So everytime my husband and I would spend the night at my MIL HOUSE she tells us that we need to sleep in the basement.. mind you it’s not a finished basement nor does it have a working bathroom or anything. We were coming into town for the day and we just needed a place to sleep for about 5 hrs because we were going to an event and would be there most of the day.. I was pregnant however we hadn’t told anyone yet because we were waiting on my doctor appointment to officially confirm.
Anyways my husband asked my MIL IF we can sleep in her upstairs in her moms old room (which used to be my husband room) and that she didn’t need to clean it we just needed some new sheets and stuff because it’s close to the bathroom and has better air circulation. She agreed and said yes!
The week before we are about to leave she calls crying and saying she doesn’t feel comfortable with us sleeping in there and if we don’t want to stay in the basement then we need to stay in the hotel. Now a hotel wasn’t initially in our cards because we were only staying for a short time but I then felt uncomfortable and we paid for the hotel.
2 weeks later I heard that she allowed her family friend to stay in the same room we asked to stay in and she didn’t feel uncomfortable with her.
It’s been 4 years now and we have yet to stay at her house again. And she doesn’t even offer!
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You were never welcome to begin with. That is what she was hinting at without saying it.
And she sleeps elsewhere if she wants to visit you?
Maybe hand her a cot and blanket, tell her to find somewhere else to sleep, like outside or a park, cause you don’t feel comfortable…
NTA
See now I would use this as an excuse to never visit her again, NTA.
That is a trip.
I would be hard pressed to even visit her.
That’s great! She didn’t want you there and you don’t want to be there. It worked out for everyone.
NAH That does seem very weird. Does she make her son stay in the basement if he comes home by himself? I would assume she doesn’t want you to know about something that is happening there, except the crying is disturbing. Clearly something is up. Maybe your husband could visit or speak with her privately and make sure she is okay.
In the meantime, opt out of the basement and rent a hotel when you visit, if you visit.
Have you seen her in the last 4 years? Has she met her grandchild?
NTA. Offer her the same kindness when she tries to visit you. Tell her she can either sleep in the basement (if you have one), the garage, or get a hotel. Don’t let her have alone time with the grandchild either.
NTA. Your MIL needs therapy or is a grumpy bumpy old bitty. SITA or SNT
Oh wow, something is going on here.
Your MIL is a passive aggressive twat waffle.
NTA
I’m guessing she heard you having sex in his old bedroom before which is why she banished you to the depths of hell – she can’t hear you down there
You got it girl. Don’t ever allow toxic people to stay in your home.