It was one of my friends’ birthday and she invited me to her dorm. I showed up and it was sort of a vibe where everyone bought their own pizzas and ate them. I wasn’t feeling too hungry or in the mood to spend money so I just bought a can of Pringles. Everyone instantly took to eating from my can and I did not mind sharing. My friend then offered everyone including me a brownie. I initially politely declined insisting I was fine with the Pringles. Bur when she insisted I gave in and ate one. After the party, she called me up 7 times the next day within a span of an hour asking me to pay for the brownie I ate. I told her I didn’t have enough cash and that she’d have to wait but she still kept calling. Finally I got mad. I had a cup noodles worth the same as the brownie and went to her room and gave it to her.
After this she said I was in the wrong and that she still wanted the money. I refused since she offered the brownie to me on her birthday, after I declined without making it clear I had to pay for it. We never talked after that, but I wonder if I’m in the wrong.
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It was one of my friends’ birthday and she invited me to her dorm. I showed up and it was sort of a vibe where everyone bought their own pizzas and ate them. I wasn’t feeling too hungry or in the mood to spend money so I just bought a can of Pringles. Everyone instantly took to eating from my can and I did not mind sharing. My friend then offered everyone including me a brownie. I initially politely declined insisting I was fine with the Pringles. Bur when she insisted I gave in and ate one. After the party, she called me up 7 times the next day within a span of an hour asking me to pay for the brownie I ate. I told her I didn’t have enough cash and that she’d have to wait but she still kept calling. Finally I got mad. I had a cup noodles worth the same as the brownie and went to her room and gave it to her.
After this she said I was in the wrong and that she still wanted the money. I refused since she offered the brownie to me on her birthday, after I declined without making it clear I had to pay for it. We never talked after that, but I wonder if I’m in the wrong.
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> The action I took was not paying up for the brownies. I think it could make me the asshole because I did eat someone’s brownie and refused to pay when they asked but I think it depends on the context which is why I need clarification
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NTA, the whole story sound very weird. Did she say something to you before offering you the brownie? Maybe it was a “special” brownie which made it more expensive? But even then she can’t expect you to pay for it.
NTA
That’s some weird interaction. Just make sure to ask “how much” next time she “offers” something.
NTA.
she offered- insisted you have the brownie. that was her decision to do so. AND you should have kept your dang noodles!
NTA
They didnt tell you to pay at the time they simply offered, end of
NTA, I guess I kind of understand being a broke college student and having a potluck kinda thing for your birthday but to basically force someone to eat a brownie and then charge them for it is really weird behavior especially calling them 7 times for what is like at most $3. Sounds like the brownie was like a birthday cake, who charges their friends for a piece of their birthday cake?
This person is not your friend.
NTA
You are absolutely not the asshole here. Who invites people to a birthday gathering, offers them food multiple times, and then demands payment after the fact? That’s weird and tacky. If she expected people to pay, she should have said so beforehand, not hunted you down like a debt collector over a single brownie. You even tried to make up for it with the cup noodles, which was more than necessary. If she cut you off over this, she wasn’t a real friend to begin with.
NTA. Did you Venmo everyone who took one of your Pringles? It sounds like these “friends” think you should share with them while they don’t share with you. Was there something “special” (cannabis) in the brownies that made them so valuable?
Does she do drugs? I wonder if this is her way of trying to get cash for drugs…
NTA
But can I say how much I love that you repaid by Cup of Noodles?
When the subject of celebration at a birthday party is sending out itemized charges to their attendees.
That party sounds like HELL.
No thanks for the invitation in the first place, but NTA