AITA for refusing to get dressed when my roommate brings people over?
Before everyone slams me with YTA responses hear me out, my roommate is a super special dude while I am not, I have no problem with him bringing over random new friends he’s made on the bus/train/park/wherever but the dude never warns me. He’ll just show up with strangers I’ve never met (and often never meet again) and burst through the front door with them while I sit half naked on the couch watching tv or playing a game. (We both do this all the time due to the summer heat). Normally I just get up and get dressed and ask him to warn me next time, which he promises he will, but doesn’t. Then it happens again, and again, and again.
Last time it happened I just stayed sitting on the couch in my underwear as everyone sat in the living room with me to watch tv. It was awkward, they didn’t stay as long as his “friends” usually do. When they left my roommate freaked out about me not getting dressed and making his friends think he’s a weirdo.
I told him that I’ve asked him over and over again to just give me a heads-up when he’s bringing people over and he said doesn’t matter that he forgot, I should have been polite and gotten dressed so that “our” guests didn’t feel weird. Now I’m getting texts from people I don’t know (his friends that he gave my number to for some reason I think) telling me that I’m gross and accusing me of being a nudist and forcing it on random people.
So Reddit, AITA?
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AITA for refusing to get dressed when my roommate brings people over?
Before everyone slams me with YTA responses hear me out, my roommate is a super special dude while I am not, I have no problem with him bringing over random new friends he’s made on the bus/train/park/wherever but the dude never warns me. He’ll just show up with strangers I’ve never met (and often never meet again) and burst through the front door with them while I sit half naked on the couch watching tv or playing a game. (We both do this all the time due to the summer heat). Normally I just get up and get dressed and ask him to warn me next time, which he promises he will, but doesn’t. Then it happens again, and again, and again.
Last time it happened I just stayed sitting on the couch in my underwear as everyone sat in the living room with me to watch tv. It was awkward, they didn’t stay as long as his “friends” usually do. When they left my roommate freaked out about me not getting dressed and making his friends think he’s a weirdo.
I told him that I’ve asked him over and over again to just give me a heads-up when he’s bringing people over and he said doesn’t matter that he forgot, I should have been polite and gotten dressed so that “our” guests didn’t feel weird. Now I’m getting texts from people I don’t know (his friends that he gave my number to for some reason I think) telling me that I’m gross and accusing me of being a nudist and forcing it on random people.
So Reddit, AITA?
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> I refused to get dressed when my roommate brought unannounced guests over for the billionth time. I might be the AH because I made their friends uncomfortable when trying to enforce boundaries with my roommate.
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It’s your place, be naked. He should warn you. Maybe next time you should get fully naked. Sit there with a stiffy on. That’ll show them.
“Forcing it on random people”? They came into YOUR home (unannounced) of their own free will. Fuck all of these people, including your roommate. NTA.
Hilarious. good for r/PettyRevenge and r/traumatizeThemBack
ESH, but that’s why it’s a great story. Thanks for posting.
You get some warning – THEN you’ll get dressed.
NTA, you live there too.
He is worried about you being in your underwear??? He brings people that he meets on the bus/train/park!!!!!!
INFO: Are you both of the same sex?
You know, I GET it is your place too, but people that react like this are part of my shit list, because I had relatives do this shit, and frankly I was tempted to throw them out of their own place because it was totally out of contempt to do such things and that minors were around. I could probably find a way to make someone like that into a registered SO if I REALLY wanted to.
NTA – but why you live with someone who brings randomers into your home is beyond me. That’s a personal safety issue. These people could be thieves or worse.
My mind goes to ESH but maybe I’m just from different generation. In my mind when living with a roommate you can dress how you want in your room and it’s understandable as you shower and such could be half naked in shared spaces but just hanging out half naked seems off to me with or without guests.
Roommate definitely sucks for not giving you a heads up before showing up with strangers and giving your number out. But I agree YTA for not getting dressed when the guests showed up and if the guests were women you don’t know you are asking for trouble with sexual harassment/indecent exposure. I know you have some leeway since it’s your property but protection only goes so far. Not sure if what you did actually crossed a line but the texts you got seem to indicate they at least felt you pushed the limit and you may just be lucky no one seems to have gone further to stir up problems.
Minors are never around thankfully. We’re both too old to be hanging with minors unless they’re family.
Ok, so if he’s also chilling in his undroos when he’s at home, NTA. And you need to warn him that any future unannounced guests will get the same treatment.
ESH,
Stop hanging around in your underwear in shared housing spaces. This goes for both of you.
Nta … he should have said something you pay rent it’s your place too. I’d hate random people showing up at my house unannounced.
NTA, it’s up to him to let you know he’s bringing guests, especially random people he just met. I was initially going to give you an ESH, but doing it once as a lesson, and then him giving your number (without your consent!) to other random people to message you puts him firmly as the asshole and you in the right, he needs to learn his lesson and obviously not wanting to.,