AITA for not wanting my brother to be near my rapist?

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I (15) was raped by my ex-best friend (14) when I was 12 and ended up pregnant, which I was forced by my family to carry to term. My family still doesn’t believe that it wasn’t consensual. My rapist has a younger brother, who is my brother’s best friend. I’ve been “fine” with it, just a little upset that it’s my rapist’s brother, but I don’t hold it against either of them, since they’re both 7. That is, until he wanted to go to his house. Where my rapist lives. Obviously, I was NOT okay with that, and I told everyone that I didn’t want him going there. They all thought I was crazy or something I guess, since they completely ignored me and sent him over anyway. When I yelled at them for putting him in potential danger, they said that I was a selfish asshole that wanted my brother to be friendless just because me and my “boyfriend” aren’t getting along. AITA?

Comments

  1. Puzzled_Pay_3139 Avatar

    It’s horrifying that your concerns were dismissed like that. You have every right to feel angry and betrayed. They’re putting a child in a dangerous situation and ignoring your trauma.

  2. giggleblossomz Avatar

    no, u’re not the bad one. u want ur brother safe and that’s okay. ur feelings matter.

  3. Reasonable_Flan56099 Avatar

    Are your parents seriously ok?

  4. GellyG42 Avatar

    You had a baby at 12/13 and the authorities weren’t involved?
    Even if it wasn’t non consensual surely it was reported!

    I’m sorry your parents are treating this so badly, is there anyone else you can talk to? A school councillor, your family doctor for therapy referral perhaps

  5. Mysterious_Day_3386 Avatar

    NTA. You are trying to protect your brother, and your concerns are legitimate.

  6. asafeplaceofrest Avatar

    INFO: Could it be they can’t believe an 11-year-old boy can get a girl pregnant? What did his parents say? Was a DNA test done?

    Your family doesn’t have your back and you need to talk to someone from outside, like a school counselor. I’m sorry you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place.

  7. HornetEqual8530 Avatar

    Do you have a pattern that make others to dismiss you so easily?Have you repeatedly caught saying lies?I can’t seriously imagine anyone to be accused of rape and nothing happens 

  8. Active_Minimum3745 Avatar

    your fam is treating you like you are the problem just for surviving what happened to you. They are being dangerously dismissive.

  9. Level-Ladder-4346 Avatar

    Oh, god! Sorry, I feel like puking and screaming and dying all at once.

  10. iknowsomethings2 Avatar

    NTA. You need to contact CPS on behalf of you and your brother, you’re not safe.
    I’m so sorry for the trauma you’ve experienced.

  11. Any-District-2782 Avatar

    NTA you asking him to stay away from a scumbag

  12. Tight-Equipment-7339 Avatar

    NTA, I’m not sure where you’re from or where you’re living but please find an adult. You can trust and talk with, I know some countries with bribes or fake IDs you can give birth and no one would bat an eye but if you can bring the authorities to that so 1 you can have some peace 2 your brother is safe and 3 so the rapist gets some kind of punishment

  13. AnAussiebum Avatar

    This makes no sense.

    How did a 12 year old have a child and the police and authorities not get involved?

    Where is the child?

    Which country is this? There is a lot of missing information here but it is clear that OP’s parents suck at protecting their kids so I hope the baby has been adopted by a nice couple or something. What a mess.

  14. themcp Avatar

    Call CPS and report both the rape and them endangering your brother by sending him there. Your parents have been very abusive to you, ask CPS to protect you from them and get you therapy.

  15. Consistent_Proof_772 Avatar

    When you turn 18 disappear with your baby get away from all those people

  16. kobewasinnocent Avatar

    Fake story and you’re weird af for making this up. Pedo fantasy vibes

  17. ArcticSailOx Avatar

    Police – report your rape to the police.

    The perpetrator will be arrested and even if he is not convicted the arrest record will stay. He won’t be able to work with vulnerable people and any future allegations will consider your complaint.

  18. Different-Lock3040 Avatar

    NTA, but you need to call CPS or sm, ur parents need a reality check and a restraining order for u and ur brother

  19. Angryleghairs Avatar

    What country are you in? CPS should be involved

  20. Unfair-Airport6694 Avatar

    So, raped at 12, kid is 3 now? Why does your family still think he’s your “boyfriend”? Are you homeschooled? Surely the school would report a pregnant child, nevermind the hospital (as previously commented).

    Story is not informative enough to ask for advice. Also, you need to specify the country, because statutory rape is not the same everywhere. And, as sad as it is to say, violence against women/children is not frowned upon in all countries and religions…

  21. ObliquePixie Avatar

    Girl, you are 100% NOT the asshole. That boy raped you. Of course you don’t want your little brother around him. The fact that your family is ignoring that is horrifying.

  22. Vegetable-Star-5833 Avatar

    YTA for writing such a bad story. There are subs just for story writing ya know?

  23. Unhappy_Wedding_8457 Avatar

    NTA, that sounds terrible what you have gone through. And that your family doesn’t stand up for you I simply can’t understand that your parents treat you that bad. Also you trying to protect your brother is just ignored. I think you need some help from the outside. Do you have social services where you live? They must already have been involved because of your pregnancy? If not they certainly need to be involved now. You could contact social services yourself or maybe reach out to a gronwup outside your family (a teacher?) and make them help you.

  24. PoppyStaff Avatar

    I wonder how long this will last?