I (23F) am having my birthday party in my backyard. I just sent out all the invites and my partner(22NB) asked if I invited our mutual friend John which I did. They then asked if I invited John’s new boyfriend Drew. I did not. My partner asked why and honestly I just don’t know Drew. We met one time and didn’t click and we don’t seem to have anything in common.
I also don’t think Drew would be down to dress up for the party which is a garden fairy theme. Everyone will be dressed up as fairy’s and we will be making crafts like princess hats and friendship bracelets. I know all my friends will be excited for it but I don’t know if Drew will and I just want to do these things with everybody. My partner thinks I should have invited Drew to be kind and it feels exclusionary since everyone else’s partners are invited. I did invite other partners but I also know them all.
What do you guys think am I being an asshole not inviting Drew?
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Backup of the post’s body: I (23F) am having my birthday party in my backyard. I just sent out all the invites and my partner(22NB) asked if I invited our mutual friend John which I did. They then asked if I invited John’s new boyfriend Drew. I did not. My partner asked why and honestly I just don’t know Drew. We met one time and didn’t click and we don’t seem to have anything in common.
I also don’t think Drew would be down to dress up for the party which is a garden fairy theme. Everyone will be dressed up as fairy’s and we will be making crafts like princess hats and friendship bracelets. I know all my friends will be excited for it but I don’t know if Drew will and I just want to do these things with everybody. My partner thinks I should have invited Drew to be kind and it feels exclusionary since everyone else’s partners are invited. I did invite other partners but I also know them all.
What do you guys think am I being an asshole not inviting Drew?
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I think the gesture would be seen as kind. If Drew doesn’t want to come, he doesn’t have to. Maybe he’d enjoy it though. I also think it would be seen as exclusionary if you invite all of the other partners. Happy Birthday 🥳