AITA for not paying half the ticket ?

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Should I payback half of my ex girlfriends plane ticket when i promised i would pay half. We originally got the ticket cheap for $180 but she got upset close to the day of the flight and cancelled last minute, and then came around later and rebooked it again but this time it was $500. Fast forward to the week after she got back home from visiting me and she broke up with me. Should I still pay her back half of the flight even though she caused it to be more expensive last minute?

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    Should I payback half of my ex girlfriends plane ticket when i promised i would pay half. We originally got the ticket cheap for $180 but she got upset close to the day of the flight and cancelled last minute, and then came around later and rebooked it again but this time it was $500. Fast forward to the week after she got back home from visiting me and she broke up with me. Should I still pay her back half of the flight even though she caused it to be more expensive last minute?

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  3. CarinaBelleCutie Avatar

    NTA. You agreed to split the original $180 ticket, not a last-minute $500 rebooking that she chose to do. It’s not your responsibility to cover the cost of her change in plans.

  4. ScarletNotThatOne Avatar

    Hmm. It’s hard to judge without knowing more about why she got upset close to the day and etc.

  5. Prestigious_Blood_38 Avatar

    NTA she cancelled and rebooked, her problem

  6. WelfordNelferd Avatar

    Probably NTA, unless you agreed to pay 1/2 of the $500 ticket at the time it was purchased, and now don’t want to because she broke up with you.

  7. uForbidden Avatar

    NTA. Your original agreement was for the $180. She should understand that you were about to cover $90 with her, and not everyone can just suddenly cover $250 instead.

  8. Jocelyn-1973 Avatar

    Send her $90 and call it a day.

    NTA

  9. sublime_369 Avatar

    Stick to what you agreed to – you made a deal and the breakup shouldn’t affect that. What did you agree?

    If it was half of $180, give her $90.

    If you agreed to pay half the $500, give her $250.

  10. Tina-Tuna Avatar

    If she isn’t asking for the money i’d say no, however out of being a nice guy you could pay her back the $90 you originally promised and not half of the $500.

  11. Kitchen-Arm-3288 Avatar

    I think you should pay what you agreed – half of a $180 flight – or $90.

    I do not think OP should pay half of a last-minute $500 flight, unless there was a conversation about re-booking the flight.

    Still being together *AFTER* the trip does not impact whether the agreement was made *BEFORE* the trip, and the agreement was not contingent on the relationship lasting.

    That said; unless there is critical context missing for why she canceled & rebooked, or why she broke up with you – you are NTA for refusing to pay $250 (almost tripple what you agreed) for the last-minute booked flight. But you WBTA if you do not pay the $90 you agreed simply because the relationship didn’t last..

  12. klc81 Avatar

    NTA.

    If you want to be nice, pay her the originally agreed $90, but honestly, she’s your ex – her finances aren’t your problem.

  13. flash_gitzer Avatar

    Absolutely not. Don’t give her a cent. She made a series of poor decisions and needs to face the consequences, especially after she broke up with her. Block her and move on.

  14. sjw_7 Avatar

    NTA

    Tell her as a gesture of good will for the time you were together you will still pay the original $90 that you originally agreed to.

    Its a take it or leave it offer though as she is your ex-girlfriend now so nothing she can do about it anyway.

  15. MjolnirsBrokenHandle Avatar

    You should do what you say you are going to do, regardless of your social standing with people. If you promised to pay half of that original ticket, you should do so.

  16. Plastic_Cat9560 Avatar

    Is she asking for the money? If so, pay $90. You shouldn’t be responsible for her last minute changes because she has flying anxiety. If she’s not asking for it, and she’s an ex anyway, then it’s a non-issue.

  17. Signal-Maize309 Avatar

    Nope. It’s over. Walk away.

  18. Allintiger Avatar

    pay half the original ticket.

  19. SchoolBusDriver79 Avatar

    No. She cancelled the ticket herself. She got a refund from that, didn’t she? She’s the one who made the $500 ticket a necessity. Her problem. Plus, she broke up with you. You owe her nothing. NTA

  20. LelandHeron Avatar

    NTA:….at least not if you give her the original $90 you agreed to pay her.

  21. AITA476510719 Avatar

    In my opinion:

    The right thing to do is pay for half of the ticket you agreed to. Which it seems like $90. If you were part of the conversation of the $500 ticket, pay $250.

    The petty thing is to say she’s an ex, block the number, and move on. I personally couldn’t do that in most situations. It just doesn’t align with me morally.

  22. CRIMSON_TIDE- Avatar

    Nta. She broke up with you. All commitments are abolished. Plus you only agreed on the $180 ticket. I definitely wouldn’t be giving her $250

  23. Ok_Maintenance7716 Avatar

    Pay $90 then dump her.

  24. Chiron008 Avatar

    If the ticket was originally bought for $180, you’re on the hook for half of that.
    The agreement ceased to be valid once your gf cancelled and rebooked.
    Pay the $90.
    NTA.

  25. H_Lunulata Avatar

    INFO

    You should pay the $90 you agreed to pay.

  26. creamatwinkie Avatar

    ESH.

    Just give her the $90 you owed her originally.

  27. lscraig1968 Avatar

    You need to honor your agreement. Whichever fare you agreed to pay half of. Then walk away.