I, (21M) and my partner (21M) live in an apartment complex on the top floor. We are quiet, keep to ourselves, and are just trying to get through every day life without having conflict with any of our neighbors since we are wanting to live here for a few years.
Back in July, someone had left trash in the hallway on our floor between our apartment and another apartment. It wasn’t ours so we didn’t throw it away but as the days went on it inched closer and closer to our door until it was right in front of it. Most of our neighbors have lots of kids, and I remember being a kid not too long ago, and not wanting to take out the trash, especially when you live on the top floor and it can be quite the hike. Thinking that maybe this was a kid just being a kid, I moved the bag over to the other side of the hallway in the middle hoping the parent of potential kid would take notice. When I got back home, the bag was gone.
Maybe about a week later, my partner and I were leaving for a local event and noticed a paper folder up hanging on the door. The paper was from the office and included two black and white photos of there once again being trash all in front of our door and in the hallway way, some of it even trailing down the stairs. We got a warning that this was a violation of the lease and that they’d be charging a $25 fee to our account for trash removal done by maintenance. Frustrated, but still polite, we went into the office trying to explain that the trash wasn’t ours and asking if there was anything we could do to prove it’s not ours. The lady in the office was empathetic and suggested getting a ring/doorbell camera. I bought one and installed it onto the door with a clamp a couple days later.
On Friday night September 26th, I caught someone, that looks to be a grown adult, on the camera setting a bag of trash down in front of the wall by our door then walking off, not even glancing at the camera. I instantly downloaded the video and sent it to the office along with photos of the trash. However, the office is closed on weekends and maintenance hasn’t been around either. Friends and family advised we leave the bag and let maintenance handle it and coordinate with the office on figuring out who the tenant in the video is and appropriately charging their account the $25 trash removal fee. My partner and I have been annoyed with it all weekend and can see on the camera that neighbors on our floor are just as annoyed by it, one of them even sliding the bag closer to our door this morning.
AITA for not throwing the bag of trash away? Should I type up a letter explaining the situation to our neighbors and leave it on their doors? My partner and I are just as annoyed with the trash as our neighbors are and we really don’t want conflict with anyone. But it is almost Monday and maintenance should (hopefully) be by tomorrow morning and remove it.
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I, (21M) and my partner (21M) live in an apartment complex on the top floor. We are quiet, keep to ourselves, and are just trying to get through every day life without having conflict with any of our neighbors since we are wanting to live here for a few years.
Back in July, someone had left trash in the hallway on our floor between our apartment and another apartment. It wasn’t ours so we didn’t throw it away but as the days went on it inched closer and closer to our door until it was right in front of it. Most of our neighbors have lots of kids, and I remember being a kid not too long ago, and not wanting to take out the trash, especially when you live on the top floor and it can be quite the hike. Thinking that maybe this was a kid just being a kid, I moved the bag over to the other side of the hallway in the middle hoping the parent of potential kid would take notice. When I got back home, the bag was gone.
Maybe about a week later, my partner and I were leaving for a local event and noticed a paper folder up hanging on the door. The paper was from the office and included two black and white photos of there once again being trash all in front of our door and in the hallway way, some of it even trailing down the stairs. We got a warning that this was a violation of the lease and that they’d be charging a $25 fee to our account for trash removal done by maintenance. Frustrated, but still polite, we went into the office trying to explain that the trash wasn’t ours and asking if there was anything we could do to prove it’s not ours. The lady in the office was empathetic and suggested getting a ring/doorbell camera. I bought one and installed it onto the door with a clamp a couple days later.
On Friday night September 26th, I caught someone, that looks to be a grown adult, on the camera setting a bag of trash down in front of the wall by our door then walking off, not even glancing at the camera. I instantly downloaded the video and sent it to the office along with photos of the trash. However, the office is closed on weekends and maintenance hasn’t been around either. Friends and family advised we leave the bag and let maintenance handle it and coordinate with the office on figuring out who the tenant in the video is and appropriately charging their account the $25 trash removal fee. My partner and I have been annoyed with it all weekend and can see on the camera that neighbors on our floor are just as annoyed by it, one of them even sliding the bag closer to our door this morning.
AITA for not throwing the bag of trash away? Should I type up a letter explaining the situation to our neighbors and leave it on their doors? My partner and I are just as annoyed with the trash as our neighbors are and we really don’t want conflict with anyone. But it is almost Monday and maintenance should (hopefully) be by tomorrow morning and remove it.
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> A neighbor has left trash in front of our door and I haven’t thrown it away. It’s been out all weekend. My other neighbors are becoming annoyed with it but I’m waiting for maintenance to remove the trash and charge the responsible tenant the trash removal fee.
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NTAH you are not obligated to take trash out except your own. Just wait until Monday when the bldg management is back in and they’ve watched the doorbell footage.
Print a picture of the guy with a “you left this” sign
NTA. Slide a note under the door of the good neighbors, explaining who is doing it.
just let ur property managment deal with it it is THEIR job you did your part let them do what they do
NTA
NTA.
Problem is, that because of that person deliberately leaving that trash in front of your door, all of your neighbors are assuming it’s yours. This tenant is deliberately setting you up to take the fall for their laziness.
Do you guys have some type of building billboard you can post notices on? If so, I’d take the picture of the guy doing it and put it up on there. If not, then I’d move the trash to the other side of the hall and pin the picture to the bag itself and put a note ot it with the picture stating “Please stop leaving your trash in front of our door.”
NTA. If you had thrown it away they would have come back yelling that it wasn’t trash and try to charge you for replacing what bullshit they said was in it.
NTA – I would contact them via email so you have a record. Let them know you caught the person who has been leaving garbage in the hallway. Ask them how they will refund your $25 fee.
NTA. It’s evidence!
NTA. You could also leave a note on your door stating to please stop leaving trash by your door and that management will be informed if it continues. But I would definitely go to management first thing Monday to ensure they understand that the current bag isn’t yours.