I (19 trans-F) have family who’s visiting from out of state. Issue is, they are extremely religious and conservative, and voted for people who want to kill me. Despite that, they still think really fondly of me, and ignore the fact I’m trans. One of the main reasons they are visiting is because they want to see me.
Well I decided, I can’t stand to be with people who think “i hate and want all trans people dead, except you, cause i personally like you are family”. I rejected to see them, and cited the same reason I just said. AITA?
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I (19 trans-F) have family who’s visiting from out of state. Issue is, they are extremely religious and conservative, and voted for people who want to kill me. Despite that, they still think really fondly of me, and ignore the fact I’m trans. One of the main reasons they are visiting is because they want to see me.
Well I decided, I can’t stand to be with people who think “i hate and want all trans people dead, except you, cause i personally like you are family”. I rejected to see them, and cited the same reason I just said. AITA?
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NTA.
Specifically want to see you, when they have that attitude? Run, don’t walk.
NTA
“We want to specifically see you, to lecture you on the ‘wickedness’ of your ways and bring you back to the ‘light’.”
They made their choice.
NTA.
How do they ignore your being trans? Pretend you aren’t or call you a different name?
Even if they were enlightened people, you do not need to see them. You do not need any reason to not see them.
Given your reasoning, nope – no need to see them.
NTA
NTA. Decisions have consequences and this is one of theirs.
Nah, you’re good. NTA.
You owe them nothing. NTAH.
This is how people learn consequences. You refusing to see them is a consequence of their choice. NTA
NTA. Obviously.
NTA. Fuck those guys.
ETA: Your mental health and safety are more important than relatives seeing you for five minutes. If the are fond of you, they would make an effort to understand the real you, not one they have romanticized. Ugh, fuck those guys. I may feel strongly haha.
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NTA.
You can tell them to meet you halfway and sit down for a talk about why you are intolerant of their choices, or you can simply say I Do Not Want To See You.
They knew what they were getting into choosing this. It was no surprised transgender society was at risk before and undeniably is now. They should know the cost and thats losing your support and connection.
NTA and may they have the trip they deserve.
NTA. No one’s obligated to be a bigot’s special.