AITA for not letting my sister bring her dog over anymore?
My sister has a big, hyper dog that knocks things over and jumps on people. The last time she brought him to my house, he ruined my rug by digging its paws into it like it was stupid game. Not to mention all the drooling…. I hate dogs in general and my sister knows that. I told her she can come over anytime but the dog can’t. She got really upset and said if her dog isn’t welcome, neither is she. Now my mom says I’m being too harsh and that I should just deal with it but I think it’s crazy to not honor your hosts wishes even when it comes to family.
Aita?
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AITA for not letting my sister bring her dog over anymore?
My sister has a big, hyper dog that knocks things over and jumps on people. The last time she brought him to my house, he ruined my rug by digging its paws into it like it was stupid game. Not to mention all the drooling…. I hate dogs in general and my sister knows that. I told her she can come over anytime but the dog can’t. She got really upset and said if her dog isn’t welcome, neither is she. Now my mom says I’m being too harsh and that I should just deal with it but I think it’s crazy to not honor your hosts wishes even when it comes to family.
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> First question what action did I take that needs to be judged is I told my sister her dog is not welcome in my house anymore whatsoever. Second question, that might make me the ass hole because she is my sister and it is my sister’s dog, he is not always a terrible dog but this last time he was here I was outraged at the rug incident
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NAH. This is it being dealt with.
One should always honor a host’s wishes if you are going to their home. Your mother is wrong. Not everyone is a dog person and not every home is suitable for dogs. You set your boundary and if your sister doesn’t like it she doesn’t have to come over.
Definitely not the asshole. You can run your home as you wish. You pay for it. You clean it.
Let’s repeat that: YOU clean it. When it comes to pets, the conversation begins and ends there.
Your home, your rules. Your mom doesn’t get a say, OP. NTA.
Info: Did she compensate you for the rug in any way???
It doesn’t matter, you’re NTA either way, I’m just curious.
You are WELL within your rights to refuse the dog’s presence.
Your sister is well within hers to refuse to come over without them.
If this argument keeps her from coming to visit that’s one thing. Don’t let it ruin your whole relationship… unless there’s somthign else goign on that would ruin it anyway.
do you have a garden or outside area to put the dog? i understand your sisters pov and i hate when people are so quick to judge a dogs behavior. most of the time they calm down after a few minutes and it’s really not a big deal.
Some people love dogs. Some don’t. Your house, your rules. Your sister is acting precious. NTA.
NTA
She’s coming over, you told her not to bring the dog
If she can’t understand it, that’s her problem.
Also if she can’t control the mutt, she probably shouldn’t have it in the first place.
Does water spray work on dogs and sisters, or is it just cats?
I have never understood the need for people to bring their pets everywhere with them. Unless it’s a service animal, pets don’t need to be going house to house for visits.
Your house, your rules, especially when the rule is about a big unruly dog whose owner apparently refuses to bother to train it properly. NTA
Nope, NTA. All dogs days at moms from now on!
NTA! This comes from an avid dog lover and former fur parent! I had a greyhound who had some behavior issues of trying to jump on people. Not to intimidate but he thought he was a puppy for life. I understood this when I adopted him and knew I had to get that under control. I would never let him into someone else’s home, invited or not! I don’t understand how people feel entitled to someone else’s home and feel the need for everyone to bend to their desires! Hold to your boundaries and let her adjust accordingly!