I’m F25. My roommate (let’s call him Alex) and I moved in together last year. Since day one, he’s been inviting friends over, basting his music, and yelling down the hallway. I’ve asked him to reduce the volume a couple of times, but all he does is roll his eyes and says, “Bro chill. We’ve been friends since kindergarten.” Guess how we both got into summer school.
About a month ago, I finally told him, “Look, if you’re going to keep making noise, I’m charging you for the white noise machines and earplugs, because my mental health is a thing here.” He nearly fell on the floor laughing and said he’d “dial it back,” but he didn’t. Last week, I received a C+ on an essay I worked on until 3 AM because his buddies were screaming in the kitchen at 2 AM.
So when he approached me yesterday and asked me if he could invite a few friends over tonight, I said “No.” Finals are literally next week and I have to study. He got mad, said that I’m being “controlling” and that “everybody needs to blow off steam.” He even threatened to go and “see a lawyer” if I don’t let him have his party. Maybe being too uptight. I mean, I gave him an second chance every time, but never actually respected my boundaries either. So, AITA?
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I’m F25. My roommate (let’s call him Alex) and I moved in together last year. Since day one, he’s been inviting friends over, basting his music, and yelling down the hallway. I’ve asked him to reduce the volume a couple of times, but all he does is roll his eyes and says, “Bro chill. We’ve been friends since kindergarten.” Guess how we both got into summer school.
About a month ago, I finally told him, “Look, if you’re going to keep making noise, I’m charging you for the white noise machines and earplugs, because my mental health is a thing here.” He nearly fell on the floor laughing and said he’d “dial it back,” but he didn’t. Last week, I received a C+ on an essay I worked on until 3 AM because his buddies were screaming in the kitchen at 2 AM.
So when he approached me yesterday and asked me if he could invite a few friends over tonight, I said “No.” Finals are literally next week and I have to study. He got mad, said that I’m being “controlling” and that “everybody needs to blow off steam.” He even threatened to go and “see a lawyer” if I don’t let him have his party. Maybe being too uptight. I mean, I gave him an second chance every time, but never actually respected my boundaries either. So, AITA?
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> Maybe I could have been more patient about his need to socialize, but bro just kept ignoring my requests to just turn down the volume and took the argument in the wrong direction. I’m not the asshole for defending my own well-being. Right?
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Bro NTA. He clearly didn’t want to respect your boundaries. I would suggest changing roommates immediately.
You are asshole for not respecting yourself. Man get away from him if he would be your real friend he could’ve understand that you have some boundaries which he should not cross and also who threatens their childhood friend legally?
NTA Study comes b4 play. He can play ANYWHERE else!
try calling noise complaints to get this to stop. if youre on campus, call and report him and his friends
NTA
Ask him why they can’t go party at one of his buddies’ homes??
Oh, because their roommates are studying? Hmmmm, maybe OP and they are into something…..!