So me and a group of friends went out to eat after midterm. It was a casual places where you pay at the end, and everyone was ordering whatever they wanted.
I got something small as usual because I’m trying to save some cash. So I had water and a basic pasta that was on special. A few others did the same. But one of my friend ordered a appetizer, a big entrée, and dessert, and she got a drink too. No judgment, she can do her, but it definitely added up.
When the check came, she suddenly goes, “Let’s just split it evenly.” I was like, what? I thought we were all paying for what we ordered. She said it would be easier and that it’s “what we always do,” which is not true by the way.
I told her I only brought enough for what I ate, plus a tip. She rolled her eyes and said it’s not that deep, and that I’m being cheap over a few bucks. But it wasn’t a few bucks. It would have almost doubled what I was planning to spend.
I didn’t budge and paid for my stuff only. My other friends didn’t care and split the bill evenly. Now she’s being super passive and told our other friend that I embarrassed her in front of everyone and made her look greedy. But like, she assumed we’d cover part of her extra food without even asking.
AITA?
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So me and a group of friends went out to eat after midterm. It was a casual places where you pay at the end, and everyone was ordering whatever they wanted.
I got something small as usual because I’m trying to save some cash. So I had water and a basic pasta that was on special. A few others did the same. But one of my friend ordered a appetizer, a big entrée, and dessert, and she got a drink too. No judgment, she can do her, but it definitely added up.
When the check came, she suddenly goes, “Let’s just split it evenly.” I was like, what? I thought we were all paying for what we ordered. She said it would be easier and that it’s “what we always do,” which is not true by the way.
I told her I only brought enough for what I ate, plus a tip. She rolled her eyes and said it’s not that deep, and that I’m being cheap over a few bucks. But it wasn’t a few bucks. It would have almost doubled what I was planning to spend.
I didn’t budge and paid for my stuff only. My other friends didn’t care and split the bill evenly. Now she’s being super passive and told our other friend that I embarrassed her in front of everyone and made her look greedy. But like, she assumed we’d cover part of her extra food without even asking.
AITA?
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NTA. Like you, I hate it when people order big and then assume everyone will split the bill evenly. The best way to deal with this is to announce, at the very start, that everyone should keep track of their own expenses so that they can pay what they owe at the end.
NTA. You didn’t make your friend look greedy, she made herself look greedy. She knew exactly what she was doing. She’s just made that someone didn’t blindly fall into her trap. Don’t put up with her nonsense.
NTA. It would’ve been one thing if you’d all ordered stuff that amounted to approximately the same. But you didn’t. She then said “it’s not that deep”. Well, if she feels that way then she can freaking pay for her own stuff.
Absolutely NTA. She did nothing wrong by ordering/eating what she did, but expecting anyone else to chip in to cover your tab without any prior arrangement will always and forever be an AH move.
NTA Nope, she wanted you to subsidize her expensive meal.
NTA. I also hate when people overspend and expect to split evenly. Best to say upfront everyone should pay their part.
NTA. I hate it when people rack up a huge bill and then expect to split it evenly. Especially when others are ordering water and less expensive entrees – it sounds like she knew exactly what she was doing too, especially if it’s normal for everyone in the group to pay for what they had ordered.
NTA.
She’s the one being cheap and with all she ordered, it’s not at all just “a few bucks.”
But she was greedy. I always speak up and only pay for what I order because I’m on a budget. Good for you for standing up for yourself.
nta – it should have been discussed before the meal if you want to split
she tried to be a smoocher – be carefull next time
NTA
It’s nothing to be ashamed of if you’re living on a budget. Quite the opposite, you spend according to your means.
Don’t let them bully you. If someone likes to indulge when eating out, they should be voluntarily pay their fair share. Otherwise, they’re greedy.
NTA – If you agree to do an even split, that should be agreed before you order.