your friend. Period. Do not let this stress you out more. Focus and your son. That’s all that matters.
NTA – I seriously can’t believe people this self centered actually exist. As others have said – these are not your friends.
Friend would have been in contact to see how your son was doing, they would have been there to help with the decoration and they certainly wouldn’t have been complaining the day after your son’s surgery.
If I were you, I wouldn’t be attending the wedding. Good luck to her groom – because I know a lot of brides go a bit bridezilla but this is by far the most shitty example of entitled ‘the world revolves around me’ delusion I’ve ever heard of!
Hope you and your boy are doing well and hope your ‘friend’ has the day she deserves.
Ummmm can I cuss on here …. because F@&k that … block them all. Your baby comes first PERIOD.
This is Not your friend. A friend would have supported you and been there for you. This could have been your CHILD’s LIFE. Lose this selfish “friend”. She only cares about herself and has zero concern for you.
A friend would’ve held your hand as you were holding your sons’. A friend would’ve been beside herself understanding what you were going through. This girl is not your friend
NTA
You need new friends. She’s foul. Children come first. It’s disgusting that she has such little compassion for a baby!!!
What a colossal, unfeeling, selfish bi***. You had a sick infant having surgery and all she can think about is her stupid party? This is not a good person and you’re better off being out of this wedding. It couldn’t help but get 1000 times worse with her attitude. What the hell is wrong with people like her? NTA.
Please don’t be upset. Be relieved. They are not your friends. They are selfish, self centred people who deserve each other. And you deserve friends who will move heaven and earth to make sure you and your baby are OK.
Your kids come first!!! NTA but your friend is. Kick her to the curb. What horrible self centered people they are. These are not the kind of people you want in your life.
Good riddance to the lot of them.
Girllll!!! Your baby comes first! They don’t sound like very good friends. You did the right thing by putting your baby first and if things work out that baby will be your lifelong friend without question. That person doesn’t deserve you!
OH MY GOD. NTA. With friends like that, you don’t need enemies. I hope that your son is doing better. Please let the trash take itself out of your life. Focus on you and your son.
😂😂😂 I love this because later she’ll apologize
NTA
Don’t dwell on that situation it’s messed up but you see that those people aren’t your friends.
Seriously? No.
NTA, and these people are in no way your friends They’re barely human, either. They should have been rallying around you to help you when you had a seriously sick infant, instead of engaging in petty backstabbing.
NTA at all. Your son comes first, ALWAYS. Anyone who doesn’t understand that isn’t your friend. You don’t deserve to be given a hard time about this, you’re going through enough
I’m almost an ESH because as soon as you knew you were pregnant you could have dropped out of the wedding party, and as soon as you knew your kid was going to be medically complicated you SHOULD have dropped out, but your friend and the other bridesmaids are the absolute worst and are not worth your time. Drop them like the hot messes they are. I’ll call this an NTA on account of the fact you have never been the Mom of a kid with challenges before, so you had an unrealistic idea of how much you should commit to, but you should take the lesson and take more care in the future. Your kid is going to require so much of you, you’re going to have to give ALL of the rest of you to your husband if you want to keep the marriage. The divorce rates for the parents of sick children are sobering.
Times like these are like an acid test for friendship and this bride and her crew failed it. Cut them off.
And this is when you block her and everyone involved nd never talk to them again.
NTA
Hope your baby is ok💗
NTA. Your “friend” sucks. A job?? Then she should’ve been paying you. Your child is way more important than her bullshit. No contact. Bye!!
Ask for your money back and never speak to her again.
NTA. She was using you for what you could do for her, not acting like a friend at all. None of them are friends. They don’t deserve you, so do yourself a favor and block every single one of them.
WOOOOOOOOWWW.
You are NTA. So NTA. You’re going through hell and she can’t bother to appreciate how you’ve shown up for her? No. Forget her. This is not a friend.
NTA
But you should have officially bowed out due to your son’s medical issues. That way, you could focus on him and not be stressed out by some other person’s bs.
Your “friend” is a heinous, selfish cunt and you’re better off without her. I PROMISE you she’s lied to the rest of the bridal party about why you’re not there. NTA. Innocently tell everyone why she kicked you out of the bridal party and watch them dump her shallow, selfish bitch ass.
NTA. You’re well rid of that self-centred cow.
What even is this?! I’m so sorry that you have friends like this, good gravy. I kinda hope this is fake, since I’d rather not believe that there are people as awful as this so-called friend in the world
She would have got such a mouthful from me!!
