My relatives birthday was on September 29 and there were no plans at all whatsoever they were going to celebrate. Cool. Whatever. My birthday is this Saturday and I planned to do something on Sunday and was planning this for literally WEEKS. I’ve been talking about this almost every single day! I was excited!
Literally the DAY of my relatives birthday I get a message saying they’re going to throw a party ON THE DAY I MADE MY PLANS. I told my family, I don’t care. You do what you want I’M going to go through with my plans and celebrate MY BIRTHDAY whether it’s alone or with you.
What do they say? I’m being selfish. I need to be understanding. Plans change.
I want to fucking SCREAM. Why do I have to cancel MY PLANS that I’ve been doing for weeks just because you suddenly decided to throw a party for them? On top of that – YOU KNEW I was planning this and you quickly forgot it AND decide to throw it ON MY EXACT DAY?
Am I being selfish? Because I don’t think I’m being selfish here and I need validation 😩
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My relatives birthday was on September 29 and there were no plans at all whatsoever they were going to celebrate. Cool. Whatever. My birthday is this Saturday and I planned to do something on Sunday and was planning this for literally WEEKS. I’ve been talking about this almost every single day! I was excited!
Literally the DAY of my relatives birthday I get a message saying they’re going to throw a party ON THE DAY I MADE MY PLANS. I told my family, I don’t care. You do what you want I’M going to go through with my plans and celebrate MY BIRTHDAY whether it’s alone or with you.
What do they say? I’m being selfish. I need to be understanding. Plans change.
I want to fucking SCREAM. Why do I have to cancel MY PLANS that I’ve been doing for weeks just because you suddenly decided to throw a party for them? On top of that – YOU KNEW I was planning this and you quickly forgot it AND decide to throw it ON MY EXACT DAY?
Am I being selfish? Because I don’t think I’m being selfish here and I need validation 😩
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> I told my family I won’t be attending a relatives birthday that’s being held ON my birthday that I’ve been planning for weeks.
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They invited, you declined. You have a prior engagement and are unavailable. I hope that you and your family have a wonderful time celebrating your birthday as planned.Â
NAH unless they refuse to politely accept that you are unavailable.
NAH. Go do what you want and let them do what they want. We all have choices to make – and it’s easier without the guilt tripping they’re doing. Go do your thing. Don’t stress about it. Happy Birthday.
NTA you made plans. You put things in place for this day. They should have arranged things earlier so you could re-arrange. But they dropped it on you last minute. Politely refuse to go and enjoy your special day. I hope you had fun on your day out x And happy birthday!
Who decided to throw a party?
NTA and I think it’s a possibility the relative did it intentionally if it’s someone you have issues with