So my sister (32F) had a baby last year after years of struggling with infertility. We were all happy for her. She called him her miracle baby and honestly I didn’t mind the attention he got until things got weird.
I (28F) have a golden retriever named Benny. He’s 5. Sweetest boy alive. Everyone in the family loves him. Even my sister used to until the baby came along.
One time I brought Benny over when I visited. He stayed on his mat didn’t bark or even move. The baby started crying and my sister went I think he’s making the baby nervous and asked me to put him outside in the middle of winter. I said no and left early. That was strike one.
Next time I saw her she told me straightup she didn’t want Benny around her son because he’s a dog. I said okay whatever and stopped bringing him. But I could tell something shifted.
Then one day,
I was out of town for a weekend and she begged me to let her stay at my place because hers was getting fumigated. I agreed thinking it was chill.
I come home Sunday night. Benny is hiding under the bed trembling looking all scared. I find out she locked him in the laundry room for two days straight because he was staring too much and that made the baby fussy. No food or water bowl just locked him.
I lost it. Told her she was never setting foot in my house again and that she was lucky I didn’t call animal services.
Fast forward a month she’s going back to work and suddenly I’m her first choice for free childcare. Wants me to watch her baby two days a week.
I said no. She flipped and called me bitter and selfish.
And said I clearly don’t understand what it means to love family unconditionally. My mom got involved and said I’m being cruel when I could be helping.
But this isn’t just about a dog. It’s about how she treated something I love without remorse and now expects me to drop everything and help her like nothing happened.
AITA for saying no to babysitting my nephew because of what she did to my dog?
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Don’t even need to read the post, you’re not obligated to baby sit for anyone.
ETA: holy crap, read the post and my initial response wasn’t severe enough. You’re not only not obligated you shouldn’t ever help her again for any reason, her or your mom.
NTA and you should report her for animal cruelty
NTA! What she did to Benny is horrible! You trusted her with him and she locked him and didn’t even give him food or water!
Also, she has no right to claim your time anyway 🤷♀️
NTA People who mistreat animals don’t get to cry “family” when they need something. Good on you for setting a boundary.
Your dog is your baby. Protect your baby. “No” is a complete sentence without having to explain anything. Though, you could remind sis that Benny will be at your house and you absolutely WILL NOT lock him away because she’s got some weird phobia now about your dog looking at her baby.
NTA. Not in the least
Time to cut out sis and mum. This was abuse. The excuse of “family” doesn’t excuse abuse. You’re not cruel, they are.
NTA
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NTA
She locked up a living being without food or water for two days – I wouldn’t piss on her if she was on fire.
NTA at all. If someone locked my dog in a room for any amount of time without food or water, I’d never speak to them again. That’s literally like you locking her baby in a room and ignoring it.
I would never talk to her again.
This doesn’t make sense, no way your mother is on her side after what she did unless she condones animal cruelty.
Wonder how she would feel if someone didn’t feed or water her baby for two days? NTAH
You don’t have to babysit. After reading the post, you shouldn’t help her or your mom ever again.
NTA. She could have killed your dog depriving him of food and water. Your sister is a b*tch and she does not deserve free child care from you. Your dog is your priority not your sister.
NTA – You are not obligated to be free childcare because you are family, your sister should have thought about childcare before she got pregnant.
Your sister also treated a living being with feelings and emotions like crap and was abusive, just because it wasn’t towards a human doesn’t mean it isn’t wrong.
Your mother and sister can both kick rocks, I wouldn’t want to be around them either.
You.. can love unconditionally.. and still have boundaries. You love Benny unconditionally. lol. You love your nibbling. But whichever causes harm to the other is the one still at fault. Aka, yo sister.
Omg poor puppy!!!! And poor YOU! You’ve done the right thing and don’t back down. Total disregard and disrespect for others. Plus they’re dumb, because being around pets is amazing for kids and can even help their immunity be resistant to pet allergies etc. do your research people
NTA you should have reported her for animal cruelty
My sister would have found herself the victim of physical violence. That’s all I’ve got, because holy shit.
