So this lady (28F) never responds to my (20M) texts no matter how much I message her, no matter what it is. Let it be for any type of work, a thank you, or even a simple yes or no question, she just leaves me on read. So yesterday, she texted me for some work. Of course, I ignored her. Again, today, she sent a follow up. Now, I’m not sure if I should respond rn (don’t be like her) or jus ignore her (it would jus be foolish to help her given what she’s done)… So am I the asshole for not responding to her when she needed help?
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So this lady (28F) never responds to my (20M) texts no matter how much I message her, no matter what it is. Let it be for any type of work, a thank you, or even a simple yes or no question, she just leaves me on read. So yesterday, she texted me for some work. Of course, I ignored her. Again, today, she sent a follow up. Now, I’m not sure if I should respond rn (don’t be like her) or jus ignore her (it would jus be foolish to help her given what she’s done)… So am I the asswhole for not responding to her when she needed help?
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> 1. i didnt respond to someones text. 2. it might make me feel like the asshole bc its rude and i shouldnt be like her
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NTA but why do you keep texting her if she doesn’t reply? Leave her alone she obviously doesn’t want to speak to you
NTA You’re just giving back what she deserves tbh
Sounds like she’s a client of some kind? Or work colleague? It really depends what’s appropriate for your workplace. I’m leaning ESH as you should bring it up that you can’t do work if she doesn’t reply, instead of making petty revenge.
Is she your coworker? If so, why not email her or talk to her in person? I’ve only ever texted two of my colleagues, and that’s only because they’re my friends and we weren’t texting about work.
Nta. She’s been ignoring you forever and now suddenly wants something?? Girl bye, you’re not a doormat bro
NTA. Should’ve answered your texts while she could.
No not the aita
Well who is she to you? Coworker? Random woman whose number you have?
NTA – Ignore her the same way she did to you .it’s totally understandable .you need not be too good – she deserves it .