So I (19F) study in a college where we have to walk a lot between buildings. Today, out of nowhere, it started raining really hard. I had my tiny foldable umbrella in my bag and pulled it out.
There’s this girl (20F) in my class who constantly mocks me — my clothes, my handwriting, even my water bottle (she once called it “village-core aesthetic”). We’ve never had a decent interaction. She’s always loud and surrounded by her group, always has something sarcastic to say about me. I mostly ignore it.
Anyway, today as I was opening my umbrella, she ran up to me and said, “Hey, share kar lete hai, waise bhi jagah hai”
[Translation: “Hey, move a bit. There is space.”]
I just looked at her and said, “Sorry, it’s small.” And walked away.
I could literally hear her say “bitch” under her breath. Later, in class, some of her friends said I was “heartless” and “mean” for not sharing in an emergency.
But I’m sorry — I’m tired of being treated like garbage and then expected to be generous. It’s not like she was stranded in a jungle. It was just rain.
AITA?
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So I (19F) study in a college where we have to walk a lot between buildings. Today, out of nowhere, it started raining really hard. I had my tiny foldable umbrella in my bag and pulled it out.
There’s this girl (20F) in my class who constantly mocks me — my clothes, my handwriting, even my water bottle (she once called it “village-core aesthetic”). We’ve never had a decent interaction. She’s always loud and surrounded by her group, always has something sarcastic to say about me. I mostly ignore it.
Anyway, today as I was opening my umbrella, she ran up to me and said, “Hey, share kar lete hai, waise bhi jagah hai”
[Translation: “Hey, move a bit. There is space.”]
I just looked at her and said, “Sorry, it’s small.” And walked away.
I could literally hear her say “bitch” under her breath. Later, in class, some of her friends said I was “heartless” and “mean” for not sharing in an emergency.
But I’m sorry — I’m tired of being treated like garbage and then expected to be generous. It’s not like she was stranded in a jungle. It was just rain.
AITA?
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> I refused to share my umbrella with a classmate who always mocks me, even when it suddenly started raining and she asked to share. Some people think I was being cold and petty, and I’m wondering if I was wrong for letting personal feelings affect my decision in that moment. Maybe I should have helped despite our history.
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>some of her friends said I was “heartless” and “mean” for not sharing in an emergency
rain is not an emergency
NTA
NTA. She doesn’t get to spend all her spare time mocking you, then expect kindness in the rain.
NTA. actions have consequences, and she is not made of sugar, she’ll live.
Demanding a stranger you make fun of to move from under their own umbrella is bonkers NTA
Getting wet isn’t an emergency. NTA
NTA! This reads like a scene from a high school movie that I’d like to watch!
NTA. The ol’ famous Reddit quote: Lack of planning on your part doesn’t constitute an emergency on my part.
And those umbrellas are definitely too small for two people.
NTA. rain is not an emergency.
why do people who treat others like shit, expect those same others to help them or do them favors? It’s wild.
She’s the AH and self-obsessed at the least.
Ignore her and her mean girls.
NTA. If she wanted people to help her, then maybe she shouldn’t bully you.
NTA
Did you have the opportunity to be the better person in that moment? Sure, but nothing says you have to be. She’s been bullying you, we reap what we sow, she bullied any kindness towards her out of your heart. End result, she either waits for the rain to pass or gets wet.
NTA.
It’s not even about the umbrella at this point. This person treats you like trash and there’s no obligation for you to be any closer to her than absolutely necessary. In fact, it’s almost a blessing this happened.
Now, if she keeps whining about it, you’ve got a good reason to call her out.
“Why would I be anywhere near you when you’re so mean and treat me so horribly? Stay far away from me, and I’ll do you the courtesy of doing the same.”
NTA. Even if she didn’t constantly treat you that way, she isn’t entitled to someone else’s umbrella. If she didn’t want to get wet, she should have brought her own.
NTA! Also, I feel as if I’ve seen this scenario before lmao
NTA. Good for you!
NTA. She’s an entitled brat and doesn’t like you. If I were your mom, I’d say she’s jealous of how beautiful you are (because moms say this when girls are mean). Keep your umbrella to yourself, girl. Show her she’s nothing.
NTA. We’ve all met people like this. She probably expected you to refuse her, and asked anyway just to justify her own treatment of you in her mind.
NTA – definition of FAFO for her.