NTA
I wouldn’t be speaking to her ever again if she did that to my dog. NTA. UPDATEME
NTA but next time anyone asks tell them yeah fine, I’ll treat her child like she treated my dog. They’ll back off real quick
YTA- for repeating a common rage bait post…
NTA and truly cannot fathom how someone could treat an animal like this? That is truly concerning behaviour.
NTA from the info given but I feel there’s things missing…. She’s ironically needing to stay at your house the same weekend you’re out of town? Did you have someone else lined up for your dog if she didn’t beg to stay there? You didn’t check in once on your dog and how things were going, especially since you knew she was not keen on your dog already? Not the best behaviors for a dog owner, IMO.
nta – her baby = her responsibility. family does not owe family. if anyone in your family says otherwise, those people just volunteered – thank them for stepping up since they have free time & share the names with your sister. people who are cruel to pets are usually cruel to people as well. keep that negativity away.
I would have fucked that bitch up. Tell her to stick her kid in the laundry room while she’s at work – he’ll be fine
NTA
NTA. Tell her to stick her baby in a room while she’s gone since that’s apparently fine to do to living creatures. She’s horrible and I honestly wouldn’t ever want to see or talk to her again.
NTA, not only you don’t have to babysit for anyone, but what will be her expectations regarding the dog while you babysit? To lock him away? Drop everything and go to her place? Childcare is something you plan for and is the parents’ responsibility.
Also, if she can treat a dog like that… it tells a lot about the type of person she is.
She can pound rocks. Nobody is entitled to your time.
Your sister is fully in the wrong, but life is too short for you to cut mom and sister out of your life. That’s bad advice. I would think you could try to have a conversation with mom and sister about your perspective and kindly decline.
There is something VERY WRONG with people who mistreat animals. Honest question for you: after she demonstrated a poor attitude toward Benny what made you think she was trustworthy to be alone with him? I get that it was only a weekend but she was already showing signs that he was not safe with her. You’re obviously NTA for not babysitting, but I can’t understand leaving him with her after you described how she behaved towards him.
Absolutely NTA! She abused your dog. I’d ask her if you could do the same to her baby that she did to her dog. Of course it’s wrong. And it’s wrong to do it to a dog.
Tell your mom that abusing Benny was cruel too. Did she ever get on your sister about that?! I doubt it.
Do not ever leave Benny with anyone in your family again. Hire a pet sitter.
I’d honestly never speak to her again after what she did to poor Benny. Block her and ignore her.
NTA, period. I will never understand people that suddenly change their tune about animals after having a baby, especially when the animal isn’t even involved in their life. Your sister is the biggest of AH and I think you should stand firm. Also, your mom can help out since your sister is looking for free childcare.
Pieces of this have been posted earlier in the week………….clik bait?
It’s truly amazing how manipulative and enabling people are. Grow up! Break contact with them.
I would do hard time if someone did that to my dog.
Your sister is a cruel, malicious c***t and you are wise to step away from her. You are too nice to her and she’s lucky in that because if she abused my pet like that I would have punched her. I feel sorry for her kid.
“Then one day,”
Faaaaaaake posttttttt ✨
“Sorry, the baby makes Benny nervous. Could be that the baby abused him while you were staying at my house, I dunno.”
NTA. She could have killed Benny and doesn’t care. You owe it to Benny to report her for animal abuse.
Fuck no not the asshole. Anyone who can do that to a helpless animal is an asshole.
NTA you absolutely should have reported her for animal abuse. The audacity to treat your dog that way in your home after she asked to stay there. I wonder if she was hoping he would die and he wouldn’t be a “problem” anymore.
You don’t owe her babysitting in any circumstances and what she did would be enough for no contact
This is a selfish selfish person. She doesn’t understand that your feelings for your dog, well maybe not the same as a child, are certainly valid and deep. She is very lucky you didn’t call the police on her. You owe her nothing.