NTA. She’s not your friend, and I have to wonder if she spun a tale to the other bridesmaids to make you look bad. Sorry, but you’re better off without a toxic person in your life.
NTA – some people are just shitty people and the bride is one of those.
NTA. And she’s not a friend. Just let this friendship go.
NTA! This is real life with real life problems. You are not in Jr High anymore. Do any of them have children? Seems to me they don’t and will NEVER understand what it takes to be a mom until it happens to them. Honestly, in my opinion, you went above and beyond to be as helpful as you could. These people are not your friends and lack any emotional empathy or sympathy towards you and your baby. Drop them and make actual friends. You no longer serve their purpose and it shows. When people show you who they truly are, believe them. It’s over and it’s a good thing. Because you don’t want these insensitive asshats around you or your baby. When you were down, they kicked you out. Now, get back up and tell them to fuck off. You don’t need this bs in your life while raising your little one.
You are the best mama ever. Wait until she has a baby. She will apologize. Just ef those people.
Factor V Leiden? APS? I have tri-positive APS (unicorn among zebras; I was diagnosed from an idiopathic DVT to PE instead of through pregnancy complications.) I suppose the up side is warfarin’s cheap.
And, oh, NTA. So NTA. YOUR BABY WAS HAVING SURGERY. YOUR LITERAL BABY. YOUR CHILD. WAS IN SURGERY. What kind of soulless monster thinks following all the steps the bridal-industrial complex is trying to dump on wedding parties for ‘bachelorette trips’ and expensive parties should take priority over a mother being with her child being in the hospital?
This is not a friend. She’s a self-absorbed bridezilla. Ignore her completely and maybe once the wedding fever wears off she’ll have the self-awareness to realize what a horrible person she was, and you can decide whether or not to accept her apologize.
Op I’m sorry y’all’s alliance has gotten tested like this. Party < RSV. I worked in pediatric hospital, and have ( thankfully rarely ) seen young parents bounce when their critically ill kids need them, and it can get messy. On behalf of your little one, I thank you for making the normal choices and advocating for little’s recovery. I’m also sorry about your getting caught in the crossfire of that bride breaking down. With some time, you won’t miss that nonsense at all.
Tell her that you genuinely wished you had stepped down sooner. Then ghost her.
Read the title..that’s it ! Absolutely NTA
A friendship is two ways. You aren’t a friend to them, just a dogs body who does all the jobs. If you were a friend they’d have said “oh shit! We will move the date, and instead let us drop meals to you this week while you are so overwhelmed”. Not ask you to come and decorate alone with a very sick child hours away so they could party without you.
I would do a flounce post. “I am so sorry I cannot be your MOH for your wedding, I have literally driven my very sick child FIVE HOURS to decorate for YOUR PARTY which I cannot attend due to said child requiring surgery at that time… and all you do is BITCH ABOUT ME? Fuck this noise. Take your MOH title and insert it sideways up your arse! A true friend wouldn’t bitch about me they’d have supported me, or at the very least not expected me to drive five hour round trip to decorate alone your fucking party room and instead let me spend quality time with my dangerously ill child who is needing life saving care. Sideways mateys. All of you, double dip.”
(Edit to add: And this blast goes on your public social media, and is posted on theirs too. Bring the energy they feed you and channel it Dragon Ball Z style. I don’t normally advocate this at all, but these girls are serious mean girls and need to be outed.)
But yeah. That’s just my outrage.
It’s insane to me that anyone considers naming bridesmaids to be anything other than honoring your friends and wanting them to stand up at your wedding (wearing a certain dress, sure) – everything else is optional and voluntary
This craziness is not a how true friend acts. A true friend would not expect you to move from your son’s bedside. She is your “friend”, he is your literal flesh and blood. His health is a priority over everything else going on in life. A true friend would not turn into a Bridezilla and freeze you out. A true friend would door dash you food, even if they didn’t have the capacity to take time out to visit. They’d want updates on your son. They’d give a shit about you and not just the person they see in the mirror everyday. Seriously effed the hell up priorities. Your friend is not your friend. You deserve more than to be treated this way. I personally would have put a stop to you decorating my shower. I’d say absolutely effing not, I’ll have the other bridesmaids do it.
You didn’t owe her anything. And if one day she realises that she acted like a c___, and she actually apologises (which I sincerely doubt will ever happen), you should tell her to go to hell. Block her everywhere. Her and her flying monkeys. This is your SON we’re talking about here. Not some rando off the street you chose to prioritise over her. But at this point, I would prioritise a rando over her.
