To clarify, I (20 male) went on a vacation with family, the only problem being my 25 year old sister Emily, her husband and kid. Me, my mom, and my other sister Sharon all saved up money for rental car and gas (we drove from Indiana), hotel, and obviously fun stuff. Me, Sharon and my little brother all felt like we would like to go to universal instead to save a little on tickets and, after some thinking, we realized it would be just as much fun. Emily had other plans, she said we can’t skip Disney because her kid (5 year-old boy) has been asking for months when they are going to Disney.
Keep in mind she was riding with us in the rental van so she would have to do what we do or get an uber. After much complaining (mostly her end) we said fine we don’t have the chedda for both but Disney will be super fun too, only for her to say she can’t afford the tickets so we would need to pay for her tickets too. I was thinking fine, it isn’t cheap but her kid will love it and it was on 4th of July so he would get to see the Disney fireworks, he loves fireworks. I still wasn’t upset at this point, what started my and my other siblings frustration is she left after only a few hours, before it even got dark. My mom drove them back to the hotel because they didn’t want to pay for an uber.
When my mom got back in thanks to the way the ticket worked she was able to walk back in no charge so there’s that, but she seemed super sad. I ask what’s up and she said that my nephew hardly got to do anything and that, after her cooled down, he was sad he was leaving. The reason he needed to cool down is he was walking around in all black in July, and looked dehydrated. I think my sister should have gotten a rental stroller.
The toper on the cake is she didn’t pay for one thing the whole week we were in Florida. Not one meal, not one fun thing, not even the room she stayed in or gas. I would have gotten over it but on the way home she said me and my other siblings are entitled and that we only did what we want “kayaking and Ripley’s believe it or not” and that the one thing her kid wanted to do was ruined. I got mad and told her “sorry your free trip was not up to your standards” My anger got the better of me and I called her a bad mom for not giving her kid enough water and making him dress in hot cloths. Emily said “what do you know, you don’t have a kid” and didn’t talk to be the rest of the trip, around one day and the travel back. I told my mom if we do any other trip like that we should not invite her, am I the asshole? My mom and other siblings kinda agreed not to invite her to trips, but that i am overreacting because i don’t want to deal with her shit ever again.
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To clarify, I (20 male) went on a vacation with family, the only problem being my 25 year old sister Emily, her husband and kid. Me, my mom, and my other sister Sharon all saved up money for rental car and gas (we drove from Indiana), hotel, and obviously fun stuff. Me, Sharon and my little brother all felt like we would like to go to universal instead to save a little on tickets and, after some thinking, we realized it would be just as much fun. Emily had other plans, she said we can’t skip Disney because her kid (5 year-old boy) has been asking for months when they are going to Disney.
Keep in mind she was riding with us in the rental van so she would have to do what we do or get an uber. After much complaining (mostly her end) we said fine we don’t have the chedda for both but Disney will be super fun too, only for her to say she can’t afford the tickets so we would need to pay for her tickets too. I was thinking fine, it isn’t cheap but her kid will love it and it was on 4th of July so he would get to see the Disney fireworks, he loves fireworks. I still wasn’t upset at this point, what started my and my other siblings frustration is she left after only a few hours, before it even got dark. My mom drove them back to the hotel because they didn’t want to pay for an uber.
When my mom got back in thanks to the way the ticket worked she was able to walk back in no charge so there’s that, but she seemed super sad. I ask what’s up and she said that my nephew hardly got to do anything and that, after her cooled down, he was sad he was leaving. The reason he needed to cool down is he was walking around in all black in July, and looked dehydrated. I think my sister should have gotten a rental stroller.
The toper on the cake is she didn’t pay for one thing the whole week we were in Florida. Not one meal, not one fun thing, not even the room she stayed in or gas. I would have gotten over it but on the way home she said me and my other siblings are entitled and that we only did what we want “kayaking and Ripley’s believe it or not” and that the one thing her kid wanted to do was ruined. I got mad and told her “sorry your free trip was not up to your standards” My anger got the better of me and I called her a bad mom for not giving her kid enough water and making him dress in hot cloths. Emily said “what do you know, you don’t have a kid” and didn’t talk to be the rest of the trip, around one day and the travel back. I told my mom if we do any other trip like that we should not invite her, am I the asshole? My mom and other siblings kinda agreed not to invite her to trips, but that i am overreacting because i don’t want to deal with her shit ever again.
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> I want to cut all contact with my sister after a bad vacation. I got mad and called her names after how she acted and she thinks i am in the wrong. I might be overreacting but I want opinions from people that don’t know me or her
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NTA
Your sister is an entitled moocher.
NTA
The people who pay get to say what they are doing. If she suggested something calmly and everyone didn’t like that and it was resolved peacefully it would be a different story. But absolutely not the way she reacted considering it was a free trip for her. She’s way too spoiled
You don’t go if you can’t afford something. Don’t pay for her again and don’t invite her. She sounds ungrateful entitled and a bad mother. It’s freaking Disneyland you out the kid in a damn stroller! What an idiot. And yes even non parents recognized and know this.