There’s not much more to explain! My ex and I divorced due to her affair. Her affair partner and current boyfriend has a son. My ex is telling our daughter that his son is her brother and that they are all a family. I understand if they get married and they are actually step siblings, but he’d be just that, a step brother. Daughter is 5.
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There’s not much more to explain! My ex and I divorced due to her affair. Her affair partner and current boyfriend has a son. My ex is telling our daughter that his son is her brother and that they are all a family. I understand if they get married and they are actually step siblings, but he’d be just that, a step brother. Daughter is 5.
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NTA. Your daughter is still very young and it’s confusing to call someone her brother when there’s no legal or biological relationship. It’s reasonable to want clarity for her and set boundaries around how family titles are used
NTA — they are in no way related by blood. This would not be legal since her “brother” is not biological and born from a different family.
Disclaimer: I don’t come from a blended family, so I don’t know how parents usually approach this sort of stuff.
NTA. Yeah that’s not a (biological) sibling. Legally, they’re not even step siblings until your ex marries her boyfriend. I would like to think that bringing this sort of stuff up early on is the best. I think it’ll be confusing if your daughter thinks she has a brother, and then your ex and the boyfriend break up for whatever reason, and then your daughter is left wondering where her “brother” went.
NTA. He isn’t her brother.
INFO: do they plan to get married? Is she doing this because she thinks your child isnt old enough yet to understand the difference between a blood sibling and step sibling
>I understand if they get married and they are actual step siblings, but he’d be just that, a step brother
That’s not your call. Your daughter will decide for herself whether that boy is her brother, or – as you say – “just that, a step brother.”
You’re trying to force distance between literal children because you don’t like how this boy came into your daughter’s life.
NAH yet, but if you keep insisting on this enforced distance you’ll be creating unnecessary tension and bad blood for your daughter (this is all assuming your ex stays with her boyfriend and they do eventually become a family unit, if they aren’t already)
NTA. Your ex-wife can say whatever she wants to say. She does not get to dictate to you how you will respond to your daughter’s questions. The kind/smart thing to do/say, though, would be to use the cop-out used by fathers since time immemorial: “Ask your mother.” This is one time to stay out of it.