So I (31F) have a golden retriever named Waffles. I’ve had her since she was a puppy and she honestly got me through some rough times, including a really messy divorce. Every year, I throw her a small birthday party. Nothing crazy—just a few close friends, some dog-friendly cupcakes, and we hang out in my backyard with snacks and wine. It’s become a bit of a tradition.
This year, Waffles is turning 5, and I had sent out invites to our little dog party about 6 weeks in advance. It’s scheduled for this upcoming Saturday.
Enter my sister (29F), who is 7 months pregnant and has decided this week that she wants to have her baby shower on…you guessed it, Saturday. She wants to have it at my house because it’s “bigger and has better light for photos” than hers. I reminded her that I already had plans that day, and she got huffy. I told her I wasn’t canceling Waffles’ party, and she lost it.
She called me “unhinged,” said I was choosing a “dumb animal over actual family,” and that I was embarrassing myself. My mom is now involved and keeps texting me things like “She’s having your niece, not a litter of puppies,” and my aunt literally left a voicemail saying I “need serious help.”
I offered to help her host the shower on Sunday, or even at her place, or to help her book a local venue (I’d even chip in!), but nope—she insists it has to be at my house, and has to be Saturday.
I get it, a baby shower is a big deal. But… it’s not like I’m having a rager. Just six friends and our dogs, hanging out. I don’t see why I have to cancel my thing because she planned last minute and decided my house is the only acceptable location.
So… AITA?
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So I (31F) have a golden retriever named Waffles. I’ve had her since she was a puppy and she honestly got me through some rough times, including a really messy divorce. Every year, I throw her a small birthday party. Nothing crazy—just a few close friends, some dog-friendly cupcakes, and we hang out in my backyard with snacks and wine. It’s become a bit of a tradition.
This year, Waffles is turning 5, and I had sent out invites to our little dog party about 6 weeks in advance. It’s scheduled for this upcoming Saturday.
Enter my sister (29F), who is 7 months pregnant and has decided this week that she wants to have her baby shower on…you guessed it, Saturday. She wants to have it at my house because it’s “bigger and has better light for photos” than hers. I reminded her that I already had plans that day, and she got huffy. I told her I wasn’t canceling Waffles’ party, and she lost it.
She called me “unhinged,” said I was choosing a “dumb animal over actual family,” and that I was embarrassing myself. My mom is now involved and keeps texting me things like “She’s having your niece, not a litter of puppies,” and my aunt literally left a voicemail saying I “need serious help.”
I offered to help her host the shower on Sunday, or even at her place, or to help her book a local venue (I’d even chip in!), but nope—she insists it has to be at my house, and has to be Saturday.
I get it, a baby shower is a big deal. But… it’s not like I’m having a rager. Just six friends and our dogs, hanging out. I don’t see why I have to cancel my thing because she planned last minute and decided my house is the only acceptable location.
So… AITA?
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NTA your sister is throwing her weight around. Best to set a boundary before her baby’s born.
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Your sister planned something last minute and expects you to cancel a pre-planned event for her convenience. That’s entitlement, not an emergency. You offered compromises, she refused. NTA
NTA. I get that in the case of going babyshower trumps dog birthday but that’s not what she is asking of you. She wants to use your house and doesn’t accept “no”. You are not stopping her from having her shower. You just don’t want to do it in your home because you have other plans for that day. Anyone not understanding that is extremely unreasonable.
Waffles is an awesome name for a dog. NTA for that alone.
She absolutely did that on purpose. She ‘planned’ her shower to overlap Waffles birthday because she has some kind of problem with the fact that you love your dog.
NTA…she has 2 months to do her damned baby shower, she can choose another day or do it somewhere else…dont be imposed upon!
NTA But the rest of your human family is. Waffles is your family. I hope she has a great party!
nta, have fun at your party OP!
Who decides to have a baby shower last minute? Also is it just me or is it weird that SHES the one that decided to throw it? That’s what families and friends are for.
EDIT: NTA. Happy birthday Waffles!