NTA. She committed animal cruelty and could be prosecuted in most states (maybe all, I’m not a lawyer, nor do I play one on TV).
She and your mom can fuck all the way off to Fuckistan.
Interesting that it’s suddenly OK for the baby to be around your dog *extreme eyeroll*
NTA
NTA
YTA for posting AI shit.
You don’t have to watch anyone for 2 days a way. Is that even doable, do you have a job?
nta
NTA
I’ve gone NC for less. That’s unforgivable.
NTA
The dog staring made the kid fussy?! She’s a moron.
Tell her you’ll babysit but if she makes your so uncomfortable, you’ll have to lock the kid away with no food or water.
Even if the dog were not an issue, your sister is the selfish one for expecting babysitting services just because you’re family??! NO!
Wow! This is the third post I’ve read in this sub today where an annoying sibling with a young child asked to stay with the OP because their place was being fumigated. Must be an AI trend.
Hey OP, did your other family conflict from last week get resolved? The one about your grandma’s necklace? You seem to be having a lot of family issues recently.
NTA no excuse for animal cruelty.
as a dog owner myself (14-15 years old0 if someone would use my living space and treat my dog as such i would be furious and ghosting my sister forever. You don’t own her nothing
NTA at all.
Your sister is a terrible human being and I would never speak to her again. The end
WTF!?!? Big Goldens are the best babysitters there are! Show your sister videos of them with infants and tell her that since she doesn’t want your dog around her baby, then what were you supposed to do with him when you had the baby.
How are you being cruel to her after she horribly abused your dog? She is raising her child to be afraid of dogs, great parenting.
NTA, animal cruelty is not to be tolerated. I think you should file a report.
Why would she want her baby in a home with a dog who stares? Does she expect you to re-home him so your can be her free child care? Expect you to baby sit at her house?
She abused someone else’s pet for no reason.
Now she wants free child care. Mom/grandma can baby sit.
NTA
Sis would never be allowed in my home or around my pet again.
Obvious chat GPT.
This exact post was posted last week. Fake shit galore.
This is a repost. YTA
The “WRITING” style doesn’t seem like a real Story.
However, since the sister has made it clear that she has a problem with the pet at a family gathering why would you have her stay at your home for a few days? …with your pet who lives there full time?
You were away for a few days without a pet sitter?????
Who was watching the PET 🐕 while you were away and why didn’t they or you check in your pet knowing she has a problem with the pet? #forClicks
Does AI write these or did an actual person?
Nta she’s an animal abuser. Good help that kid growing up with a piece of shit mum like that. I’d tell your mum she’s lucky you didn’t have her arrested for animal abuse and that you don’t want anything to do with people who think it’s ok to abuse animals.
NTA.
In your place I would make clear I never, ever would do something for her.
Even if the take is “just a dog”, nobody in their sane mind would lock them and leave them without water and food.
The family members who try to excuse something like this, are also insane and wrong.
Bonus (bad) points when all of this happened while she was staying in your house because she needed it.
Not being funny but your sister is a fucking bitch. Anyone who can treat an animal like that can fuck all the way off. She doesn’t get to bang on about “family” when she treats your pet like that. She can pay for childcare.
NTA. Also, would she assume you’re going to lock away Benny 2 days a week cuz that’s a huge nope.
NTA
“After your demonstration of how we treat what each other loves, I want to clarify. You want me to throw your baby in the laundry room and completely ignore its needs until you come home, right? Sorry, but I am not an abusive piece of shit, so I couldn’t possibly meet your quality standards. I’m done doing favors for you.”
NITA, your sister is hateful of dogs.
When my younger sister (20f) was pergeant with her second kid, she let her first son have his experince with my rats. And we both taught him to go gentle pats on rat’s rump (I held my rat in way so baby don’t grab the tail or head and the rat I had picked is my most chillest).
Now he’s like 9 and always asks me for rat pictures and photos. 🙂
I wish your sister would trust you because you know your dog best..
