I (42M) have a brother in law who is getting married and has his Stag and Doe this weekend, through the whole process he has discussed details about the event with my wife but never with me even tho apparently I’m to do things at the event which has all been told to me by my wife. Now yesterday when I came home I over heard them talking about using my truck to move things to and from the event, when I brought this up to my wife she said that she told her brother it was ok which I said no it’s not cause they didn’t come and ask me and that it’s rude to assume id be ok with that.This lead to a huge fight where I was told I’m an asshole and not to come to the event if I’m not willing to help, so am I the asshole
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I (42M) have a brother in law who is getting married and has his Stag and Doe this weekend, through the whole process he has discussed details about the event with my wife but never with me even tho apparently I’m to do things at the event which has all been told to me by my wife. Now yesterday when I came home I over heard them talking about using my truck to move things to and from the event, when I brought this up to my wife she said that she told her brother it was ok which I said no it’s not cause they didn’t come and ask me and that it’s rude to assume id be ok with that.This lead to a huge fight where I was told I’m an asshole and not to come to the event if I’m not willing to help, so am I the asshole
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> I said no to allowing my brother in law to use my truck and only going through my wife to ask, I might be the asshole cause I should be more willing to help family
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NTA. It’s your truck, not a community tool. He and your wife should have asked you directly.
Sounds like they might be threatening you with a good time… NTA.
NTA. People don’t get to volunteer your time and your goods for their own use. That very much includes your wife.
Fuck no brother. It’s your truck man. It’s wrong to assume. My sister in law is like this. So I get it man. But I can say my wife does back me up.
Nta. Its common courtesy to ask and they didnt. They are TAs. Dont go to the event. Go off in truck for the day and do something fun. You have a self centred wife
NTA
Your wife is the AH.