This is going to sound fucking DUMB but I need feedback.
Me and my partner spent the whole assed day at Canada’s best theme park, Wonderland. I have an all day Icee pass which means we get an Icee every 15 minutes when I scan my phone.
STAGE SET: All our usual Icee kiosks are closed because it’s 40 fuckin degrees (celcius) and the chiller is probably probably broken.
STAGE SET UP: It’s the end of the day and me, my sister, my wee nephew (8) and my man (partner of 5 years) are stood up in line to buy soft serve waffle cones. We have to pay for those with real money but I offered to buy everyone a treat.
WHAT HAPPENED: I pay for everyone’s soft serve and turn my ass around HOLDIND 4 LARGE SOFT SERVE WAFFLE CONES IN 2 HANDS and not 1 singular person is there. My wee sweet nephew pipes up from below me says ‘Aunty Kenny they went into the Icee line.’
There is only 1 Icee place open this day in the ungodly heat so I know where they are at, so I march my ass over there holding all the cones. When I get there I say ‘Where did you guys go?! I can’t carry all this shit.’
WHERE I GET FUCKING PISSED: By the time I get to the Icee line covered in melted vanilla goo, my (former?) partner starts getting an insane attitude. ‘I would go across the park for you!! WHAT?? You can’t even walk 5 feet to get me an ice cream?? Get up here and scan your phone!!! I got In line while you were waiting for the ice cream so we could get out of here!!’
AITA: I want to break up with him because I think it’s fucking insane to yell at me when I’m being fucking nice and buying him soft serve. I told him my deal breaker was being a dick in public and I think this is it. I didn’t do shit all wrong and he acted like I killed a puppy
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It seems you two may have had disputes or minor disagreements like this before. I think there may be a communication issue here and maybe this just is not meant to work out. I do agree thought, that was a dick move on his part.
Nta
Whats his age and yours?
NTA- boil this down. And we have a communication issue.
He made a plan and to him that the ends justify the means. Which is him getting a icee.
About the thing is he does not think about the impact of him leaving without telling you where you’re going.
What are you psychic? His perceived comfort is more important to him, then keeping you informed.
Which to me is just stupid games stupid prizes.
Anyone is going to be irritated when you’re abandoned at a busy place.
Especially if there’s a kiddo there who is so young.
Info: did everyone know that you were buying them a treat? It’s rude to wander off without informing everyone else in the party, but especially more so if they knew you were getting a highly perishable item. If they didn’t know, your reaction is understandable but a bit much. If they did, they’re AHs for not telling you.
Sounds like y’all have a history of little aggressions that haven’t been addressed and this was a straw that broke the camel’s back or it was a long ass hot day and everyone’s temper was short.
After y’all have come down, have a talk with him about the whole situation. If you can’t come to an agreement about it, maybe you’re just not meant to be with each other and that’s okay. His reaction was out of line (that’s why I suggested the long day and short tempers) so for that, NTA
I‘m sorry but i can‘t stop laughing. First you killed it with the title, that already got me laughing out loud and then you continue with this poetic text- i am sorry if you are really angry and hurt because of your SO.
But girl. This is art.
NTA the way I probably would have ended up throwing away the ice cream cone in the trash.
Wow. I didn’t know you Canadians could cuss like that, you all seem so nice and polite all the time. NTA. I would have fucked his shit up if I got that kind of attitude.
This is it.
He’s a jerk…
And he doesn’t deserve ice cream or icees.
NTA
So, you’re allowed to get “fucking pissed,” but he has to kiss your ass?
Your story seems about as vanilla as your ice cream.
BTW, people’s can have short fuses and get irrational, and become irascible when the temperature is above the body’s temperature, especially when you’re not user to the temperature.
Sounds like you were both just in bad moods.
I’m having a difficult time believing there isn’t more to the story besides this one incident that has you wanting to break up.
You’re NTA for being upset.
However, I will say, if this is the one and only incident you’ve had with an otherwise great partner that I would advise you to take some time to cool off before making any quick decisions to split. Doesn’t mean you’re not right to be upset or not entitled to an apology or anything though.