So, I (29F) recently inherited my grandmother’s house. We were very close, and she legally left it to me in her will. It’s a small two-bedroom cottage just outside the city, and I’ve been living there for about four months now.
Enter my cousin “Laura” (34F). Laura and I were never particularly close growing up. She’s always been the golden child of the extended family—cheer captain, valedictorian, the whole thing. Meanwhile, I was the “weird” kid who liked books and kept to myself. We tolerated each other at family events but weren’t friends.
Last week, Laura lost her job and her apartment, and she showed up at my door with two duffel bags, asking if she could stay “just for a few days” while she figured things out. I was caught off guard, but I said okay. She slept on the couch, and I tried to be a good host.
But she immediately started acting like she owned the place. She criticized how I decorated the house (“Grandma would hate this color”), rearranged furniture, threw out my soy milk and replaced it with “real” milk, and even invited a guy over to “Netflix and chill” while I was trying to work in the next room.
After five days, I told her she needed to leave. I said I was happy to help her find a shelter or support service, or call another relative, but she couldn’t stay here anymore. She flipped out. Said I was being “selfish” and that “Grandma would’ve wanted her to have the house anyway.” (Side note: Grandma specifically did not leave anything to Laura because Laura “always had everything.” That’s a direct quote from the will.)
Now my family is blowing up my phone. Apparently Laura is staying with our aunt, but she’s telling everyone I “kicked her out onto the street” and that I’m hoarding the house “like a goblin with a ring.” (Her actual words.)
Some relatives say I was right to draw boundaries, others say I should have let her stay longer because “she’s family.” I’m starting to wonder if I was too harsh.
AITA?
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So, I (29F) recently inherited my grandmother’s house. We were very close, and she legally left it to me in her will. It’s a small two-bedroom cottage just outside the city, and I’ve been living there for about four months now.
Enter my cousin “Laura” (34F). Laura and I were never particularly close growing up. She’s always been the golden child of the extended family—cheer captain, valedictorian, the whole thing. Meanwhile, I was the “weird” kid who liked books and kept to myself. We tolerated each other at family events but weren’t friends.
Last week, Laura lost her job and her apartment, and she showed up at my door with two duffel bags, asking if she could stay “just for a few days” while she figured things out. I was caught off guard, but I said okay. She slept on the couch, and I tried to be a good host.
But she immediately started acting like she owned the place. She criticized how I decorated the house (“Grandma would hate this color”), rearranged furniture, threw out my soy milk and replaced it with “real” milk, and even invited a guy over to “Netflix and chill” while I was trying to work in the next room.
After five days, I told her she needed to leave. I said I was happy to help her find a shelter or support service, or call another relative, but she couldn’t stay here anymore. She flipped out. Said I was being “selfish” and that “Grandma would’ve wanted her to have the house anyway.” (Side note: Grandma specifically did not leave anything to Laura because Laura “always had everything.” That’s a direct quote from the will.)
Now my family is blowing up my phone. Apparently Laura is staying with our aunt, but she’s telling everyone I “kicked her out onto the street” and that I’m hoarding the house “like a goblin with a ring.” (Her actual words.)
Some relatives say I was right to draw boundaries, others say I should have let her stay longer because “she’s family.” I’m starting to wonder if I was too harsh.
AITA?
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> 1. Asking my cousin to leave my (formerly my grandma’s) house. 2. I think she thinks that she was entitled to stay because the house used to belong to our grandma. it doesn’t belong to our grandma anymore. It was left to me. It’s my house now. Movie I’m the jerk because I should let her stay because she’s family.
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NTA it’s your house your rules. You are not responsible for your cousin and youre not obligated to house anyone.
NTA. She was not ever planning on leaving. You would have come back one day to find your things out on the curb. Keep your peace and sanity and do not let her back in.
Absolutely NTA! It sounds like all those relatives criticizing you can open their homes to Laura. Maybe they can take turns hosting her! Protect your peace and block them.
