So, I (25M) live with my roommate (26M). We split rent and utilities evenly, but I pay for most of the subscriptions we use (Netflix, Spotify family, Disney+).
Recently, he asked me to give his girlfriend access to my Netflix account so she can use it at her place. I told him no, because I’m the one paying for it and I don’t want to share outside of our apartment.
He got really annoyed and said I’m being selfish since “it doesn’t cost me extra.” I told him that’s not the point—it’s still my account and I don’t want to give it away.
Now he’s giving me the cold shoulder and even told some of our friends that I’m being stingy.
So Reddit, AITA for not wanting to share my Netflix account with my roommate’s girlfriend?
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NTA, he can pay for her subscription if he wants but what he is asking you to do would violate ToS. Either way she is HIS GF, not yours. There is no reasonable way someone should expect you to support their GF’s lifestyle.
She’s not your girlfriend. She can get her own account.
NTA. You can choose who you give it to. They’re cheap for not having their own.
NTA roommate is totally the AH.
Netflix sees you are streaming from 2 different locations at the same time, your account it null and void. Went into effect a year ago.
NTA, and why are you paying for most of the subscriptions anyway? If you’re splitting everything else evenly, make him pay for half the subscriptions as well. Then he can share with his girlfriend as much as he wants.
Boundaries aren’t selfish. You already share your home, your space, and your streaming with him. Saying no to extending that to his girlfriend isn’t stingy, it’s protecting what you pay for. Respect goes both ways.
NTA. It’s your account, your money, your rules. He’s acting entitled by assuming your paid subscription should extend to his girlfriend who doesn’t even live with you.
Him calling you stingy is just manipulation because he’s not getting his way. He knows you’re right, which is why he’s trying to guilt-trip you instead of respecting your choice.
NTA..geez the heights of entitlement! You paid for it it’s completely upto you. You can ask them to pay you half the cost, they’ll probably stop asking
NTA
NTA. Stop sharing your subscriptions. New roommate?
Nta; he’s lucky he’s watching it.
Bullshit lmao you haven’t been able to stream from the same account at different households without upgrading the plan, for about a year now.
AI post
Besides, like Santa, Netflix knows when you are cheating. They’ll get to use it a couple of times by lying then they’ll get cut off.
Nta. Change the passwords so he can’t use them. Then tell him he can get his own subscriptions and let her use his.
NTA people will take as much as hey can sometimes
Your title is misleading. Sharing with your roommate makes perfect sense (and would be hard to avoid, really). Giving your password to his girlfriend to use back at her home is very different. NTA.
I agree with you…Note: you don’t have to explain yourself..just tell him you don’t feel comfortable with the idea..if he presses, tell him you don’t feel comfortable explaining..
NTA, I literally had a fight with my brother regarding the same problem. Hell noo.
NTA.
Tell him that account sharing like he’s asking for is against the terms of service (which it is) and that Netflix has been cracking down on the practice (which they have).
NTA –
NTA. NTA at all. It’s a great way for her to screw up your subscription, and her boyfriend can pay for it for her, or shocker! She can pay for it herself.
NTA. Don’t share the account with him anymore. Tell him to pay for himself.
It does cost extra!
Remind him the basic Netflix is under $10/month. 🤷🏻♀️
Remove him from your account and tell him to pay for it himself if he wants her to use it
Your roommate is the AH for even asking. Tell him if you can bang his girlfriend, she can have your Netflix password.
NTA. Netflix basically cuts off access to those not in the same household and you’ll have to pay extra so other users can leach off the same account. Tell your roommate you’re willing to share the account if he shares his gf too.
You are NTA but your friend is. he’s also being childish.
I’ll be honest, I can be a real petty asshole. The minute my roommate starts acting so entitled to a service that I pay for that he thinks his girlfriend should also have access to it (outside of your home especially) is the minute I remove the account from all shared devices, change the password, and tell him to get his own account. Some people have no appreciation for things that others are literally giving them.
NTA I used to let someone else use my account n then Netflix changed there policy and suddenly I was paying even more because the other person was in a whole ass different state.
He’s getting bent out of shape over nothing. Netlfix doesn’t allow you to have multiple households on the account unless you pay for an extra member slot. So for her to actually use it, yeah, you would be paying extra. Tell him to get over his wittle baby attitude. NTA.
Nta you should change the passwords and have him pay half while he uses it.
You can no longer share with someone who isn’t part of your household anymore anyway. If she tries to log on from somewhere else, it won’t let her. So, no argument to be had. I had to get my daughter to sign up for her own. We used to share.
NTA – I’d tell him you cancelled it all together and just have it on your device only. If he really wants it he will pay – and if you want to watch something watch it with ear pods in your room on your phone.
Sorry no longer have a subscription I realised what a big waste of money it’s been.
Ask him to throw you a few bucks towards your account. I knew plenty of roommates who split the nextflix account.
Wow, it’s really true. Give people an inch and they feel entitled to the mile. 🙄 NTA
So you give her the password and she shares it to someone else who shares it to someone else and you’re stingy? Nope, tell your roommate to pay for his own subscription and then he can give out his password. NTA
Netflix started charging for this
You’re not obligated to, but kind of a dick move.
Dood, NTA. Been there done that. Way too many headaches .