NTA. Not even a little bit. Those women are toxic. And I will never understand the mentality that being a bridesmaid or MOH is a job? It’s supposed to be a role of supporting a friend through the process of planning a wedding and getting married. It shouldn’t be a full time unpaid job with financial responsibilities. That’s absurd.
These fuckers are not your friends.
Message the groom and tell him given the upset caused by you not stepping down from your role as MOH you feel it’s best for you not to attend the wedding so not to cause any further upset. He can then see who he is marrying and you can look like the lovely, thoughtful person you are.
Then block those nasty bitches and enjoy not having them in your life.
That woman is not your friend, nor are any of the ones bashing you. Your child absolutely should come first in this scenario. A friend would have understood immediately. I get she is excited for her big day, but baby going into surgery is more important than a silly party. Surgery is scary. I would end the friendship. You are both clearly not on the same page. Let her be selfish and you go focus on your sweet baby. I hope he starts feeling better soon.
Let me get this straight. You’re going through Hell. Your baby’s health is at risk, you’re struggling, and you still put money and effort to make her bachelorette special, with NO help from the rest of the party (who should have helped set up, regardless of circumstance) and she has the nerve to act that way?
Let me tell you how a FRIEND would handle this. 1. Tell you to worry about your baby before any wedding prep. 2. Tell you that you should step down as MOH for your own good, not hers. This is way too much pressure. You could be a bridesmaid if you’re able. But being MoH isn’t about being the favorite friend, rather just the beat organizer. You likely didn’t step down of your own volition because you feared hurting her feelings. 4. Give you a hug and tell you that she’s there for you.
Did this lady even congratulate you when your baby was born? Sit with you when baby got the diagnosis? Even ask if you’re okay? This is not a friend.
You go focus on what should be your priority, you’re baby. Forget about these self-centered mean girls. And don’t be surprised if ditching them makes ACTUAL friends want to be around you more since they don’t have to deal with the drama. Sincerely a reformed people pleaser.
Nta. Not your friend. My “bff” from high school got mad at me cause I couldn’t attend her wedding. I wasn’t in the wedding party due to her mother’s dislike of me. Ok fine. But I was out of town for her wedding. My daughter was 5 on life support in another state. I wasn’t about to leave my baby for her wedding. She’s not my friend. Never really was. That was 22 years ago..
NTA for missing the party.
You are DEFINITELY the AH for driving your son 2.5 hours each way then decorating the venue the day before his surgery. He should NOT have been anywhere but at home and neither should you.
What hold does this woman have over you that would make you put your sick child in a car for 5 hours then have him sit around for a few more hours while you decorate her venue?
Don’t even get me started on your offer to go back the day after his surgery if it went ok.
You should be glad that these awful women have shown their true colours. Don’t ever offer to do anything for any of them again.
NTA. Your health and baby’s health is more important than wedding crap. A friend would understand.
If she’s so damned adamant that it’s a job, then she can PAY you for the WORK you did. I can tell you for a fact that if this had been me in your position calling my best friend, she would’ve left her own bachelorette party to be with me while my kid had surgery. She probably would’ve also smuggled the party liquor into the hospital waiting room and turned it into debauchery, but I digress. NTA. Find better friends. This person is not it.
Your sick son is your priority not some bridezilla. Tell her to fuck off and block her number and anyone who sides with her.
It’s actually NOT a job.
These entitled brides make me sick.
NTA. I would cut the bride out of your life after this. When you become a mom, your priority shifts. Take care of your son.
NTA she is not your friend, fuck them all. They should have taken over so that you could look after your sick baby and your own health problem. Sheesh! Baby, especially sick baby, comes first, and anyone who is too self-centered to understand that doesn’t need to be in your contacts.
NTA. Block those people everywhere and let them go straight to hell.
I hope both yours and your son’s health improves. Focus on your family.
That’s not a friend. I would even go as far as suing for the amount you put out for the wedding already.
Now you know. The person you thought was a friend is user and abuser.
I hope your son gets better soon.
NTA.
A child’s surgery supersedes any bachelor/bachelorette party. NTA.
Nta and they aren’t real friends. Your child’s life is more important
NTA but she is. This person is not your friend. You were exactly where you should have been, and she sounds like a spoiled brat. I’m sorry you’re dealing with mean girl drama when your baby was not well. You’re better off without these people.
I’m so sorry for your son’s health issues. I hope he is on his way to recovering. This woman is not a true friend. Block her and don’t associate with any of the other bridesmaids.
Are you even serious? This shouldn’t be a question at all
NTA. But a really public post about your situation will put them in their place. FB, Insta, anyone?