NTA, it sounds like grandma saw who she really is… don’t let her back in, it’s not like she has nowhere to go, and ignore everyone else. It’s not their house, it’s none of their business how you live your life.
NTA. Change the locks
NTA.
For any of your relatives who try to guilt trip you, ask them why they feel entitled to do so. If they’re so concerned about your cousin’s welfare, they can house her.
OP, I’m glad you managed to kick her out, but you made a huge mistake.
NEVER let anyone move in with you. Google squatters rights. Google Jamison Bachman!!
You were kind enough to say yes, when she arrived at your door.
Laura was incredibly rude, and acted like she owned the house. You asked her to leave as she did not respect your boundaries.
Let Laura complain. Do not let her back into the house. Yes, she is jealous that you have a house and she doesn’t.
I am curious as to how she lost her job. Her behavior towards others may have something to do with this. And for all you know, the aunt that took her in is not happy with her, either. Often the golden child has a sense of entitlement which makes them a challenge to deal with.
Consider blocking those that complain to you. Make sure that you will let Laura know that she can stay with them.
NTA
NTA. Let her talk. You can’t hoard your own house! Good on getting her out.
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NTA, she would stay long enough to gain tenancy rights and then never leave. Tough love time for Laura. Let a complaining family member give her a place. Protect yourself.
NTA – Laura also found other familial accommodations, so what’s the problem?
If she’s so great, how come she’s the one who’s couch surfing? What’s wrong with her surfing on her aunt’s couch. Block your relatives for awhile until things calm down. You’ve done your part.
NTA. Laura was taking possession of YOUR house, because as a golden kid she really believes she deserves everything. Too bad life doesn’t work that way
If you are hoarding the house, it’s because IT’S YOURS
To the ones saying “you should have let her stay longer because she’s family”, ask them what would they have done after what Laura did to you. If she really considered YOU family, she would have been respectful
This feels like a fake story. Why would she need to stay with YOU if she’s the golden child of the family, shouldn’t she have an open invitation to crash w her parents or literally any other relative? It’s also hard to believe that anyone would show up with a few duffle bags, unannounced, and think they could live there. I wouldn’t have even answered the door to someone coming to my home unannounced.
NTA
You were kind to let her in and stay on the couch. She has some nerve.
BTW, people don’t get kicked out of their apartment on a whim. There are reasons…
Just quote the will to anyone who has something to say.
In fact text that to all of them including your selfish cousin.
Grandma knew what she was doing
I would be tempted to respond to that with “Yes, My Precious. It’s Ours. Not The nasssty cousinses.”
NTA
Good on your for showing your spine. Now hold your ground. Anyone who complains to you just reply with a simple: “I’ll let Laura know that you are willing to take her in. That’s very generous of you.” Then hang up, leave them on read. And 100% pass it on to Laura’s mom who has “volunteered”.
NTA!
Kick her out NOW before her freeloading ass starts squatting and you never get rid of her.
And if family members are so concerned about her, THEY can give her a place to live. Fuck them
Live the best of your life. Laura is irrelevant. Bless your grandma, she knew where to put her trust.
NTA
NOPE; PS – DO NOT ALLOW HER TO RETURN
NTA
“she’s family.” Tell them to stfu and let Laura move in with them
NTA. Show your extended family the wording in the will if they haven’t seen it already. I expect noone’s ever said no to your cousin before so she needs to hear it. I’m just glad she left when you asked her to.
You tell this cousin that her presence has been disruptive and her behavior as a guest is anything but considerate.
Either she moves on her own in x days. Or she will find the locks changed and all of her belongings piled on the curb free for anyone to take.
Get her out before she acquires tenant rights and then you need to use the court to actually evict her. Right now you can kick a guest out on your own and its a private matter. If she becomes a tenant she could call the police on you and live for free in your place for months for free. Know the law and act accordingly. NTA
She can stay with her golden family, and good riddance.
Get her out , change the locks and put up cameras . Anyone that tries to get in – trespassing.
