I am in college and my schedule is pretty packed this semester. My roommate she is turning a year older soon, and he planned a whole day of activities for his birthday. The problem is, she wants me to skip one of my major classes to celebrate with him. I told her ahead of time that I couldn’t miss this class because we have graded group work and attendance is part of the grade. She ignored it and said, It’s just one class. Birthdays are more important than boring lectures. So I reminded her that his birthday isn’t my responsibility and that I could celebrate with her after my class. She doesn’t really seemed okay with it and got really mad at me and and said, Okay! your not invited to come to my birthday’s anymore! When I stood my ground, She acted childish, slammed doors. I don’t see why my education should take a hit just so she can feel celebrated for 24 hours. I still plan on giving her a gift and hanging out later, but apparently that’s not enough.
So, AITA for not skipping class to celebrate my roommate’s birthday?
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I am in college and my schedule is pretty packed this semester. My roommate she is turning a year older soon, and he planned a whole day of activities for his birthday. The problem is, he wants me to skip one of my major classes to celebrate with him. I told him ahead of time that I couldn’t miss this class because we have graded group work and attendance is part of the grade. She ignored it and said, It’s just one class. Birthdays are more important than boring lectures. So I reminded him that his birthday isn’t my responsibility and that I could celebrate with him after my class. She doesn’t really seemed okay with it and got really mad at me and and said, Okay! your not invited to come to my birthday’s anymore! When I stood my ground, She acted childish, slammed doors. I don’t see why my education should take a hit just so he can feel celebrated for 24 hours. I still plan on giving him a gift and hanging out later, but apparently that’s not enough.
So, AITA for not skipping class to celebrate my roommate’s birthday?
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> 1. My roommate asked me skip class for his birthday.
2. I turned her because i can’t afford to miss this classes.
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NTA. You’re in college, do college. The roommate wants to tell people to skip classes? Nope.
NTA, you are still hanging out with him on his birthday and getting him a gift. Some people just send a text and call it a day.
Is your roomie a he or a she?
I feel like blowing off skipping class and expecting people to do the same is silly like you do you and if others go than cool. But like there’s after class to do whatever this is college class not high-school lol.
INFO: Why do you keep changing gender pronouns for your roommate?
Note: In your post, you keep going back and forth between her and she when referring to your roommate. It makes it more than a bit confusing to read/understand — at least to me!
NTA
The reality is that college students miss a class from time to time, and it rarely makes a big impact on their final grade. Also, people sometimes have very valid reasons for being unable to agree to/make plans with friends. Ultimately, only you can decide if ditching class this one time is something you’re willing to do and if roommate’s birthday celebration is a solid enough excuse to you for ditching.
If you truly feel that skipping this class would be detrimental to your grade, a good friend should understand and respect that.
ETA: Ok, I missed the part about roomie’s yelling, door-slamming meltdown over you declining the invite. Unless there is some other mental/emotional/developmental condition(s) at play here that you didn’t mention, roommate needs to get a reality check and grow tf up. Absolutely the hell not.
Pronouns matter.
NTA. You’re at college to get an education, not to celebrate your friends. The expectation that friends should skip classes to attend a 24-hour birthday celebration is ridiculous and narcissistic. Reacting in this all-or-none manner is extremely childish. Your friend is doing you a favor by uninviting you from future birthdays. You really don’t need friends like this while you’re in college. A great way to fail out of school is to hang out with friends who just DGAF about their classes. Giving each other permission to ignore school will guarantee that you sabotage each others’ education.
NTA. Don’t let an egotistical saboteur make decisions for you
What a ridiculous person. College determines the rest of your life. Anyone who suggests you miss something important and very expensive is no friend I would want to have. Keep working hard and silence the noise. You are too good for it.
You’re in college and don’t know how pronouns work?
Definitely go to class, especially if it’s about grammar and parts of speech.
> turning a yeat older soon
Wtf speaks like this?
Info: Who is “he”? Who is “she”?
YTA for being in college and not being able to put together a cohesive paragraph. If this is what universities are teaching, I’m not sending my kids
Is she turning 6 this year?