NTA. Those bitches are not your friends. If they were mature, or had any empathy at all, they would understand that your child comes first.
NTA.
I wonder what the bride said to the bridesmaids to turn them all against you, I reckon someone’s telling porkies.
Is there a group chat for this? If there’s a group chat of the bridal party I’d totally just drop a bomb in there.
“I am sorry that my son was critically ill and needed life saving surgery on the same day as your bachelorette party. Since you have all made your feelings about me and my contributions quite clear, and I have been removed from the MOH position – I am hereby rescinding my RSVP and changing it to “Regretfully Decline”. Enjoy the wedding while I care for my extremely ill child, thank you for your well wishes.”
And then leave. But I’m a petty bitch, and these girls are all toxic cunts.
NTA. I can’t go to my friends bachelor party or wedding due to the close proximity to my wife’s birth. My childhood friends understand. I’m sending a nice wedding gift.
NTA. This is not how a friend acts. Cut your losses and move on. Dodge any further bullets
You did the right thing.
She’s not a friend. She’s an ass.
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So your “friend” and he other bridesmaids wanted to take advantage of you, making you do ALL the work, and they are pissed you put your CHILD’S LIFE ahead of a party???? Did I get that right? NTA x10000000000
NTA. This was never your friend. Good riddance.
NTA, this person is definitely not your friend. If any of my bridesmaids had something similar happen, I would move heaven and earth to make sure they could take care of their family and would do whatever was necessary to support them. Yes, a wedding is a “once-in-a-lifetime” experience, but the health and well-being of my best friends and their family members are still more important.
NTA based on the title, I mean, you really even have to ask? You need to get new friends
Remember this: you that person was NOT your friend. A true friend would stick up for you.
This shouldn’t even be a question. Love that baby snd move on to better people.
No.
Not in any universe. Your baby always comes first.
Especially before a damn bachelorette party!
NTA
Someone who whines about you not abandoning your baby while he has surgery is not a good person. Your sick child takes priority over partying, and a real friend would understand that and be supportive.
You are very lucky to have learned now that they don’t care about you.
First and foremost I want to say I am sorry for everything that you’ve been going through and I hope things post surgery are improving for your baby. I can’t imagine the roller coaster of emotions that you and your family are going through. As far as your “friend” she seems to lack any sign of empathy and compassion and I don’t think she’s really a friend or decent person for that matter. You are obviously not the AH here and I can’t believe the audacity of her, her mother or the other bridesmaids if they were truly upset like the bride was claiming. It’s entirely up to you if you want to continue the friendship but it would not be a person that I would want around myself or my family in the future and I wouldn’t bother going to the wedding.
Ok first your baby is in n all of our thoughts. Second good riddance to them. They sound horrible.
If this is true then yes YTA for making a baby who was that sick ride in a car for 5 hours the day before surgery.
Focus on your child and your family, that wench and her cronies are not your friends. She is a user and selfish cunt. You have more important things to focus on. The trash took itself out. Block her and anyone else associated with her. Let her find someone else to use and abuse.
She is not your friend
Are people really as awful as this bride? You are NTA and you’re very lucky to have this bridezilla out of your life. I hope your son is ok.
Knowing your situation, a true friend would have dropped any ‘expectations’ of you. NTA. She’s not your friend. Time to cut ties.
Good riddins to all of those horrible people.
I would have said “I can’t be your maid of honor because of my child’s medical conditions, but I would love to still attend the wedding”.
No
If she can’t see why you being there for your child at the hospital is more important than a stupid bachelorette party then she has no business getting married.
I can’t even believe you are asking this? This is something you shouldn’t even need someone to reassure that you did the right thing. The only thing you could have done was step away from the wedding party when you and your son started having medical issues. But you aren’t use to juggling this yet and are probably still in the stage of I can do it all. You have an illness. You have a sick child. Focus on your own home and get rid of those not understanding to your situation.
You have a chronic illness. You have a sick child. As someone with many chronic conditions, get use to saying no, I can’t take on that responsibility bc I can be sure of what I will be like that day with the health issues in the house.
To ditch a kid in surgery for a party is ridiculous. To drag a sick kid to decorate for a party is ridiculous. This whole situation is.
Why are you doubting yourself? Bc people got butt hurt over a pre party to an overly expensive party? Screw them.
No, you’re NTA. You’re a good friend, and an amazing mom. I just wish you had friends who were of the same quality as yourself.
I would expect at least one of them, if not all of them, to have reached out to offer you not only support with your little one, but to take the MOH duties of your hands.
