I’m 14M and live with my mom in a small apartment (2 bedrooms + living room). I have my own room.
My sister (22) and her husband (27) used to rent a place, but they got kicked out after a year. Now they’re moving back in with us, with their 2-year-old son. The issue is, they want to take my room and push me into the living room.
Her husband is honestly a jerk. He barely works, makes like $20/day doing random gigs, even though he’s been offered steady jobs (including shift/rotation work). He refused those. Instead of helping with bills, he once went on vacation.
When I asked him to help me take out 2–3 bags of recycling, he said, “That’s your trash.” But now he expects me to help them carry their furniture. When I said I don’t want to give up my room, he threatened me: “If you complain again, I’ll hit you.” He also literally said they need a private room so they can “have sex.”
I even found them a 3-bedroom apartment for about $160/month (we’re not in the US, rent is way cheaper here), but they said no, because they’re in a “hard period.” I understand pregnancy and the first year with a baby are hard, but their kid is already 2. They’re adults, they should be responsible by now.
Meanwhile, I’m only 14. I can’t rent my own place, I need my space for school, and my mom is sick and needs peace. Having a toddler in the house will make life harder for both of us.
They’re supposed to move in this Sunday, September 28.
So, AITA for refusing to give up my room?
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I’m 14M and live with my mom in a small apartment (2 bedrooms + living room). I have my own room.
My sister (22) and her husband (27) used to rent a place, but they got kicked out after a year. Now they’re moving back in with us, with their 2-year-old son. The issue is, they want to take my room and push me into the living room.
Her husband is honestly a jerk. He barely works, makes like $20/day doing random gigs, even though he’s been offered steady jobs (including shift/rotation work). He refused those. Instead of helping with bills, he once went on vacation.
When I asked him to help me take out 2–3 bags of recycling, he said, “That’s your trash.” But now he expects me to help them carry their furniture. When I said I don’t want to give up my room, he threatened me: “If you complain again, I’ll hit you.” He also literally said they need a private room so they can “have sex.”
I even found them a 3-bedroom apartment for about $160/month (we’re not in the US, rent is way cheaper here), but they said no, because they’re in a “hard period.” I understand pregnancy and the first year with a baby are hard, but their kid is already 2. They’re adults, they should be responsible by now.
Meanwhile, I’m only 14. I can’t rent my own place, I need my space for school, and my mom is sick and needs peace. Having a toddler in the house will make life harder for both of us.
They’re supposed to move in this Sunday, September 28.
So, AITA for refusing to give up my room?
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> I might be the asshole because I don’t want to give up my room to my sister, her husband, and their 2-year-old son, even though it used to be her room a couple of years ago before they moved out. I feel like it’s my space now, but maybe I’m being selfish.
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NTA. You’re 14, this is your space, and you shouldn’t be forced out of your room by adults who can handle their own problems. Your sister and her husband need to take responsibility for their life, not make your life harder. Stick to your room. you deserve your space.
Tell your BIL, “hit me and I’ll call the cops and child protective services, you are not legally allowed to hit me, I am not your child”. Then tell your mom he’s threatened your safety and if he does it again well, you’ll have to go to the school counselor and they can get involved.
no nta
It’s not really your decision or theirs.
NTA. The decision here will ultimately come down to your parents so I’d suggest talking to your parents.
NTA, but you are not really in a position to decline. It’s your mom’s apartment, and unfortunately, she makes the decisions on who she has there and who sleeps where.
That doesn’t mean you have to make it easy for them, though.
Refuse to help, especially when asked by your sister or her husband. Record conversations so you have evidence when he threatens you. Call the police if he threatens you, and/or your country’s version of child protection services.
Be honest with your mom about how you feel. Explain how this will impact her relationship with you.
You cannot dictate to have your own room, which sucks, but you can make things difficult for your sister and her husband.
NTA
But where are your parents in this?
NTA. Brother-in-law ( A’hole ) Sister ( A’hole )
I’m sorry but your mother ( A’hole ) her job is to protect you.
And she’s bringing in A-holes into the household.
I’m sorry for your struggles.
Them wanting to have sex is the best reason not to give up your room. The last thing they need is for your sister to end up pregnant by this loser again. He can’t take care of his family now. NTA and let someone at your school know you’re being physically threatened.