I feel like I’m going fucking crazy. My 22nd birthday is coming up and I haven’t done anything special for my birthdays these last 3 years so I finally wanted to do some. So, naturally I made a group chat so I can make sure everything aligns with everyone’s schedule. I added my boyfriend, P, M, S, and K.
The issue, K has a friend named C (for cunt, cause once you hear what she did you’ll understand). C and I use to be friends… but i realized what a horrible person she is: invited me to a party then last minute told me not to come, constantly starts drama and expected me to play along, ghosted me for 3 months then gaslit me, etc. i obviously don’t want someone with such negative energy around me, as 2025 is for protecting my peace.
K messaged me an hour after I made my party plans asking why C wasn’t in the group chat, her and C are best friends. I explained we just hadn’t talked in a while and we aren’t good friends anymore… 30mins later C sends me a message absolutely going bad shit crazy on me saying how she never ghost me, how I am a bad person for not inviting her when “she’s done so much for me” (???). Now K and C are spreading hate post on me on social media and people (outside the group) are calling me an asshole, my friends say I am not but idk if they’re being biased…. So Reddit am I?
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Backup of the post’s body: I feel like I’m going fucking crazy. My 22nd birthday is coming up and I haven’t done anything special for my birthdays these last 3 years so I finally wanted to do some. So, naturally I made a group chat so I can make sure everything aligns with everyone’s schedule. I added my boyfriend, P, M, S, and K.
The issue, K has a friend named C (for cunt, cause once you hear what she did you’ll understand). C and I use to be friends… but i realized what a horrible person she is: invited me to a party then last minute told me not to come, constantly starts drama and expected me to play along, ghosted me for 3 months then gaslit me, etc. i obviously don’t want someone with such negative energy around me, as 2025 is for protecting my peace.
K messaged me an hour after I made my party plans asking why C wasn’t in the group chat, her and C are best friends. I explained we just hadn’t talked in a while and we aren’t good friends anymore… 30mins later C sends me a message absolutely going bad shit crazy on me saying how she never ghost me, how I am a bad person for not inviting her when “she’s done so much for me” (???). Now K and C are spreading hate post on me on social media and people (outside the group) are calling me an asshole, my friends say I am not but idk if they’re being biased…. So Reddit am I?
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NTA. You can invite whoever you damn well please to your own birthday party. It seems to me that K showed you they aren’t a good friend to you either. I’d block them both and enjoy your life without whatever bullshit they want to bring.
Sounds like you need better friends. Better yet, K & C need to be disinvited.
NTA. If you wanted to invite all of C’s family and not her, that’s your decision cause it’s YOUR PARTY. Honestly, I’d probably block ol girl and tell K if she has a problem with who you DIDN’T invite to YOUR party, then she can just not come, too. 🤷🏻♀️
NTA. If K is so adamant that C be invited, don’t invite, or disinvite K, so they can go do something with C. It’s YOUR party and YOU can invite whoever the hell YOU want. C sounds like a piece of work and K doesn’t sound much better. Leave them off the guest list and enjoy yourself with real friends.
Sounds like 4th grade drama, don’t play.
Remove K from the group chat.