I (18f) have an older brother (19m) and younger sister (15f).
4 years ago when my brother got his permit, my grandparents bought an almost new Prius and said it would be for both of us to share. They made it very clear that we would both drive the car or my parents should sell it and split the money between us.
A year later when I got my permit I was barely able to drive the car, then when I got my license my parents got me a 12 year old civic because it would be too difficult for us to share a car and that’s the best they can afford.
My grandparents were pissed about the car situation, especially because my grandma said she picked that car out specifically for me (I’ve always been her favorite because I’m the only one that spends time with her or helps her out). They kept telling me to drive the civic until I was 18 and they’d fix it.
I turned 18 not that long ago and my grandma asked me what car I want. I told her i wanted a rav 4. A week later my uncle shows up with a brand new rav 4 hybrid for me. I love the car. When I’m having a rough day I literally just go out and sit in the car. It’s like my safe space.
My parents told my grandma it’s not fair that there’s a huge disparity between our cars and she told them it wouldn’t have happened if they would’ve either had us share the car or sold it and gotten us equal ones. My brother is jealous and hes asking my parents to trade his car in for one like mine but my parents don’t have that kind of money so they’re asking me to sell my car and get something “more appropriate” to make things fair.
I’m refusing because it was a gift from my grandma and I love it and now they’re saying I’m self centered and I need to think of my siblings (my younger sister isn’t getting a car at all).
My grandma says I deserve the car and they all suck but I’m starting to feel bad. AITA for not selling the car?
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I (18f) have an older brother (19m) and younger sister (15f).
4 years ago when my brother got his permit, my grandparents bought an almost new Prius and said it would be for both of us to share. They made it very clear that we would both drive the car or my parents should sell it and split the money between us.
A year later when I got my permit I was barely able to drive the car, then when I got my license my parents got me a 12 year old civic because it would be too difficult for us to share a car and that’s the best they can afford.
My grandparents were pissed about the car situation, especially because my grandma said she picked that car out specifically for me (I’ve always been her favorite because I’m the only one that spends time with her or helps her out). They kept telling me to drive the civic until I was 18 and they’d fix it.
I turned 18 not that long ago and my grandma asked me what car I want. I told her i wanted a rav 4. A week later my uncle shows up with a brand new rav 4 hybrid for me. I love the car. When I’m having a rough day I literally just go out and sit in the car. It’s like my safe space.
My parents told my grandma it’s not fair that there’s a huge disparity between our cars and she told them it wouldn’t have happened if they would’ve either had us share the car or sold it and gotten us equal ones. My brother is jealous and hes asking my parents to trade his car in for one like mine but my parents don’t have that kind of money so they’re asking me to sell my car and get something “more appropriate” to make things fair.
I’m refusing because it was a gift from my grandma and I love it and now they’re saying I’m self centered and I need to think of my siblings (my younger sister isn’t getting a car at all).
My grandma says I deserve the car and they all suck but I’m starting to feel bad. AITA for not selling the car?
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NTA !!!
NTA
Why can’t sis have the old civic?
NTA, I can see that your family way your family is upset.
Enjoy your car, the insurance is going to kill you.
You are NTA but would be if you sold that car. You grandparents have every right to spend their money on you. Nobody owes you brother anything.
NTA. Look, she is rewarding you while she is still here for actually giving a damn about her and showing up. She wanted you to have this gift and you want the gift. That your brother (who got an almost new Prius a few years ago while you drove a very used Civic) is pissed is not something you can do anything about. It’s for him to manage his feelings about the matter and it’s not something for you to solve.
Your parents are trying to appease him by playing the guilt card with you, but that’s really not fair to you and it’s not fair to your grandmother who was so generous to you both. Enjoy the car.
NTA. Your parents had the opportunity to make it fair for you both but your parents gave the shared car to your brother instead of doing what g-ma asked. Enjoy your car!
NTA. Sounds like your brother made no effort to share the Prius and your parents didn’t sell it and split the money; since they went back on the deal, your grandparents made it right.
NTA
Your parents played favourites and are still playing favourites. Theyll be doing this for the rest of your life I guarantee so enjoy the car.
It is NTA. It was bought for you. You cannot be expected to give it up because they did not buy one for somebody else as well.
NTA. Your brother got to drive the Prius while you got a geriatric Civic. If the Prius was “almost new” four years ago, it should still be a very good car.
If he wants a different car, let him buy one, like most of us have to do.
NTA
Ask Grandma to keep the paperwork in her name and just add you as an authorized user to the insurance.
That way they can strong arm you into anything since it’s still her car.
Only make changes after you’ve moved out on your own.
They’ve got the Civic back.
If they want to screw over your sister like they did you with the Prius, that’s on them.
At this rate, in 10-20 years I wonder which kids are going to come back to visit them?
Nta. Grandparents shouldn’t gift like that due to inevitable drama tho. That said they are technically free to do so, obv. You’re 18; time to start extricating yourself from this mess. Don’t get on the debt train. Save $. You’re a step ahead of so many who take on a car payment. Use this boon wisely.
Next time bro/mom bring it up just say “FAFO”. Excellent example.
You’re all lucky to have gotten free new cars, yet they’re all behaving like entitled brads. Your brother is whiny and out of line. He got a car already, and he didn’t even have to share it. You got an old car for years. Nor your sister can drive that old car. SMH
NTA
NTA you’re 18, you’re an adult. Your parents have no say.
NTA. Keep your keys somewhere safe at all times. Hide the paperwork.