NTA
To everyone who thinks you are in the wrong. Tell them to ask Laura about the Netflix and chill, and what happened to your soya milk. Then ask them if they like that in their house.
NTA! Good for you at getting rid of her. I wouldn’t let her back in even for a visit. Just keep referring people back to grandmas will, that she wasn’t to get anything so no grandma wouldn’t want her to have the house.
>others say I should have let her stay longer because “she’s family.”
I’m sure those are other people who could put her up.
I don’t know how you lose your job and then lose your apartment, in one fell swoop. In theory, she’d receive unemployment and maybe work something out with her Landlord. (So, you either omitted unecessary info or Laura’s been having issues for a while).
Tbh, it’s not Laura’s fault that Laura had everything… So, I do think your Grandma is kind of cruel for her to say that in her will. Totally omitted one grandchild b/c she was good at things and I guess a little spoiled by her parents?
NTA, though. It is your house. I can see why Laura is upset about the will, but you are not obligated to rectify that.
NTA it’s your house and you’re allowed to ask people to leave. Looks like Grandma was right on the nose!
Ignore anyone who tries to disturb your peace
Please downvote Fake stories
NTA. Just try to ignore the comments others are making. You can tell other family members that they are welcome to put her up.
You have boundaries for a reason. Disrespecting you in your own home is a surefire way to get kicked out! As the saying goes, play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Change your locks, get security cameras and system. Keep her and all other relatives out. You are entitled to your boundaries and your home.
nta
NTA to your family that’s complaining tell them that you’ll forward their information to your cousin so she can critique their homes, throw away their foods, use their homes for “Netflix and chill” and pray every time that she doesn’t wind up pregnant. I’d almost guarantee that they will shut up real fast, because just like them you have the right to say no to anyone living you and you also have the right to revoke access to anyone for any reason
NTA depending on where you are, it can take as little as 7 days for someone to be considered a tenant and require formal eviction… You dodged a bullet.
To all the relatives that say let her move in you need to tell them to let her move in with them.
NTA.
I’m a way yesssss! You took advantage of the situation instead of helping them reconnect with their own. I’ve seen things in a different light. What you did is called a scheming weasel wether you feel intitled to it or she does. Your both wrong and in many different ways. Keep stealing from family and your sure not to have any. Shit maybe you want that. So never mind. Much L and R always.
NTA, and if she ever had keys, change the locks. And install some cameras. She sounds unhinged.
Also never trust anyone who calls Gollum a goblin.
NTA
You did help her. You let her stay in your for the days she asked for. It’s obvious she doesn’t like you from what little you’ve posted. It’s okay. You don’t like her much either. Rooming together in a small home for anything more than a week would very uncomfortable for both of you.
It’s your house. You don’t have to let anyone into it you don’t want to.
Yupp she is trash! My mother is too!
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NTA. You know it. Grandma knew it. The only AH just stuck out like a sore thumb.
If your family doesn’t know it they didn’t listen to Grandma’s wisdom in her will.
NTA
It is your house. End of story. YOU decide who can visit and / or stay.
Your grandmother also knew her well and left the house to you.
For anyone saying “bla bla family” = “great that Laura has your support, I guess she will be staying with you next?”
NTA! Whichever family members berate you for wanting that entitled B gone from your house need to become roommates with her RIGHT NOWWWW. Or give her their homes.
NTA NTA NTA. It’s amazing how people think they are entitled to what you have or have been given.
First of all, I have lost several jobs. None of them caused me to be instantly homeless. Your cousin clearly is not prepared to take care of herself. That is NOT your problem.
By putting her up while she was in trouble you have done your part. She seriously overstepped and took advantage and seems to want to continue to be in charge. Now’s a good time for her to learn to take care of herself.
If she won’t leave, call the cops. The rest of your family is wrong to say you have to be responsible. If they’re so concerned with her welfare then they should invite her to stay at their place.
