I have one roommate that I’ve lived with for 2 years, we get along well generally.
I used to be really into coffee, gear and stuff, but I stopped drinking coffee like 6 months ago because I have some heart issues and already take stimulants for ADHD, so I weened myself off caffeine.
One of my coffee items is (…was) a glass Chemex coffee brewer. My roommate uses the Chemex to make his coffee every morning. The other day I accidentally knocked it over and it broke. They cost 40-50 bucks.
My roommate expects me to replace it, but it was mine, and I never use it, so why would I buy another one? If it was his, I obviously would’ve replaced it, becuase I broke it.
We never really argued about it, he just seemed absolutely mystified as to why I wouldn’t replace it when I broke it… but I never use it, and it was mine.
He’s been grumbling about using the worse plastic pourover thing every morning.
I’m actually planning on getting him one for his birthday, but it’s in two months and he’s bitching and moaning about it every day.
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I have one roommate that I’ve lived with for 2 years, we get along well generally.
I used to be really into coffee, gear and stuff, but I stopped drinking coffee like 6 months ago because I have some heart issues and already take stimulants for ADHD, so I weened myself off caffeine.
One of my coffee items is (…was) a glass Chemex coffee brewer. My roommate uses the Chemex to make his coffee every morning. The other day I accidentally knocked it over and it broke. They cost 40-50 bucks.
My roommate expects me to replace it, but it was mine, and I never use it, so why would I buy another one? If it was his, I obviously would’ve replaced it, becuase I broke it.
We never really argued about it, he just seemed absolutely mystified as to why I wouldn’t replace it when I broke it… but I never use it, and it was mine.
He’s been grumbling about using the worse plastic pourover thing every morning.
I’m actually planning on getting him one for his birthday, but it’s in two months and he’s bitching and moaning about it every day.
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NTA. It was yours. He can buy his own coffee maker.
NTA
As you said, it was yours, you broke it by accident but as you don’t drink coffee any more, why replace it?
nta.
he’s a moocher, and besides it’s not like you left him w no options, you yourself said he has another coffee-making device. if he needs a Chemex so bad he can buy one himself or wait two months.
NTA. And he would be getting a much smaller gift.
NTA remind him that it was yours, he was using it basically as a favor from you, and you could do anything you want with it. Forget breaking it you could’ve just thrown it away or given it to someone else. If he wants another one he needs to buy one of his own. He has no right to demand you replace something that wasn’t even his.
NTA
NTA. When I.moved in with my roommate he had a Keurig. I loved it and used it for my morning coffee. Like a month after I moved in. It stopped working. He doesn’t really drink coffee, he has purchased it for his Ex, our other roommate and I were the only ones that used it. When it quit working I purchased a coffee maker to use. I never in a million years would have expected him to replace it, even though it was his. Simply because he didn’t use it. To think otherwise is wildly entitled IMO.
NTA, Since it was yours, no need to replace it. He can go buy his own if he really wants one now.
BTW a Bodum glass coffee maker is like $20 on amazon (USA)
Give him the birthday present early and end this drama.
Honestly, no one’s fault, if you’re going to buy it for him anyway, wrap it up nicely right now and make it a gift. Make it clear that it’s an early birthday present for him.
No AITAs here it’s just that you said you really get on well which is a rare and valuable thing in a housemate. No, you do not have an obligation to replace it at all. Would I replace it as a gift?
Absolutely.
Always make life a bit easier for the people around you that you value if you can.
I know it’s annoying that he’s complaining about it, he was using it every day and enjoying it and items in kitchens in shared households can come to feel a bit like everyone’s. You did do him harm in a way, even if it was yours, loss affects humans more than gain. It doesn’t sound like he’s given you user vibes in any other way.
If you like him and he likes you and you get along well then that is to be valued, very painful to get a new housemate that may be worse over a minor issue.
It’s easy to be smart, it’s hard to be kind. Be kind and generous, the kind of person you want to be.
NTA
NTA, obviously. You can break, sell, or otherwise dispose of your items however you see fit
Oh wow. That’s rich. Of course NTA, but it never ceases to amaze me how entitled people can be.
NTA.
You can do whatever you wish with your personal items.
If it’s so important to him that it be replaced, he can purchase his own and use it as he sees fit.