We are foster parents and took guardianship of a teenager,female, at 15 1/2 after having had her for a little over a year. She had said she wanted this when the options were laid out for her, none of which involved leaving our home unless that’s what she wanted. We have done everything to try and help her be successful and were probably to easy on her to be honest. Well over the summer she moved on with her boyfriend and got herself pregnant. For context she just turned 18 in August. She is a senior in high school and supposedly going to graduate in December now. We still send her money every so often for food and pay her phone bill. Her boyfriend totaled his car last year and we let him borrow our extra car for a couple months in which time they used and abused it. He did get another car but it’s a POS. Lately they have been trying to buy this car from us. My husband, whose name the vehicle is in, has told them no it’s going to be his daily driver once it’s fixed and street legal (it needs some minor repairs and new tags as they are expires). They keep on us how they don’t understand why we don’t sell it to them we don’t use it etc. part of me wants to just give in as I hate confrontation and the extra money would be nice. But having the extra car has been a life saver multiple times in the past and will be in the future. So am I the asshole for not selling it to them?
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We are foster parents and took guardianship of a teenager,female, at 15 1/2 after having had her for a little over a year. She had said she wanted this when the options were laid out for her, none of which involved leaving our home unless that’s what she wanted. We have done everything to try and help her be successful and were probably to easy on her to be honest. Well over the summer she moved on with her boyfriend and got herself pregnant. For context she just turned 18 in August. She is a senior in high school and supposedly going to graduate in December now. We still send her money every so often for food and pay her phone bill. Her boyfriend totaled his car last year and we let him borrow our extra car for a couple months in which time they used and abused it. He did get another car but it’s a POS. Lately they have been trying to buy this car from us. My husband, whose name the vehicle is in, has told them no it’s going to be his daily driver once it’s fixed and street legal (it needs some minor repairs and new tags as they are expires). They keep on us how they don’t understand why we don’t sell it to them we don’t use it etc. part of me wants to just give in as I hate confrontation and the extra money would be nice. But having the extra car has been a life saver multiple times in the past and will be in the future. So am I the asshole for not selling it to them?
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> We won’t sell our newly adult child and their significant other our extra car because the SO has totaled their car then got a POS money pit car plus we like having a backup vehicle that is better on gas. I feel guilty as our adult child is now pregnant will not work is still in HS. So am I the asshole for it selling them our extra car?
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NTA. It’s your car, you do with it what you want. Just because they want a better car does not obligate you to sell them one you aren’t even looking to get rid of. They are adults and figure out an alternative.
NTA. You have plans for the car.
They are adults and soon to be parents. They need to figure it out.
NTA, but she did not get herself pregnant.
It’s cute that you think they are actually going to give you money for that car. They are going to lowball you and default on the loan if you try and sell it to them. Also, if it breaks down, who do you think they’ll hold responsible?
Don’t sell it to them. NTA.