And the bride.. choosing someone as their MOH usually means you’re their best friend. In this case, I feel like she chose you bc you were the only one in the group willing to do any actual work and come through for her.
You, honey, deserve far better friends.
You absolutely did the right and necessary thing. I hope your son is making a good recovery.
Anyone complaining about a social event while dealing with medical issues for your baby is NOT your friend.
Your “friend” is being cold and selfish. Life throws us all curve balls and we do our best to deal because life doesn’t stop for a wedding or a medical emergency. As a mother myself I’d be ashamed of raising a daughter like her.
You did nothing wrong and in fact I’d ask to be reimbursed for everything your paid just to try giving her the best experience you could.
NTA and cut them off, you don’t need toxic people like them.
You absolutely did the right and necessary thing. I hope your son is making a good recovery.
She is not your friend. She also is not a good person. Focus on your child. She’s not worth your energy.
NTA
I wouldn’t go to the ceremony or send a gift either. They are sad excuses for humans and not friends at all
Another fake post with — and 1 million “…” 🙄💀
NTA. My very best friend got engaged and a few weeks later, after I had accepted being in her wedding party, I found out I was pregnant. Her wedding was 4 weeks before my due date. I called her and said, “timing might be iffy” she said, didn’t you go 3 weeks early with your first? You better not travel here, I will send you pictures!” Because that is what a friend does. Drop this self centered jerk and cuddle your babe!!
Ummm, your “friend” can fuck off.
NTA!!! Your friend is a.selfish b*”ch with no empathy for you or your family. Good news. You now know what she is really about. Nothing bad here because you know what you’re dealing with. I would have gladly offered if I could to help you and tell you not to worry about the stupid shower. Your health and your baby’s health comes first. Don’t go out of your way again since what you did was not appreciated and was criticized. Good luck to you and your family.
Cut all ties with this person. She sounds like a selfish wench. Your child comes first and anyone that doesn’t grasp that shouldn’t be in your life.
Wtf did I just read? Honey your child comes before anything!
I fear for any child this woman has because a party means more than a child’s health.
Don’t go.
Dump your friend. She is trash. I cannot IMAGINE being anything less than gracious to a friend like you. Even if you called me the day of the wedding and said you had to stay home with your sick kid I’d feel bad for YOU not ME.
You deserve to have better people in your life
NTA. That bitch is not your friend…she expects her wedding BS to be more important than your Baby’s LIFE. Block her and the rest and ghost them. Hope you and Baby are doing well.
No. Your “friend” (which, even with quotations on I am using this word very loosely) is a whiney little brat and does not deserve to have your support at her wedding as the MOH. I can’t believe you even paid for a trip you couldn’t take and put up decorations with your sick infant and all they did was complain about you. These people are sick in the head and I’m sorry that you’re having such a rude awakening to what was once, I’m sure, a treasured friendship. This bridezilla princess does not deserve your friendship and support. This is disgusting treatment of a new mom and zero appreciation. I’m so sorry about your son, I’m literally crying just hearing your story. You really don’t need the stress of this wedding and these people are supposed to be your friends. I can’t believe they don’t see how much you need support rn and the utter disrespect they show you is appalling. You are no asshole. Don’t ever think that about this situation.
Wow, Wow, that is insanely shitty of the bride, her mother and all the bridesmaids!! Like their party, not even wedding, is more important than your baby’s life is astounding.
I would send a group email, chat, and text to all of them, in a group and blast them all for their selfish, unsympathetic attitude and total lack of concern for a human life and tell them all to fuck off to hell, even if Satan doesn’t want them. And then I would forward all that to future husband so he knows what a p.o.s. he’s marrying.
How you can get a refund on your flight and hotel because I sure as fuck wouldn’t be going to that wedding next month.
I hope your baby is ok, and you can get treatment for your blood disorder. You have way too much on your plate for your own family to put up with that bullshit.
This person is not your friend. It’s time to let these people go.. just focus on you and your baby.
Nta, but why would you even remain friends with someone so selfish and callous? Sheesh, tell her she’s a B and kick her to the curb.
Your friend sucks. Get a new friend.
It is concerning that you are asking this question. You need to prioritize your son and the fact that you are uncertain if you should worries me.
Tome to not go to this wedding either. Forget this friend.
Yes you should’ve left your baby to go party seriously?! It’s your baby
wtf. Your “friend” is a self centered bridezilla. I hope your son is ok
You know you’re not the asshole. Come the fuck on. Leave this dumpster fire of a human and every single person associated with her in your past and never speak them again. And let them know how evil they are. By bitch.