Me and my husband have a great relationship , we both work hard and now make alright money. nothing fancy but not bad either. He was always investing a rather large portion of his salary in all sorts of things and we often had to get by with mine. His investments werent all stupid and we didnt overall lose money in any month, over sometime now he saved up quite a bit of money and I asked him to buy us a home but he told me that would be “impractical” atm.
He instead wants to start a business importing high end winter wear to the country , selling stuff like expensive wool suits, jackets , yak wool carpets etc. I have faith in the fact that he always thinks all possiblities through and even in the worst case we wont lose everything. He already has a few places that are interested in buying that kinda stuff atleast now so even if it goes downhill we wont lose more than 40% of the money( which is worst case ) so I said yes go ahead.
Thats when he said that he wants me to quit my job and manage the place, there is very little actual work save finances( in which he’ll help me) since we hired 2 guys to pack and deliver it. I asked him why and he said that currently he makes more than me so just incase, added that if it goes well for year then he’ll quit his and get in full time after which I am free to go back or take a low stress low pay local job. He said he sees us as a team and would quit his job if I made more . He promised to help in everyway he can and ik he will keep it but I still asked him to wait.
After that he got kinda irritated and told me that I was not being “far sighted and prudent” , added that while this business wont make us massively rich , it will be enough to live a decent middle class life with very low work stress ( we both have tiring jobs) , we had a slight argument and while I understand the time and effort he put into saving the money and coming up with a viable business idea , I still dont want to so suddenly quit my job. Aita ?
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Me and my husband have a great relationship , we both work hard and now make alright money. nothing fancy but not bad either. He was always investing a rather large portion of his salary in all sorts of things and we often had to get by with mine. His investments werent all stupid and we didnt overall lose money in any month, over sometime now he saved up quite a bit of money and I asked him to buy us a home but he told me that would be “impractical” atm.
He instead wants to start a business importing high end winter wear to the country , selling stuff like expensive wool suits, jackets , yak wool carpets etc. I have faith in the fact that he always thinks all possiblities through and even in the worst case we wont lose everything. He already has a few places that are interested in buying that kinda stuff atleast now so even if it goes downhill we wont lose more than 40% of the money( which is worst case ) so I said yes go ahead.
Thats when he said that he wants me to quit my job and manage the place, there is very little actual work save finances( in which he’ll help me) since we hired 2 guys to pack and deliver it. I asked him why and he said that currently he makes more than me so just incase, added that if it goes well for year then he’ll quit his and get in full time after which I am free to go back or take a low stress low pay local job. He said he sees us as a team and would quit his job if I made more . He promised to help in everyway he can and ik he will keep it but I still asked him to wait.
After that he got kinda irritated and told me that I was not being “far sighted and prudent” , added that while this business wont make us massively rich , it will be enough to live a decent middle class life with very low work stress ( we both have tiring jobs) , we had a slight argument and while I understand the time and effort he put into saving the money and coming up with a viable business idea , I still dont want to so suddenly quit my job. Aita ?
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> Thats when he said that he wants me to quit my job and manage the place, there is very little actual work save finances( in which he’ll help me) since we hired 2 guys to pack and deliver it. I asked him why and he said that currently he makes more than me so just incase, added that if it goes well for year then he’ll quit his and get in full time after which I am free to go back or take a low stress low pay local job. He said he sees us as a team and would quit his job if I made more . He promised to help in everyway he can and ik he will keep it but I still asked him to wait.
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How do/will tariffs affect his shipping?
NTA Sounds like he doesn’t have a record of sharing his income with you, his money is “his” and he decides how to spend it. If you give up your paycheck to make his dream come true (and it sounds like it isn’t a sure thing), you will be working unpaid for him. He will have his paid job, plus any profit from his import business, and you will have…no income, and a pile of household bills. If there is “very little actual work” to do, he should be able to do it outside of his regular job, or you can share the work and the profit from the business.
NTA. His dream/his effort/his risk. Honestly, he sounds like the kind of guy who always has big get-rich ideas. He needs to put his own effort behind those to make them work.
INFO–You said there’s very little actual work involved. Is it actually necessary for one of you to quit your current job to run the new business, or is it something you could work on in the evenings/weekends? He explained why it would make more sense for you to quit than him, but not why it makes sense to quit at all. It seems far more prudent for you both to keep your day jobs until the new business has proven itself.
I sort of wonder if he sees your willingness/hesitance to quit to work on the business as an indicator of your faith in it/him. Can you assure him that you’re on board, and negotiate that you’ll both dedicate X-amount of time on set days to helping it succeed?
NTA. You are under no obligation to quit your job just because he wants to start a new money making scheme. And reading between the lines? He doesn’t want you to be making more money than him. He wants you financially dependent.
NTA, however your the two of you also don’t seem to have a shared financial goal. So whatever he makes from the business is his. Don’t quit your job. You also need to have a solid base underneath you.
Stick with your gut
NTA. It’s still better to have two incomes while he tries his hand at this business. I’m not sure why he doesn’t see that. I’m sure you can help with finances since “there is very little actual work” so that shouldn’t be a big deal.
NTA. Don’t quit your job. It’s his business, it’s his idea, he should be the one taking the risks.
If the business doesn’t work out, you wouldn’t be the one that has to work hard to bring your career back on track.
NTA. I could not be with someone this financially irresponsible. I would never feel safe.