NTA
Share with all extended family how you would have allowed Laura to stay longer but her behavior prevented that. Then, provide specific details. You may also suggest that everyone give others who have tried (or will try) to help Laura some grace because she is a difficult guest.
NTA. You already know you’re in the right. Don’t let anyone else gaslight you.
It’s your damned house. It doesn’t matter who it belonged to yesterday. It’s yours today. You have every right to control it in any way you see fit, and if she’s gonna be a bad guest, you did the right thing drawing a line.
Stick to your guns on this one. She disrespected you. Don’t let that slide. And as far as everyone else is concerned, simply tell them you don’t want to talk about it again, and if they try to, hang up on them/walk away.
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It is not longer grandmas house. It’s your house. Your rules and your say. No one else has any rights or entitlement to it.
Thank the heavens you got Laura out of your legally owned home when you did because she sounds like the kind of person who would try to squat and claim ownership. She’s bad news all around and you don’t need her anywhere near you. Ignore her and her flying monkeys and have your home reinforced with locks and cameras and secure your documents (the will, transfer of ownership, etc) so you are safe. People like this have no concept of anyone else’s rights because they’re so confident the world owes them whatever they want. Let the aunt deal with her, she’s not your problem. I hope she gets exactly what she deserves in life. Little miss cheer captain valedictorian already peaked in life. It’s all downhill from here. NTA.
NTA, and you were NOT too harsh! Your grandma was right; she doesn’t deserve it.
DON’T let her back in!
NTA at all. Grandma knew Laura was an entitled kid who probably always got whatever she wanted. This was her way of taking care of you. Laura can kick rocks.
NTA.
Tell her that she could only move back in if she pays rent. And, not just a verbal promise. I mean, hire a lawyer bf draft up a contract. Since it’s legally your place, you can charge her to live there. That would make her lose interest in your home.
Any relatives who feel that you should continue to house your cousin beyond the 5 days that you did should step up for her and let her live with them
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Whenever someone says “you should let her stay longer ’cause she’s family” – YOU smile & say “thank you for volunteering to take her into your home. I’ll be sure to give Laura your phone number.”
Of course, they will immediately start backpedaling & say “that’s not what we meant.” Just keep smiling and tell them that since they are SO concerned about family, they should be MORE than happy to take Laura into THEIR home.
Oh, and be sure to change your door locks in case good, ole Laura made herself a duplicate key.
Girl enjoy your house with zero f***s to give. Gramma is proud of you!!
Your grandmother left her nothing for a reason. A reason clearly stated in her will.
Cousin asked to stay a few days and was given just over a few.
She’s got no right to take advantage of your hospitality the way she did.
Your family needs to realize it is now YOUR house and they need to respect any boundaries you set for YOUR home. None of them are entitled to anything with it and none of them get a say in anything.
“Well other relatives you’re correct family does help and now it’s each of your turns. I think a month or two with each of you should give her the help she needs. After all… she’s your family too so tag, you’re it!”
NTA
Whenever I see the words “because she’s family”in a post on AITA, I’m always confident my judgement will be NTA. Stick to your guns.
NTA. Your cousin sounds like an entitled brat and your Grandma knew it, hence not leaving her anything in her will. The family criticising you can take her in since they feel so strongly. Always shocks me how some people in these stories are so generous with other people’s money and property.
NTA, but this is a venting post, not a serious AITA post. You already know you’re NTA. Grandma specifically gifted YOU the house, and specifically excluded the golden cousin. Nobody in your extended family is going to take her complaint seriously. They’re all welcome to house her, poor dear that she is.
She totally planned to never leave. Good for you for kicking her entitled ass out.
And any “family” member who complains, can be met with a “Oh, that’s kind of you to let her stay in your house.” and then block them.
NTA
You’re right they are wrong.
Nta
NTA. If anyone has a problem with your boundaries, then they can let the golden child throw away their belongings and criticize them for awhile.