She sounds entitled and suffering from main character delusion. You don’t owe her babysitting, even if she didn’t abuse your dog. And your mom can babysit if she wants to get involved so bad.
NTA. Glad that your mother so gracefully offered to babysit. There you go problem solved
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Ask her how she would feel if you refused to feed or water her baby for two days
It’s the same principle
If she can’t see that then she needs help mentally
It sounds like your sister has lost her rationality due to baby. PPA or something. It happens. 😬
Honestly the baby probably cries when the dog is around because of your sister’s feels about the dog, not because of the actual dog. Baby’s pickup on mommy’s heart rate, tension in her body, etc. She’s literally teaching her baby to be afraid of or dislike dogs with her reactions.
NTA. And your sister needs to see her doctor about PPD/PPA.
What is she expecting you to do with your dog while she babysits? Stick him outside? Lock him in the laundry room again? 🙄
Looks like grandma is more than happy to love family unconditionally for free. She should be doing it. NTA
NTA. Your poor nephew is going to grow up with a mom who is entitled AF. Your poor dog was traumatized and it’ll take a good hot minute for him to get past it.
Your sister has every right to decide whether she wants pets in her own home. But locking an animal in a small space without food or water? That is cruel and despicable.
I swear I’ve already seen an almost identical story posted in here, with the same type of dog & the sister being cruel to the dog.
NTA. She abused your dog and seems to have no remorse. If she’s actually that nervous about the dog around her child, she wouldn’t be asking you to babysit. Unless she expects you to get rid of your dog or leave him home alone all day.
“You’re right. Family does come first. Benny is my family. I chose to adopt him and take on that lifelong commitment. He has no one else in the world but me looking after him.
Sis acted like a sociopath with no empathy or common sense the last time I had her child in my home, with no apology.
Sis needs to find a sitter to provide her preferred, dog-free, environment bc this is Benny’s house and he won’t be going anywhere else while I hypothetically watch said kid.”
NTA! What a bitch! Poor puppy 😞
Tell her to lock the baby in her laundry room while she’s at work.
Not only should you not feel bad for not babysitting, she should count herself lucky you didn’t beat her a** for locking your dog in the laundry room.
But who was supposed to watch your dog, while you are out of town, if your sister didn’t stay at your house?
Idk if I am a monster but just because someone struggles to get pregnant doesn’t make them more important
NTA – sorry but if she can’t handle basic needs for a dog like food and water and going outside to pee/poop, how is she gonna take care of a kid as it gets older and has more needs?
lock the baby in the laundry room with no food and water! that’s my advice but i also just dislike infants.
NTA. Fuck your sister. I’d be cutting her off if she did that to my dog.
Wow. She gave you the perfect excuse not to babysit. You don’t want her baby there because the baby can’t be around the dog.
But seriously, until she acknowledges and apologizes for torturing a poor dependent animal who never offered anything but love, I would do her any favors.
Say yes, but he has to stay in laundry room without food, water or a diaper change.
NTA, reply with, If you leave your baby with me, I will treat it the same way you treated my dog.
Ur sister is a demon
She’s the asshole for sure
I would have called CPS, because what would she do to a baby smh
Literally could have killed your dog if you were gone long enough. I wouldn’t trust her at all. And i wouldn’t babysit in case she accuses you of something or accuses the dog of something.
NTA – where is she expecting Benny to be when you’re providing free childcare?
You do not owe anyone free childcare. She shouldn’t have had a child, if she couldn’t afford the childcare (or didn’t already have free childcare agreed to in advance) when she went back to work. That’s just reality.
What she did to your dog was absolutely disgusting and you should 100% have called animal services. I really hope your dog is okay. Screw your sister.
Put her kid in the laundry room.
NTA. Tell her you’ll watch her baby with all the love and compassion she showed Benny. If she suddenly thinks that’s a problem, then tada she knows she was attempting to starve your dog to death. You should’ve filled a police report, who knows what she’ll do to her kid if she gets annoyed with it in the future.
