My sister crashed her car last week and it was completely her fault because she was texting and rear ended someone at a red light. Her insurance is handling it but the repairs will take 2-3 weeks. She asked to borrow my car during that time since I work from home and “don’t really need it.” I said no because 1) she literally just proved she’s not a careful driver and 2) if something happens to my car I’ll be the one without transportation. She’s calling me selfish and saying family should help each other out. My parents are on her side saying I should be more understanding since “accidents happen”, but this wasn’t really an accident because it was careless behavior that could have hurt someone.
I offered to drive her places when she really needs it, but she says that’s not the same as having her own freedom (keep in mind we’re talking about MY car). Now she’s taking Ubers everywhere and complaining about the cost and trying to make me feel guilty. AITA for not lending her my car?
AITA for not letting my sister borrow my car after she crashed her own?
r/AITAH
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No you’re not AH. And never let other people guilt trip you to do things. She clearly isn’t responsible behind the wheel. And probably hasn’t learned her lesson so she’ll do the same thing while driving your car. And just like you said you’ll be the one without a car. Protect your stuff. She has to learn her lesson so if she wants to complain about taking uber then oh well. I guess she won’t text and drive next time. Do. Not. Let. Your. Family. Guilt. Trip. You!!!
NTA. It was her fault so she has to live with the consequences.
Why can’t your parents lend her their car?
NTA – tell your parents lend her their car
NTA & she shouldn’t have been so stupid
NTA. She totaled her car texting, she doesn’t get to gamble with yours.
NTA. She’s complaining about the situation you’d be in if you lent her your car.
NTA She’s shown she’s not trustworthy.
Is it the first time? She probably learned her lesson and become way more careful in the future.
People make mistakes, as stupid as can be.
Tell your parents to let her side their cars or hire her one
There’s no reason for you to feel guilty. These are the consequences of her actions. She could have killed somebody… she was careless and your parents are supporting that carelessness. Let them give her their car. You are in no financial position to lose your vehicle if she should make another critical mistake. Tell your sister , play stupid games, win stupid prizes
Anyone who texts and drives doesn’t deserve your car. Tell your parents to rent her one. NTA
This one again.
NTA Learn to not care what idiots think. It’s a wonderful skill that will hold you in good stead throughout your life
NTA. Why doesn’t she have a rental? Does she not have rental coverage on her insurance?
” she says that’s not the same as having her own freedom”
NTA. So you’re supposed to limit yourself to give her freedom? Yeah, no. That’s not how it works.
NTA, your parent can loan her THEIR car. this is a good lesson for her. if too easy she will do it again she is lucky she didn’t hurt or kill anyone or herself…also she won’t be on your insurance she can get a rental.
NTA. She’s not entitled to your stuff, especially after proving she’s reckless with her own. Actions have consequences, even when you’re related.
NTA….I am not sure where you live, but our state just want no phones while driving. You cannot hold it, you cannot look at it when at a stop sign, red light, etc. It is not to be in your hands at any time while driving. (Although, I have yet to see this enforced).
If your parents are so for your sister, why don’t they let her borrow their car(s)?
Does your sister not have a rental policy on her insurance? usually you get at least a 30 day rental when you need it for accident repairs.
Do not feel guilty. Your sister could have very well hurt someone and you do not want that to happen when she is driving your vehicle. Sister has other options.
Have your parents let her use their car and crash it.
Nope, not at all. I don’t blame you. If your parents bring it up, ask them to loan her their car and walk away. Heavy on the walking away or wishing them a good day but hanging up.
NTA tell your parents to lend her their car then since as they say accidents happen.
NTA
“My parents are on her side saying I should be more understanding since “accidents happen”” .. tell your parents to lend them one of THEIR cars.
Do not lend your car to a known irresponsible driver.
NTA- you’re just protecting your property you saw what she did to her car
You don’t wanna risk losing yours
One word: Uber.
Her insurance will get her a rental. It should be listed in her plan. Suggest that she take a defensive driving cost as it should give her a discount on her insurance which is going to go up. Tell her she can’t drive your car because of her texting.
If she has the money for Ubers, loaning her your car shouldn’t even be on the table.
NTA. You’re 100% right — she was careless. She shouldn’t be given another car to wreck.
Honestly, your insurance may not even allow you to lend it to someone who isn’t on your policy.
If your parents feel bad, they can loan her a car or rent her one.
NTA- It’s not your fault your sister didn’t get full coverage that included a rental while her car was being repaired. And remind her of that since it will happen again and she’s complaining about the cost of Ubers.
Does her insurance not cover a rental?
Tell your parents to loan her their car. Let your parents use yours.
put your parents in the same position and see if they dont react, the same as you did.
NTA. When someone plays the “ Family” card that’s an immediate red flag.
NTA
Freedom comes with price. In this. War it’ll be through higher insurance premiums and Ubers. It should not be a price you pay for her.
Don’t your parents have a car? They should be more understanding because accidents happen and hand their car keys to their favorite daughter.
It is not your place to provide for their favorite child, they are the parents, not you.
It’s ironic that she complains that “not the same as having her own freedom” but she is perfectly fine with robbing you of yours. Don’t let her use the car. I speak from very expensive experience. Tell your parents since they’re so understanding, they can rent her a car.
She lost her freedom for three weeks. Dont let her borrow the car and follow through with driving her places.