My friend, let’s call her Jess, she’s the girl you’d expect to walk down the hall like she owns it. She’s got main character syndrome, wears makeup but covers it with a mask and sunglasses (not like there’s any problem with that). We were in art class and the class was supposed to decorate this door sized canvas. Problem is that the teacher made it voluntary and optional but it had to be finished. So me, he and some other girls started working on it. I finished my part that I was supposed to do, I drew the characters and colored them. They were supposed to handle the assembly part, which wasn’t that hard in general, it was basic gluing and adding ribbons and stuff. But after my classes were over and I had moved on to do my own homework, one of the girls, let’s call her Kelsey, walks up to me demanding my help. I say “I’m sorry I can’t I’m busy”. She walks away a bit frustrated. 10 minutes later Jess walks in asking me the same thing. I’m over here trying to cram an essay that’s due, and she yells across the class that I need to help. Of course I get a bit annoyed but I say I can’t again. It was a Friday so I went home for the weekend and didn’t think too much about it. The Monday when I return to class, I see they haven’t finished it, like haven’t even started on glueing it. Since I was finally done with my work, I ask if Jess needs help. She LITERALLY ignores me. Later I ask one of the girls, let’s call her Hailey, what’s up with Jess. She tells me that Jess is mad at me because I didn’t want to help more. After asking around, I find out that Jess was talking shit about me to other people. I didn’t think I was in the wrong but Hailey said I should apologize so I did. I sent her a paragraph on messages telling her that I was sorry for not helping. She never responded. I then overhear her the next day gossiping with one of the other girls talking about how fake I was because I apologized. AITA???
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My friend, let’s call her Jess, she’s the girl you’d expect to walk down the hall like she owns it. She’s got main character syndrome, wears makeup but covers it with a mask and sunglasses (not like there’s any problem with that). We were in art class and the class was supposed to decorate this door sized canvas. Problem is that the teacher made it voluntary and optional but it had to be finished. So me, he and some other girls started working on it. I finished my part that I was supposed to do, I drew the characters and colored them. They were supposed to handle the assembly part, which wasn’t that hard in general, it was basic gluing and adding ribbons and stuff. But after my classes were over and I had moved on to do my own homework, one of the girls, let’s call her Kelsey, walks up to me demanding my help. I say “I’m sorry I can’t I’m busy”. She walks away a bit frustrated. 10 minutes later Jess walks in asking me the same thing. I’m over here trying to cram an essay that’s due, and she yells across the class that I need to help. Of course I get a bit annoyed but I say I can’t again. It was a Friday so I went home for the weekend and didn’t think too much about it. The Monday when I return to class, I see they haven’t finished it, like haven’t even started on glueing it. Since I was finally done with my work, I ask if Jess needs help. She LITERALLY ignores me. Later I ask one of the girls, let’s call her Hailey, what’s up with Jess. She tells me that Jess is mad at me because I didn’t want to help more. After asking around, I find out that Jess was talking shit about me to other people. I didn’t think I was in the wrong but Hailey said I should apologize so I did. I sent her a paragraph on messages telling her that I was sorry for not helping. She never responded. I then overhear her the next day gossiping with one of the other girls talking about how fake I was because I apologized. AITA???
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NTA. U did your part, plus balance is key in group work, yo! Don’t let Jess’ drama get to ya, that’s her prob not urs. It’s just school, not the end of the world. Stick to ur guns, mate! 💯💪💯
NTA – and it was nice of you to say sorry but you have nothing to be sorry about. If you speak to her again, ask her what made her feel like you were responsible for helping her and what you should have done about the things you had to focus on.
NTA.
Throughout life, people will start to do something and expect others to finish it.
You did you part, those girls need to learn accountability and seeing things through.
NTA
NTA — you did your part and have no obligation to bail others out when they slack off.
Sorry… I thought you said somebody in this post was your friend but all I saw was some colossal AH named ‘Jess’. Where does the friend come in?
You’re nicer than me:) I would have called her out in front of the class. “I finished my part. You just had to glue some ribbons on while I had to cram for a paper. Did you do anything?” Sometimes bullying can be seen as confidence. Her trash talking you was sneaky and insecure. She didn’t want to take the consequences of her laziness.
NTA, man. You did your part. Jess gotta chill and respect that u got ur own sht to do. Honestly, sounds like she’s the one being fake here, not acknowledging ur apology and all that. Maybe it’s time to find some drama-free buds. Just my 2 cents.
You did your part of the work. Jess and your other peers did not.
Why DID you apologise?
Jess is not your friend..
I’m going with ESH because you are being an AH to yourself by bothering with anything this girl thinks.
She has too much power and influence in the group and you are giving it to her.
NTA, you did your part, set a boundary when you were busy, and still offered help later. If someone can’t accept that or talk it out without turning it into drama, that’s on them. You showed way more maturity than they did.
NTA
NTA …. she is acting like a petulant infant.. best ignore her and move on…
NTA she sounds more like a fake friend then anything else