A friend asked me to borrow my car for couple of hours. But I said no because I don’t like people using my stuff especially a car, but he said that it is for an emergency and it was urgent, I said that I can give him a ride but he declined, so I did not give him the car. Then he just ghosted me.
Later the same day he posted an IG story from the beach and I asked him so was it for emergency or not. He told me he lied because it is not that serious and maybe then I could have given the car. So I called him out for that, but our friend group keeps defending him… I feel lost, AITA here?
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A friend asked me to borrow my car for couple of hours. But I said no because I don’t like people using my stuff especially a car, but he said that it is for an emergency and it was urgent, I said that I can give him a ride but he declined, so I did not give him the car. Then he just ghosted me.
Later the same day he posted an IG story from the beach and I asked him so was it for emergency or not. He told me he lied because it is not that serious and maybe then I could have given the car. So I called him out for that, but our friend group keeps defending him… I feel lost, AITA here?
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> 1. I did not borrow a car to my friend
2. Because my friend was telling me it was an emergency but still I did not give him the car
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NTA
Of course you aren’t an AH.
Cars are one of those things that require the highest level of trust to lend to someone. Guess what happens if your friend does something stupid, dangerous, or illegal while driving your car. Guess who is liable. That’s right, you.
And then your friend went and proved you right.
You need better friends.
This guy lied about an “emergency” to try to get use of your car, and they’re DEFENDING him for lying?
They aren’t your friends.
You are absolutely NTA.
NTA. i’m also very protective of my stuff and it’s a very fine boundary. the fact they lied to try and get the car is even worse.
NTA. You need better friends.
Absolutely NTA Never lend your car to someone who is not on your insurance. You don’t know his driving record, you don’t even know if he really has a drivers license. You could end up liable for any damage he causes with your car and you could end up financially ruined by that. He’s a moocher and a liar.
He lied about an emergency just to borrow your car, that’s manipulative. You offered him a ride, which was more than fair. If someone ghosts you over not lending them your car, they weren’t a real friend to begin with. NTA!!
NTA. He straight up lied just to use your car, that’s not cool at all. You even offered a ride, he chose to lie instead. I’d be pissed too, that’s not what friends do.
Is he on your insurance? If no? Then no
Nta. Even if it was an actual emergency,it is still your car. Uber and other modes of transportation exist. Would the other friends offer up their cars to borrow to this friend (who’s is apparently a liar and talking sh*t about you behind your back)?
NTA
He wouldn’t accept a no. He lied about an emergency. Then admitted it and essentially blamed you.
Never lend your car, too much can go wrong. And you will have a hard time getting someone to repair a dent or scratch, cause as the guy said ” it’s not that serious”.
I would never lend my car to this so called friend who lies about emergencies. He would lie about having insurance too I bet and stick you with the bill when he had an accident. You need better friends.
Absolutely NTA- his lying about MISUSING your vehicle proves that all on its own.
Also, the rest of your friend group is trash. You’d be better off without any of them if they can’t see that what your friend did was totally crap.
Find a better friend group.
NTA. Sounds like he’s a taker. Takers take, it’s what they do. They take until the giver either has nothing left to give or finally refuses to give anymore. The taker will then find someone else to take from and blame you for their troubles.
Your car would have come back at best with an empty gas tank, at worse needing to be retrieved from some tow yard needing to be fixed.
They are defending a manipulative asshole. You should reevaluate your friend group.
Tell your friend group why didn’t they let her m use their car? You nNEVER loan a car for your spouse.
Your friends can loan their cars next time
Tell your friends that he lies about having an emergency.
Good luck to everyone who has an actual emergency.
NTA. A good basic rule to follow: Never lend your car to anyone.
NTA. He wanted to take advantage of your sense of charity and lied to you for his own gain.
But now you know. If he ever asks for a favour in future, just say no. Don’t offer options. If other people have an opinion, remind them that they are welcome to offer assistance as they can, however you will not be manipulated again.
Ignore them and this little drama will die down and you will know not to ever trust your “friend” again. NTA.
NTA. He’s a liar ffs, how can anyone be defending him? You have $hi+ friends.
NTA
Lending someone your car is a big deal. I don’t lend my car to ANYONE but family and the family is limited to my siblings and parents (no other relatives). Turns out it wasn’t an emergency since he went to the beach and declined your offer for a ride.
If your friends are siding with him, I think it might be time to find new friends who share similar values…like the fact no one is entitled to your things. They may ask but saying no doesn’t make you a bad guy.
is your car still the way it was this time yesterday?
then, no, nta