My(16) brother(22) was very pleased when Manchester United beat Chelsea. Won a lot of money. He called his friends and invited them over to our house to celebrate. Our parents were out of town so I reminded him that Dad doesn’t want him touching the beer. He didn’t listen though. I watched him and his friends drink for a while before going out for coffee. Took a book with me and sat and read for a while.
When our parents came home, our dad was very upset and asked why I didn’t do more to try to stop him from drinking. He said I should have tried to reason with him instead of just leaving.
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My(16) brother(22) was very pleased when Manchester United beat Chelsea. Won a lot of money. He called his friends and invited them over to our house to celebrate. Our parents were out of town so I reminded him that Dad doesn’t want him touching the beer. He didn’t listen though. I watched him and his friends drink for a while before going out for coffee. Took a book with me and sat and read for a while.
When our parents came home, our dad was very upset and asked why I didn’t do more to try to stop him from drinking. He said I should have tried to reason with him instead of just leaving.
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What is your age?
Tell your dad that your older brother is your offspring and that you hold no authority over him.
NTA, it’s definitely not your responsibility as the younger sibling to police your adult brother’s behaviour & your dad absolutely shouldn’t be making you feel like it is
Doesn’t your dad have an older brother or something? He can say he wished you would have done more to stop it but he should focus his negative energy on your brother instead. Soft NTA
NTA. He’s a full blown adult and should have been the one looking after you.
Why should the teenager be responsible when the FULL GROWN MAN wasn’t
You reminded him not to touch your dad’s booze. What more can you do, your parents job? Plus, he is an adult! A 22 y/o riding high from winning a bet isn’t going listen to a younger sibling.
NTA
NTA you’re the younger sibling. How are you supposed to control your older brother’s actions, like u are the police?
NTA. And honestly its crazy that your dad got upset at you at all when youre 16 and your brother is 22. My younger sibling could basically burn the house down while im not home and I would still somehow get blamed for it. Its wild seeing a younger sibling getting some blame
NTA. You’re 16 and he’s 22. He’s not going to listen to you. And it’s not your job.
It’s not your job to babysit your adult brother. You reminded your brother about dad’s rule, and removed yourself from the house. If your dad keeps bringing the issue up and trying to put any blame on you, tell him to lock up his alcohol the next time he leaves.
Lmao NTA.
Why would he get on your case instead of your brother’s? You know the one who actually took the beer.
It’s safer for your brother and his friends to be drinking at your house with a family member there than any other place. Take it away and they’ll just go do it anyway somewhere else.
NTA, but your dad is certainly up for that title. You did due diligence. It is not your job to parent your older sibling, that would be *checks notes* your dad’s job, as a matter of fact. Doesn’t sound like he’s doing a very good job of it in general, if he’s blaming you for any of it.
NTA, not sure why the 22 year old requires a babysitter but a 16 year old sibling should not be expected to do that job.
Also a 16 year old telling a group of older drunken men to stop drinking seems like a pretty unsafe situation, going out with a book makes a lot of sense.
NTA, you grabbed coffee; he grabbed Dad’s beer.
NTA. How is your older and adult brother’s drinking YOUR responsibility? Someone wants to get drunk there’s really no “reasoning” them out of it. Especially not when you’re 16 and they’re several years older.
If your dad can’t trust your brother not to drink his beer and party in his home, that’s something he needs to deal with your brother about. He’s mad at the wrong person.