So my dad bought tickets for an early release of Superman a few weeks ago and that happened today. I was super excited to see this movie and have been talking about it since the first trailer came out. When I talked to my dad about getting tickets he said “it would be a you and me thing” well I guess I was wrong.
He told me he bought the tickets for the movie but forgot to add in a key detail, my step-mom would be going as well. I had no clue that she was going to the movie or was even interested in it in the first place, but what’s even worse is nobody told me she was going until about a week ago. So okay she’s going, that’s fine I guess.
But today I came home from work really pumped for the movie and everything about it when my dad said we would be eating dinner with my brother before hand. Naturally I was curious as to why my brother was going to dinner with us especially when it’s a Tuesday and he lives in a different town. Turns out that he invited himself to the movie with us having my dad buy a 4th ticket even though this was supposed to be just my dad and I.
I was pissed and tried to brush it off until we actually went and saw the movie where my dad and my brother whispered things to each other the whole time while I sat at the very end away from my dad. They spend so much time together already without me and I wanted this one thing to myself without worrying about the whole family. So I said that I would no longer be going to see movies with them if they continued to talk the whole movie and if my brother kept inviting himself to everything. So, AITA?
EDIT/UPDATE
My wording was all over the place for certain things but just to clear some stuff up, when I brought up seeing the movie I brought it up as “Do you want to go see the new Superman with me” clarifying that I wanted it to be just us two. All of this aside, I talked to my dad today after making this post and realizing late what I said/how I said it. I brought up that I wanted it to just be us two instead of the family and he fully understood. We boiled it down to a misunderstanding and miscommunication on both of our ends. We did make plans October 17th to go see The Black Phone 2 just us two, promising to communicate better.
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So my dad bought tickets for an early release of Superman a few weeks ago and that happened today. I was super excited to see this movie and have been talking about it since the first trailer came out. When I talked to my dad about getting tickets he said “it would be a you and me thing” well I guess I was wrong.
He told me he bought the tickets for the movie but forgot to add in a key detail, my step-mom would be going as well. I had no clue that she was going to the movie or was even interested in it in the first place, but what’s even worse is nobody told me she was going until about a week ago. So okay she’s going, that’s fine I guess.
But today I came home from work really pumped for the movie and everything about it when my dad said we would be eating dinner with my brother before hand. Naturally I was curious as to why my brother was going to dinner with us especially when it’s a Tuesday and he lives in a different town. Turns out that he invited himself to the movie with us having my dad buy a 4th ticket even though this was supposed to be just my dad and I.
I was pissed and tried to brush it off until we actually went and saw the movie where my dad and my brother whispered things to each other the whole time while I sat at the very end away from my dad. They spend so much time together already without me and I wanted this one thing to myself without worrying about the whole family. So I said that I would no longer be going to see movies with them if they continued to talk the whole movie and if my brother kept inviting himself to everything. So, AITA?
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NTA. Petty, pouty, and selfish though.
You are spot on, though in insisting that they respect you and the other patrons un refraining from talking during the movie!
NTA: However, this: “I would no longer be going to see movies with them if they continued to talk the whole movie and if my brother kept inviting himself to everything” isn’t really your problem with the situation.
Try communicating how you actually feel. That you want more one-on-one time with your dad.
I think the problem here is that you wanted to spend some quality time with your dad, just the two of you, and that didn’t happen. Not only did it not happen, but he spent the whole time talking with your brother. Is this typical of your relationship with dad? You feel left out and wish you had more of his time and attention? If so, maybe tell your dad that. “It’s not just that you talked during the movie, and I don’t dislike step-mom and brother, it’s that I want to spend time with you, just the two of us, sometimes.” I’m guessing you’re not an adult yet? and/or maybe dad’s been treating you this way all your life? I imagine it would hurt a lot. NTA
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Buy 2 tix to the next movie you want to see, tell him a meeting or pickup time so he can’t spoil it, and have your movie together. After the movie, tell him how much you enjoyed it and how having one on one time means a lot to you.
I wouldn’t say you are ta, but rather than passive aggressively removing yourself from future outings, it would probably be more beneficial to everyone if you just told your dad why you were upset and that you thought it was going to be time for you to spend together.
If you’re open and honest, and if he’s a decent person, he will feel a bit bad about it and make a concerted effort to have more one-on-one time with you in the future. Since that’s the outcome that you desire, I would recommend that.
I mean your dad should have clarified, but whats wrong with the whole family going? It was a great film and you didnt have to pay to go. Instead of bitching how about you be thankful for how blessed you are.
ESH.
NTA. One of my biggest pet peeves are people who constantly talk and whisper throughout a movie that I have paid money to see in the cinema. It’s a fair call to tell them you’re not interested in seeing any future movies with them if they’re going to whisper through the whole thing. That ruins the whole point of the experience.
As for a movie you want to see with only you and your dad, that’s something you’ll need to clearly communicate (e.g. I would like to spend more one on one time with you dad, so it would be great to see this movie only with you etc.).
You could just have a conversation with your dad about it instead of “I’m never going to play with you ever again”. You’re old enough to express yourself. ESH