I (24F) have an of account that I’ve been running for a while now. It’s been a good source of income, but I keep it pretty private. I just don’t feel the need to tell most people about it, especially since I know it can be a bit of a controverial thing for some…
A couple of close friends know about it, but most of circle does not know about it. Recently, one of my friends (23F) found out and got really upset with me. She said I should have told her and not hide things from her. She’s acting a bit weird nowadays, and i’m feeling bad about it, but at the same time, I don’t really think I owe anyone an explanation about what i do with my life.
She said it’s important to be honest and open about things like this, but honestly I wasn’t ready to share her about it, I Just don’t feel like it’s something I need to bring up.
AITA for not telling her and the rest of my friends?
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I (24F) have an of account that I’ve been running for a while now. It’s been a good source of income, but I keep it pretty private. I just don’t feel the need to tell most people about it, especially since I know it can be a bit of a controverial thing for some…
A couple of close friends know about it, but most of circle does not know about it. Recently, one of my friends (23F) found out and got really upset with me. She said I should have told her and not hide things from her. She’s acting a bit weird nowadays, and i’m feeling bad about it, but at the same time, I don’t really think I owe anyone an explanation about what i do with my life.
She said it’s important to be honest and open about things like this, but honestly I wasn’t ready to share her about it, I Just don’t feel like it’s something I need to bring up.
AITA for not telling her and the rest of my friends?
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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
> I didn’t tell my friend about my OF account, and I can see how that might seem like i was being dishonest or hiding something from her. She felt hurt because she didn’t know, and it made her feel like I wasn’t being transparent with her. I can understand why she would be upset, especially if she thought we had that kind of openness in our friendship, maybe I could have been more upfront especially since it seems like this is important to her.
So i’m questioning wether I should have told her earlier, and wether I’ve been too closed off in general. Maybe she’s right to be upset, and I might be the asshole for not being more open about this part of my life.
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NTA you don’t have to share personal info like that with anyone you’re not comfortable sharing it with.
NTA your friend is being weird
“Privacy” the irony😂😂😂
For research purposes only I can’t fully answer the question without seeing a link to this said onlyfans account
NTA, you don’t owe anyone an explanation. She’s acting like she’s entitled to the info or something. Weird
Not exactly but also you’re probably not telling them for fear of being judged… and, frankly, they are allowed to judge, whether for moral reasons or ethical reasons or just disgusted by a sex worker. You’re free to do it and they’re free to think less of you for it.
NTA. Why would you feel obligated to tell them or even bring it up? I’ve been snapping photos left right and centre the moment I found out that feet finder has a male section, I know if I tell my mates they’ll never live this down.
NTA. Her weird behavior is pretty much exhibit A on why you don’t tell people. Why would you need to tell her that in order to be “honest”? Is she going to need to see your taxes next? And as long as the people who use pornography continue degrade the people who provide it, you have an excellent reason to keep it private.