Sounds like you needa kick a few others to the curb. Just for your own peace
NTA, and WTF:
>She criticized how I decorated the house (“Grandma would hate this color”), rearranged furniture, threw out my soy milk and replaced it with “real” milk, and even invited a guy over to “Netflix and chill” while I was trying to work in the next room.
Not a respectful guest at all. She invited herself in, and now she’s inviting herself out.
It’s not hard to imagine how she lost her job.
Tell the relatives the price; maybe 10% above the zillow value.
Be happy you got her to leave and she didn’t say she had a lease
NTA. I will never understand these types of families and thank God mine was “normal”, taught us all to bear personal responsibility, and this type of drama is non- existent.
NTA. Time to get security cameras and change the locks if you haven’t already. Any of your relatives are free to give to their home to Laura, since that’s what family does. She staying with family, I don’t see the problem.
>Side note: Grandma specifically did not leave anything to Laura because Laura “always had everything.” That’s a direct quote from the will.
Your grandma hated her. Why did she show up at your house and not her parents’ house? NTA.
NTA your Grandmother left you the house for a reason and worded her will that way so everyone knew her intentions and you are right to set firm boundaries. I had the wife of a relative try to challenge my grandmothers will (as I am not biologically hers but only ever knew her nanna. Long story), I spoke to the estate lawyers who informed me that my Nanna loved me and never saw me as anything else and wanted me to have it. Your Grandmother saw what the situation was and wanted you to have her house and your cousin is trying to take advantage of you. She is clearly entitled and thinks she is owed something because she is used to getting what she wants and can’t handle that you got something she felt entitled to!
Absolutely, positively NTA. Entitled whiners like her piss me off. Make sure everyone is reminded of what grandma said and they can host her if they want. They’ll toss her as well.
She is staying with other family. So what’s the problem. Maybe they don’t want her there either.
Not an asshole. She came in and immediately took advantage of you. She deserves what you gave her: a chance. She doesn’t deserve another.
She sounds insufferable based on your description. It’s your home. Block the numbers you don’t want to see BS from and set a calendar event to unblock them in a few months.
Stay safe.
“others say I should have let her stay longer because “she’s family.” so they invited her to live with them?
losing a job and appartment at same time means her downfall had been going on for a while
NTA
NTA!! Guard your space!!
NTA. Your family sounds toxic.
I have said this on many posts like this.
Your grandmother knew exactly what she was doing, respect her wishes.
Try to get rid of the guilt. If family members criticize you let them take him in!!!!
NTA.
You did her a favor and she returned it with disrespect.
She’ll be fine.
NTA – she pushed past boundaries without any care or concern, and sounds like the type that would have tried having the locks changed while you were out.
You let her stay, and she made (from your narrative), no effort to fix her situation. You then told her she had to leave, and then spat on you when you offered to help her find accommodations. Then spread tales to all and sundry.
Family is NOT a license to be walked on.
If others have such strong feelings about her homelessness they can put her up. NTA and now you know who your enemies are. Family or not.
NTA when she starts trying to own their places or bringing strangers into their houses I bet they’ll change their tune
NTA. She’s entitled and seflish. Forget about her and enjoy the home your lovely grandmother left to you.
If I were in your shoes, I would have set boundaries first (maybe after the violations, even though they are quite common sense) which gives her a chance to comply, and then kick her out. Maybe you did that already. I still don’t think you are wrong if you didn’t and just kicked her out after the annoyances built up.
I do think it is great that you had the chance to kick her out early though, since I am not sure she was ever going to leave.
NTA your grandma left the house to you and you alone.
No one has the right to tell you who can live in your house.
Your cousin has a sense of self entitlement and that the world is all about her.
Let her find a place to live and get a job.
NTA.
OP, your cousin’s living situation isn’t your problem and responsibility.
Who knows, maybe it’s karma finally catching up to the cousin and doing its handy work. Why interfere with that process?
Cousin is rude and disrespectful to OP who was kind enough to help out when cousin was needing a place to stay.
Relatives against OP should take in OP’s cousin and let the cousin stay in their home then if they’re being preachy about “selfishness”.
