For a little back story, my daughter has been friends with a neighbor in our apartment complex who is a few years younger than her For several years. In the beginning, they were inseparable and did everything together often playing at each other’s houses. I would watch him and his mom would let her go over there for hours at a time. As time went on, I noticed his mom making more questionable life choices, risky decisions, and even cycling through jobs at a crazy rate. Then I found out she had a boyfriend. I looked into this guy because I just did not have a good feeling about him. He was on the registry. I immediately forbid my daughter go over to their house. My daughter was understandably upset. I sat her down and explained. I talked to her about what this guy did to another girl close to her age that got him into trouble and why I could not risk her going over there. She understood. When her friend asked why she stopped playing with him, he told his mom. The mom was mad. She said I was a b**h for telling her son why my daughter couldn’t go over anymore and his new “dad” didn’t even do those things and it was all lies and blah, blah, blah. She stopped talking to me, avoided me, unfriended me on all social media. This guy isn’t even supposed to be on they property because it is HUD housing but for some reason, they won’t get rid of him. So for 2 years now, my daughter’s friend has continuously asked if I can let her go over there to play with him whenever his “dad” isn’t home and when I refuse, he gets upset. I’m sorry, but if his mom is letting a dangerous predator live with her and her son, would she really keep my daughter safe? Am I really the a*hole?
AITA For not letting my young daughter go to her friend’s house where a predator lives?
r/AITAH
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Alert the rest of the neighbours. Can you get a restraining order against the predator where you live?
Is he allowed to live with a child? Seems like a call to CPS was in order about two years ago. Have you told other neighbors that a register child sex offender is living in the building? Being proactively safe isnt an asshole behavior. NTA
Invite the boy to your place. He needs a safe space away from the predator. Call CPS until they do something, same with HUD or find his parole officer, surely living with a young child is a violation.
Why are YOU the bad guy here? Is he even allowed to live with a kid?
NTA. You will never be the AH for protecting your child. End of story.
NTA. You’re doing exactly what a responsible parent should do. Protecting your child from a known danger. It’s heartbreaking that your daughter lost a friend over this, but her safety comes first, always. The fact that this man is on the registry and not even supposed to be on the property is more than enough reason to draw a hard boundary. You’re not punishing anyone, you’re preventing harm. That mom’s anger says more about her priorities than yours.
This post shouldn’t even exist. No you are not the AH, you are protecting your daughter. Obviously the boy will have trouble understanding the decisions you’ve made or why you’ve made them, the logical/reasoning part of his brain is still underdeveloped.
You’re daughter understands the gravity of the situation, thats something to be thankful for. Any kid would be upset initially and thats completely normal for them to feel that way.
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NTA! You did the right thing. The right thing can be hard sometimes. I’d report him to your authorities because he’s likely not supposed to be there.
If he’s on the list, has he registered himself as living at that address? If he hasn’t, it’s a felony.