I am in college, and we just finished a big group project worth a huge portion of our final grade. My professor let us form groups, and unfortunately, I ended up paired with him, who is supposed to be my friend. From day one, he did absolutely nothing. he skipped every group meeting, ignored our messages, and when he did show up in class, he’d say things like, Don’t worry, I’ll add my part later. Spoiler: He never did! lol
I ended up doing almost the entire project myself. I stayed up late, researched, wrote, and edited everything. When it came time to submit, I had to put the names of the contributors. I decided not to put his because… well, he didn’t contribute a single sentence. It felt wrong for him to get credit for something he didn’t lift a finger for. When the project was graded and he realized his name wasn’t on it, he blew up at me. He said I sabotaged his grade and that as his friend, I should’ve had his back. I told him friendship doesn’t mean covering for laziness. If he wanted credit, he should’ve actually done some work.
He’s calling me as backstabber and telling mutual friends I screwed him over. But honestly? I feel like he tried to use me and I just refused to be her free ride.
So, AITA for not putting my partner’s name on our group project since he didn’t contribute anything?
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I am in college, and we just finished a big group project worth a huge portion of our final grade. My professor let us form groups, and unfortunately, I ended up paired with him, who is supposed to be my friend. From day one, he did absolutely nothing. he skipped every group meeting, ignored our messages, and when he did show up in class, he’d say things like, Don’t worry, I’ll add my part later. Spoiler: He never did! lol
I ended up doing almost the entire project myself. I stayed up late, researched, wrote, and edited everything. When it came time to submit, I had to put the names of the contributors. I decided not to put his because… well, he didn’t contribute a single sentence. It felt wrong for him to get credit for something he didn’t lift a finger for. When the project was graded and he realized his name wasn’t on it, he blew up at me. He said I sabotaged his grade and that as his friend, I should’ve had his back. I told him friendship doesn’t mean covering for laziness. If he wanted credit, he should’ve actually done some work.
He’s calling me as backstabber and telling mutual friends I screwed him over. But honestly? I feel like he tried to use me and I just refused to be her free ride.
So, AITA for not putting my partner’s name on our group project since he didn’t contribute anything?
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> 1. Since my partner didn’t contribute anything for our project
2. I didn’t out his name on the group and got no grades for that.
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NTA. I would say maybe you should have communicated it both with him and your professor in advance, to cover yourself, but I don’t think you did anything wrong in not including his name after his behaviour.
NTA. As your friend, he should have fulfilled his responsibility.
NTA. It is totally his OWN fault and he screwed himself over, not the other way around.
NTA
If he had a legitimate personal issue that made things harder for him, he would/should have communicated that with you and the professor. He didn’t.
It seems that he just didn’t care to put in any effort and was COUNTING on you feeling pressured (as his friend) to gift him credit. He wanted a full free ride – didn’t even make a nominal bit of effort. That is no friend.
I’ve read this before. Please decide if your partner was male or female. “her free ride”, “he didn’t contribute anything”.
NTA. From now on, whenever he calls you a backstabber or tells someone that you screwed him over, ask him to list what he actually contributed to the project, and to give a detailed description of what your project was about (not the brief, but your group’s response). Assuming he won’t be able to answer either of those questions, that should clarify things to everyone else very quickly.
NTA. Writing his name would have been kind, but not doing so doesn’t make you bad, you don’t owe him anything.
Info: Can you hand on heart say that you raised your concerns with your ‘friend’ at least three times before you did this? Not hinting at it. Not skirting around the issue. Did you say ‘I don’t feel like you’re pulling your weight and it’s really pissing me off’?
I fully agree they shouldn’t get credit for not doing the work. But if they really were a friend, I don’t think you should have blindsided them.
And I think it’s safe to say they’re now an ex-friend. There’s no getting over that.
NTA Tell your mutual friends that he deliberately tried to use you. You just didn’t go along with it. That’s not back-stabbing — that’s refusing to be a doormat. If he’d done his part you would have helped him with it as his partner. You weren’t going to do absolutely all the work while he rudely blew you off every time and then put his name on your work like a good little sucker. Besides, he got 100% credit for every little bit of work he did, so what’s he complaining about? (He did literally zero work and so was given zero credit.)
NTA – he tried to take advantage of your friendship and it backfired. You did nothing wrong.