My nephew watched my cat while I was on vacation and the power went out in the city for over two days. My cat didn’t go without food, water, a clean litter box or belly rubs, because that’s family helping family.
NTA, I don’t even like dogs and wouldn’t treat one like this or help her again.
John Wick would be an angel compared to me if someone from my family did something like this to my dog.
NTA, I don’t even like dogs and wouldn’t treat one like this or help her again.
Sorry, she sucks! You are not NTA. I would be reporting her for animal cruelty.
Report her for animal cruelty, make very clear to her and your family that cruelty to pets is a reliable indicator for child abuse, and that whilst you will not babysit you will not stand by if you witness any harm to the child.
You are nta but unfortunately your sister is a danger to her own child, miracle or not and I only hope family and support services step in.
NTA she locked the dog in the laundry room with no food/no water for days. Wtf.
NTA. How does she expect you to babysit of your dog is still living with you?
I’d offer to babysit but ONLY if I could treat her son the same way she treated Benny. What? That would be cruel and inhumane?
NTA – your sister is the one who is cruel. And she has been unreasonable from the get-go. I understand having a child after years of infertility. That does not give you the right to be cruel to animals. From the first interaction she has done everything wrong.
NTA. Horrifying that this woman is a mother. Also, people need to ask their family for help BEFORE they have a baby. If she didn’t know how she’d get the necessary childcare, she shouldn’t have had a baby.
Where was OP for 2 days while the dog was locked up. And, wouldn’t she be suspicious given the other two times… they’re all assholes, except for the dog
NTA
I would answer back petty and say sorry but you said my dog makes your baby uncomfortable and not to have him around said child, I’m RESPECTING the boundaries you put forward. Then completely ignore her when she brings it up. And if Mum wants to say something just add I don’t see you offering to help 🤷♀️ but that’s just me.
No. You just can babysit her baby bc Benny will be there and she wouldn’t want that, right?!
Ask your sister if it’s ok to lock the baby up in a closet for two days for making weird faces like she did to your dog.
NTA. She abused your dog. I’d tell your mom she’s welcome to cover those days. Your sister didn’t apologize and does not respect you. She only cares what you can do for her.
Never speak to her again.
NTA isn’t she afraid of the baby being round the dog any more or is she hoping you’ll lock your dog up for her baby?
My family knows you fck with my cat, I am fcking you up. Do I love my cat this much to cut you off? YUP. No remorse because my cat is my baby. Don’t feel bad for her.
NTA!
Nah she harmed your furbaby. She is lucky you dont treat her baby the same way.
Honestly ESH.
The first time she said the dog was making the baby nervous (even it was clearly her) you should have stopped bringing the dog with you. Becoz new mom and all. But you didn’t take her worries as real and continued to bring your dog.
Then your out of town (with a pet sitter for your dog, I assume)….yet you let your sister and her baby come stay at your house, unsupervised? Why didn’t you tell the pet sitter to take the dig? Say no?
And your sister was an Ahole for animal abuse, and yikes for thinking it’s fine to torture your dog for the sake of her baby. She could have kept them totally separated
But then you could have told her you were not comfortable with her previous comments about your dog, and how you expected her to deal with being a guest in your (and your dogs) home….and used your power sitter to check up on her
Again ESH
Absolutely not the asshole. Your sister is an attention seeker. I would go NC with her but that’s just me. In your sisters world it’s her way or the highway. And she’s trying to turn the whole family against you to get her way.
MaaaaH, my sister won’t give me free childcare!! And she’s trying refuses to keep that fleabag away from my miracle baby!!
Well could you lock the baby in the laundry room for those two days?!
You don’t owe her anything especially how she treated your dog
NTA absolutely do not EVER dog sit for her I mean crotch goblin sit. What an absolute horrible human. Nope. Your mom is wrong
Sorry, but you’re afraid that the baby makes your dog nervous. 🤷♂️
NTA. Sorry because I know she’s your sister but what a horrible human being she is. Actions have consequences.
