I (21M) am going on a trip with two friends: a guy (19M) and a girl (19F). We all get along well, and we found a nice, cheap Airbnb in a quiet area.
The Airbnb has one single sofa bed and one double bed. After we booked it, the girl suddenly suggested that we rotate who sleeps on the sofa bed and the double bed, which seemed fair to me at first.
But then she said she won’t share the double bed with another guy because of a past experience that affected her. I told her I understood, but that means my friend and I would have to take turns sleeping on the floor since there are only two sleeping spots. I suggested she stay on the sofa bed instead, but she refused, saying she has back problems.
Now it feels like she expects my friend and me to alternate between the sofa and the floor while she always gets the double bed. I don’t think that’s fair, but she insists on her arrangement.
AITA for refusing to sleep on the floor?
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I (21M) am going on a trip with two friends: a guy (19M) and a girl (19F). We all get along well, and we found a nice, cheap Airbnb in a quiet area.
The Airbnb has one single sofa bed and one double bed. After we booked it, the girl suddenly suggested that we rotate who sleeps on the sofa bed and the double bed, which seemed fair to me at first.
But then she said she won’t share the double bed with another guy because of a past experience that affected her. I told her I understood, but that means my friend and I would have to take turns sleeping on the floor since there are only two sleeping spots. I suggested she stay on the sofa bed instead, but she refused, saying she has back problems.
Now it feels like she expects my friend and me to alternate between the sofa and the floor while she always gets the double bed. I don’t think that’s fair, but she insists on her arrangement.
AITA for refusing to sleep on the floor?
Note: English is not my first language so this post have been translated.
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NTA.
She knew she wouldn’t be comfortable sharing the double bed with a guy when she first suggested it- so why did she?
NTA. I respect that she doesn’t feel comfortable sharing with a guy, but she should have disclosed all this before agreeing to book the place to ensure everyone had comfortable sleeping arrangements.
That’s not fair unless she is paying for a large majority of the fee. Otherwise tell he everyone get’s equal comfortability. She should have made this known prior to booking as well, obviously.
NTA whatsoever. But you’re an AH to yourself if you give in on this.
NTA. She would’ve had to sleep on the sofa bed anyway with the previous agreed setup, why weren’t her back problems raised then?
I respect her trauma and understand how it would make sharing with someone else triggering. however, I can’t support her use of her trauma as an excuse to change an agreement or as a way to get what she wants in a situation that would’ve been avoidable if she had spoken about the problems she would have before you got to the airbnb.
NTA. She’s trying to scam you by making y’all pay more for less. Tell her there’s a nice bit of pavement outside the Airbnb she can sleep on if she’s not comfortable keeping things fair.
NTA. Tell her that if you have to sleep on the floor to give her a bed (or the sofabed) all to herself, she needs to pay for half of the room cost.
NTA
You have an apartment with three beds, there are three of you, you have all paid for a bed.
That means if two are comfortable sharing a bed and one isn’t, the two get that bed and the one gets the leftovers. The one doesn’t get to commandeer two beds to themselves and force someone else to sleep on the floor.
If the one refuses to be reasonable, they are always welcome to pay the extra to get a larger place so she can get a bed to herself and everyone else can still get the bed they paid for.
NTA, she can sleep on the sofa bed during the holiday.
Oh my gosh you have back problems? I do too!! That’s why there’s not way I’ll sleep on the floor.”
NTA, I wouldnt even go on this trip with her. She’s gonna make that a problem and to pay for an Airbnb just to be on the floor? I sleep on the floor, its not comfortable lol
NTA, but take the double bed, and you and your mate can crash together. She wants a bed to herself, she can have the sofa bed. You are sharing, so you deserve the better bed. That’s the trade-off.
Nta find a place with 3 single beds so that no one has to have shitty sleep. If she’s unwilling to pay that then she’s profiting off of one of you sleeping ON THE FLOOR.
NTA
If this was an issue she should have raised it before booking to ensure everyone had a place to sleep
NTA. Everyone I know with back problems like super hard mattresses…maybe she’s most suited for the floor?
Also, how long have you been friends with her? She never revealed her back problems before the trip?
It’s simple: payments should be according to bed. Sleep on flor: $0. Sleep on sofa 30% Sleep on bed 70% or something like it.
NTA. She won’t share a bed with the guy she is fucking? That’s stupid.