Or maybe they should be good examples of being unselfish and buy the cousin a house to live in, pay for the utilities, the groceries, and whatever else. If they’re so hung up on “selfishness”. Go ahead, these meddling relatives should show everyone then what should be done if they have such a huge problem with OP.
But in a legal standpoint, “Grandma would’ve wanted me to have this…” won’t fly in court because if granny really wanted to, she could have and would have — BUT DIDN’T.
Grandma left the house to OP and that’s that.
Put a “No Trespassing” sign up in front of the property. Install security cameras throughout the place. Keep copies of threatening and harassing texts and/or emails, record all conversations and interactions, document EVERYTHING.
I’d even suggest going as far as issuing a restraining order to the cousin then go no contact with everyone who was encouraging such entitlement and toxicity.
NTA. You acquired the house legally and are the legal owner. Your relatives that are bent out of shape are free to host her themselves if they are so concerned.
NTA. No one just “suddenly” loses their apartment – she had to be behind in rent before this. I suspect a calculated move to go someplace where she gets free rent.
Be the cousin that kicked her out into the street and let the rest of the family deal with her entitlement.
NTA.
NTA
It’s your house, your rules.
Laura, and the rest of the family, can kick rocks… they don’t get to tell you what you can do with your stuff.
NTA. Do not let Laura or any of her supporters into YOUR house. If haven’t yet changed the locks since moving in please do so ASAP
NTA, for the reasons everyone else has said. I almost would want to sell this house and buy an equivalent house and don’t tell any of these people your new address. They would feel less entitlement over a different house that was not grandma’s — not that you should have to cater to their feelings though.
She should go shack up with Mr Netflix and Chill.
NTA. She fucked around and found out.
NTA. Her showing up with bags without notice shows she just assumed she had rights to the house. You were right to correct her.
Forward the text of every person who said she should stay because she’s “family” to her, because it sounds like they are volunteering to host your leechy cousin. NTA
Houseguests are like leftovers, both need to thrown out in 4 days
Since she was mentioned in the will and left nothing she had no grounds to contest it. There is no way a judge would overturn it when grandma stated that she didn’t forget her but didn’t want to leave her anything.
NTA. These relatives that say “because family” can shut the hell up and house Laura themselves.
In my experience, the “because family” people are the worst and you are much better off without them.
I know because I was “because family”ed into housing my ‘golden child’ sister. It was miserable. I only got rid of her when she got married. Then she was someone else’s problem. BTW, I was a single mother with a 4 year old when this happened. She did NOT help with child care for the entire 14 months, nor pay rent.
They left you the house because you are responsible.
NTA. This is now your home. She can fuck off and the relatives who support her can have her.
NTA. Your cousin has only herself to blame for wearing out her welcome, if not her flair for the melodramatic.
Ignore what the others say. If they want to open their home to Laura, they can certainly do so. If they aren’t satisfied with that, well … don’t take their calls.
Family that doesn’t act like family should don’t get to play the ‘but family’ card, IMO.
Fake
NTA, but your title is misleading
NTA. Your grandmother was a wise woman. Stand your ground.
NTA. Good, well-behaved guests don’t bring their bang partners home to another person’s house. Have you told the flying monkeys exactly how she abused your hospitality? It would be different if she was paying, although still not cool since you work from home. She is abusing her guest privileges. Family or not. Ask the flying monkeys if they would be good with that kind of behavior. Kick her sleezy ass out. If they are so worried, then they can take her in.
Change the locks! And block the whiners! Your cousin is still the golden child.
NTA
NTA. She is clearly jealous and holding resentment that she didn’t receive anything in grandma’s will. You tried to be gracious and help her out and she crossed boundaries by being a poor guest. It doesn’t matter whether or not grandma would approve of any decisions because the house is yoursbecause she deliberately left it to you. Your aunt can take her in if she is that upset.