I would have lost my mind if someone did that to my dog. I honestly would have gotten physical with her then and there.
NTAH. Go no contact. Your family is fine with animal abuse. They are trash imo.
I’m stuck on ‘love family unconditionally’…
No. Family can be selfish AHs too, and I don’t have to love them because of a coincidental gene pool connection.
I also enjoy other people deciding to have children and then making plans and assumptions about what my part will be, only to be surprised when I remind them I am an independent thinking, free willed human.
As for the treatment of your dog, that’s enough for me. DAYS locked in a closet for ‘looking’ at the baby? I’d say ask her what if you treated the baby that way, but I know the response would be ‘ it’s only a dog’…
You are entitled to your life by your rules. No one else has to agree, let alone like it.
“I didn’t mind the attention he got until things got weird”
Come on, I get that this is a fake AI post, but that’s a super weird sentiment to feel about a baby, AI should know better 🤣
I’d say – Sure I’ll watch your kid, but if he’s stares too much I’ll lock him in the laundry room without food or water for several hours. Bet she won’t ask again.
That’s cruelty and abuse! Your sister should consider herself very lucky to have gotten away with it scot free. You’re NTA OP but do protect your Benny from your sister at all costs.
I don’t like dogs and am terrified of them but I would never EVER treat one like that. WTF?? That’s animal cruelty!! NTA NTA NTA
OMG poor Benny!! Is he ok?? Poor pup 😢 I would’ve called the cops on her for animal abuse and then went no contact bc fuck her tbh
Nah fuck her. NTA.
If someone really did this the a dog, especially a Golden Retriever, they are beyond redemption. I’m hoping it is some AI crap.
NTA Tell your sister to go pound sand and tell your mother that she can do all the babysitting from now on that you are not available ever again
F that!! She’d be dead to me!
Don’t do her any favors after she traumatized your dog!!
At first I was going to say “why did you bring your dog when you visit?” then I read the whole thing, definately NTA. But don’t bring your dog to visit places without asking.
it is NOW suddenly okay for her children to be around your dog when she NEEDS childcare but not before.
she has a nasty streak concerning dogs so i think shes missing something in her soul.
dont watch her kids. dont do it.
she can find someone else.
im thrilled to hear you said no.shows you have a backbone.
besides, your dog should not even have to look at her or have her invade HIS home with her presence.
she is a real threat to him.shes already shown that.
Tell her to lock baby in laundry room until she gets home….
NTA. “Lol, lmao, no, get fucked.” is appropriate.
You could have told you’d babysit if she was OK with you locking the kid in the laundry room the whole time.
Anyone who can callously abuse an animal should not be trusted around pets or children.
I feel sorry for the baby. I hope he will be okay.
NTA
Has all the markers of an AI post.
People who do this crap are the scum of the earth. That is to say people who make fake posts and pass them off as real are scum.
Fake fraud hoax scam
This is about consequences.
Your sister’s actions have consequences.
Maybe she will realize this, or not.
There is no reason for you to help your sister. Your dog has to be afraid of your sister, and could be confused about the baby.
Call animal services. I doubt they’d do anything but I’d call CPS too- if she’s abusive to animals she probably shouldn’t have children either
Nta. Let your Mom babysit.
I would be done. NC with sister after what she did with the dog. I would go LC with your mother too if she refuses to drop it and insists on taking sides.
What your sister did is unforgivable. The fact that your family don’t care and has no remorse is horrifying.
Where does she expect you to babysit? At your house? With your dog? Tell her to Foxtrot Oscar.
Even if her unforgivable treatment of your dog were not an issue, who has time to babysit relatives FOR FREE into perpetuity two full days a week? Maybe Grandma if that is her life goal. But anyone besides grandma?? That’s a lot and unreasonable to expect.
Maybe a bit to caring imo. You allowed disrespect for 3 times before you stood up for yourself. NTAH but you are to caring and forgiving.