People of the Internet I need your help! Next year my husband‘s nephew is getting married. It is an out of the country wedding. We live in the U.S. My brother-in-law asked my husband if he can pick up his 20-year-old daughter from Canada and bring her with him because this is going to be her first flight alone overseas. My husband‘s niece is married and has the means to purchase her own plane ticket to her brother‘s wedding, but my husband wants to pay for her ticket because he missed her wedding last year. I told my husband that he could not purchase her plane ticket because it makes no sense and we are not responsible for her. A $2500+ plane ticket is a lot of money and we are living paycheck to paycheck. She’s not our responsibility to my husband is now mad at me refuses to talk to me and is giving me the cold shoulder and has become very distant. Am I wrong for not understanding?
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People of the Internet I need your help! Next year my husband‘s nephew is getting married. It is an out of the country wedding. We live in the U.S. My brother-in-law asked my husband if he can pick up his 20-year-old daughter from Canada and bring her with him because this is going to be her first flight alone overseas. My husband‘s niece is married and has the means to purchase her own plane ticket to her brother‘s wedding, but my husband wants to pay for her ticket because he missed her wedding last year. I told my husband that he could not purchase her plane ticket because it makes no sense and we are not responsible for her. A $2500+ plane ticket is a lot of money and we are living paycheck to paycheck. She’s not our responsibility to my husband is now mad at me refuses to talk to me and is giving me the cold shoulder and has become very distant
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NTA.
$2500 is ALOT of money. Especially if you are living paycheck to paycheck.
Also 20 years old is plenty old enough to fly alone.
Yta for wall of text/using speech to text, and saying “not letting”. While your position might be the correct one, the way you present yourself is classic AH.
Adults are rarely in a position to “not let” another adult do something. They compromise and don’t use those kind of phrases
NTA
If you had money to spare I could see it being okay, but not if you live pay check to pay check.
NTA. Both of you need to be on the same page especially living paycheck to paycheck. Even if you weren’t living paycheck to paycheck a $2500 ticket is crazy expensive
Maybe husband can get a side gig to pay for it so it doesn’t come out of the household money. (And keep the side gig to better your situation, after)
NTA. Is it too late to get rid of him and have an actual good life?
Leaning towards NTA, but potential AH depending on how you responded when husband brought this up.
This should be a conversation between the two of you, especially given your financial circumstances. Icing you out is immature.
Also, niece is old enough to get married but not fly by herself?? Odd.
I must’ve missed something because I don’t even understand why he was asked (I understand the traveling together), and also…should he even be going if you’re living paycheque to paycheque.?!
INFO: was he planning to use HIS money or your joint, HOUSEHOLD money? 👀
NAH. People who can’t attend weddings typically send a gift. Was a gift sent last year? The gift y’all would’ve sent wouldn’t have been $2500 anyway.
NTA. $2500 is a lot of money when you’re living paycheck to paycheck. If you wanted $2500 for your niece/nephew would that be ok with him?
NTA
That’s legit insane. You all don’t have the available funds to do something like that.
and so what if he missed the wedding – was he going to buy a $2,500 gift? Of course not.
I don’t like to see a partner “forbidding” another from doing something but you don’t have the income for him to buy her a plane ticket and it’s not reasonable he’s suggesting it.
NTA obviously. Simply put you can’t afford it.
NTA You are living paycheck to paycheck. That is too much money to spend on his niece when your family is struggling financially. I don’t get why he is even going to a wedding abroad when you are not in a solid place with finances.
When you have a major appliance or vehicle breakdown will your husband’s brother or niece help you out? That money he plans to spend should go to an emergency fund. When you live away from family it means you don’t get to attend all the events. Your husband’s priority should go be his immediate family until you can afford other things.
NTA….2500 is a ridiculous gift when you don’t have expendible income. Doez your BIL expect you to biy her ticket ?
Tell her the flight your taking and she can make arrangements. Also , a pick up in Canada is a big ask…not just an hour drive , unless you both live by the border.