Dear family,
I have been hearing rumors that Laura has been upset and creating a fuss. “Laura is staying with our aunt, but she’s telling everyone I “kicked her out onto the street” and that I’m hoarding the house “like a goblin with a ring.”
I thought I would answer to the drama: Yes and Yes.
Proceed to tell them about her entitled behavior during the week long stay. You will be respect the will your grandmother drafted and enjoying your peaceful house. They are welcome to open their doors to her in her time of need. You did and you are done.
Oh, NTA
This is so so so fake.
Change the locks and get a camera. She sounds entitled.
Your new mantra: anyone complaining is volunteering their home. Anyone contacting you to say anything negative is volunteering to host your cousin.
This situation is always simple. Respond to every relative who’s criticizing you with “then why don’t you take her in? 🫠”. People always have such good will when it comes to dictating what OTHERS should do.
“You should have let her stay longer because she’s family.”
“Ok I’ll let her know you’ve offered her a place to stay for as long as she wants.”
NTA
No. Any longer, she could have claimed to be a resident, and you would have had to evict her to get her out. An expensive and time-consuming process. Don’t make that mistake again.
NTA and you should tell the relatives who are giving you a hard time to take her in if they have such strong opinions.
NTA horde the house harder and get a literal pile of dragon gold.
She did you a favor wearing out her welcome so soon. Depending on state laws you might have had to evict her.
NTA. If others want to host her, let them. Sometimes in life, you are going to be the villain in someone else’s story. Not much you can do about it.
Also, if she says a “goblin with a ring,” one Gollum, formerly known as Smeagol, would like a word.
YTA
No matter how much of a dick she is, or what she did, NO ONE deserves homelessness. You are an incredibly assholish asshole. How about you spend a night in a shelter or try calling 211 or those useless services you “offered to help her with” and see how far you get. I hope you mismanage the shit out of that house and lose it. Just to be clear, you’re a real fucking asshole for making someone homeless in this world. Fuck off
NTA. The problem with letting her stay longer is that she could be considered a tenant after a while and that would make it harder to make her leave. Your grandmother knew Laura well enough to not let her have the house. She was only there for a few days and she was already theowing your stuff out and rearranging the place. She can stay with the relatives on her side!
NTA The people who think you should have let her stay should put their money where their mouth is and host your cousin as long as she needs
If it’s so important that she stay with family, I’m sure everyone will gladly take a turn hosting her for a week or two at a time. She’ll undoubtedly be a kind and gracious guest.
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NTA
NTA. Throwing out your food to replace it with her preferences alone would be enough for me to boot a guest. It’s a huge sign of disrespect for you, your property, and your preferences.
She asked to stay “just for a few days”. You fulfilled that request. She now has a roof over her head and is fine. Don’t give her another thought.
NTA.
NTA. Your Granny is the MVP!
NTA and change your locks. Park the car in the garage so she won’t key it.
NTA
you should never have let her enter your home. Don’T make the same error again.
NTA
Nope. You did the right thing. If she stayed past 30 days, she’d become a renter with legal rights. Kicking her out vendors you both mentally and legally. 👍
Fake.
NTA. … you own the house…do not let her back in and block those relatives that hassle you and just explain to the others you wish Laura well but you don’t want to discuss it anymore and – get a camera!!!
NTA! You’re respecting your grandmother’s will. Do not cede to any coercion, guilt tripping or similar. Do not let her return. If they insist, just say the house is yours, and given cousin is such an intelligent woman as per previous achievements, well, she’ll no doubt find a job pretty quick! Add a bit of “oh, but I would never dream of disrespecting grandma’s memory and legacy by relinquishing her clearly stated will, that would make me a very bad grandchild”
She’s entitled, manipulative, and can’t even get her literary quotes right. Goblins never hoarded the ring. Pscht
She shows up and says she deserves your house instead of you? Good riddance.
NTA. You can tell your family members if they care so much about Laura’s living situation then they can take her in. That will shut them up really quickly because it’s clear no one wants her around or she wouldn’t have come to you.
This isn’t 2012