Nta… plus if she uses it at her place and then you use it every time she wants in you’re going to have to reset household . It’s just an email but annoying as hell. Your roommate is being an entitled idiot
Change all your passwords!!!
NTA but also Netflix won’t even allow that anymore. Doesn’t matter if she gets the password, she won’t be able to watch it outside of your place anyway.
NTA. He can be locked out of the account in the apartment, if he likes.
NTA – Stop subsidizing an entitled parasite. He has the audacity to call you selfish while using your subscriptions? If he wants streaming services so badly, he can get off his ass and pay for his own. Don’t be a doormat.
You can’t share Netflix outside your household anymore anyway.
“Stingy?!? Hey, she’s YOUR girlfriend, bro. If your broke ass can’t pay her Netflix in exchange for her consenting to touch your ween, maybe she should be looking for alternatives.”
NTA, if she wants Netflix she can pay for it herself or she can pay a third of the bill. Which in reality your roommate should be paying for half the subscriptions if you both use them. Otherwise he can get his own and pay for it himself.
NTA, she can pay for her own netflix lmao. Or, he can pay for it.
Nta. He can pay. And Netflix has started cracking donw on sharing in-between households.
Nah NTA. Sharing is always an option never a requirement
We use our account when we go away. It will sometimes let us watch, other times it logs us out. I think if someone at home uses it, we get kicked off. Even though it’s my account I pay for. Tell his gf to stop being cheap and get her own account.
it will cost you though as soon as she logs in it will be a new IP address
tell her to get her own its like £15 per month
NTA. Netflix can detect when people log in from a different location, so sharing it with someone else the way your roommate wants can blow back on you. They can either pay you to add her to your premium account (provided you have one, it’s not available for the ad-supported tier), or she can get her own.
Personally, I’d sign out of all non-personal devices and change my passwords, so your roommate can’t access any of your accounts, because now you know he’ll continue to keep using them once he moves out.
NTA either way but aren’t you literally not able to use it outside of your own house
NTA, log out of everything. Change your passwords. They can pay for their own stuff.
NTA. Call him out for being/acting broke, make him split these subscriptions and ask him why he’s comfortable with getting some other guy to take care of his girl
If he wants to be sharing Netflix – he needs to be contributing to the monthly cost.
Not that I’m saying you have to be okay with password sharing. It’s just a nonstarter for him to share something he isn’t paying towards with anyone outside of the house.
Tell him he can start a new Netflix account for all of you if sharing is important to him
Even if you did give her your login information, she’d still get kicked off of your account every so often since her device would be outside your residence. It’s not worth the headache of her or your roommate badgering you for the login information again and also you having to approve the login through your email. Netflix doesn’t cost that much so she really needs to get her own plan.
NTA. LOL, the audacity is next level.
Netflix doesnt let you share passwords anyways. If his gf tried to use it at her place, she would have to declare herself the account holder and your location wouldnt be able to access it anymore. you can only use it at one address. I am surprised you didnt know that, it was huge news for a while with people vowing to cancel netflix etc
Nta- Netflix is really trying to crack down on sharing accounts, especially outside 1 household. You could potentially lose your account if you made a mistake
Is it rude they won’t share their TV with you?
NTA… lol mfkr it’s your (roomate) gf you pay for her Netflix.
nta
“Why are you so comfortable using me that you also feel okay blaming me for you guys not being able to afford something you want?”
It wouldn’t work at her place anyways. Netflix only lets you use your account at one location now. Unless
You pay extra.
I thought you couldn’t share your Netflix account outside your own address anymore, I know you can’t here in the UK.
Anyway, absolutely not, who knows who she’d then share it with. It would get to the stage where you’d never get access to it as there’s too many folks watching it (been there).
NTAH
It won’t work, Netflix cracked down and it won’t work on different ISPs. It works on multiple devices within the same home, on the same internet connection and at the same address only.
So NAH
I’m amazed people are going to this extent to get out of paying Netflix. Inevitably the password gets shared and shared again until tons of random people are on it, slowing the account down and risking suspension. Netflix is cracking down on password sharing.
In the US at least, the cheapest Netflix plan is $7.99 per month.
If you can’t afford $8 a month then you need to prioritize other things than Netflix. This woman is balking at $8 and YOU an are being called stingy? LOL.
It actually does cost extra, just not monetarily. it’s incredibly annoying. I was letting my sister who was away at college use my Netflix on her laptop….
DAILY. Netflix was logging me out of every single device, it became such an inconvenience I said so sorry sis we can’t share anymore. And then I downgraded my Netflix plan.
They’re cracking down on shared accounts so girly logging in could get the account suspended
Nta, your account, your choice, your consequences
Bruh he wants to freeload and who knows what HE might watch on there.
Lmao this AI post is behind the times. You’d have to pay to have someone in a different house use it anyway. Been that way for at least a year at this point
From what I understand, Netflix has made it so that it cannot be shared outside the household of the subscriber.
Regardless of that however, he needs to get his own Netflix if he wants to share it with some third party. I find it a bit audacious he asked you if that.
NTA.
Also, if his roommate and his roommate’s girlfriend have that kind of mindset, I’ll bet they would start sharing that password with their friends. This could get OP in big trouble with Netflix. It would also mean OP could not watch Netflix if other people were logged in under his password.