We took a destination wedding trip this month something we’d been planning for four months. I had to save up, I don’t earn much, and when my office delayed our salaries last month, things got tight. Despite that, I managed to save enough and went on the trip with my friends.
The friend who stayed with me for a couple of extra days earns much more than I do. She lives in her hometown, while I’m responsible for living in another city, so I have more expenses. But during those two days, she acted as if she had no money. I covered her expenses and even though I went out of my way, she constantly complained about the stay I booked, the food, everything. She was very ungrateful, and it upset me. I decided then that I would never travel with her again.
When it was time to leave, she barely said goodbye properly. It hurt to see such behavior from a childhood friend. A few days later, I called her to explain how unhappy I’d been with her attitude. She asked, “What did I do wrong?” but wasn’t willing to accept any responsibility. She seemed to be in a different zone and didn’t acknowledge what she’d done.
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We took a destination wedding trip this month something we’d been planning for four months. I had to save up, I don’t earn much, and when my office delayed our salaries last month, things got tight. Despite that, I managed to save enough and went on the trip with my friends.
The friend who stayed with me for a couple of extra days earns much more than I do. She lives in her hometown, while I’m responsible for living in another city, so I have more expenses. But during those two days, she acted as if she had no money. I covered her expenses and even though I went out of my way, she constantly complained about the stay I booked, the food, everything. She was very ungrateful, and it upset me. I decided then that I would never travel with her again.
When it was time to leave, she barely said goodbye properly. It hurt to see such behavior from a childhood friend. A few days later, I called her to explain how unhappy I’d been with her attitude. She asked, “What did I do wrong?” but wasn’t willing to accept any responsibility. She seemed to be in a different zone and didn’t acknowledge what she’d done.
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I paid for my best friend’s expenses during a two-day extra trip after a destination wedding
Saying “I’ll never travel with you again” could come across as harsh, punitive, and unforgiving.
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This is exactly why I tell younger women to always travel with their boyfriend BEFORE marriage. I know this was about OP’s friend, but premise is the same – Travel quickly reveals who a person actually is.
NTA. She asked what she did wrong, but refused to accept any responsibility…how immature. If all she had to do was complain, why didn’t she book those things herself or at least give you her two cents before everything was finalized? It’s completely valid if you don’t want to go on another trip with her. Traveling is supposed to be enjoyable. Even if there were challenges during the trip, you can look back and laugh about them. But this trip just left a bitter taste in your mouth.
Nta
NTA. You’re not wrong for deciding not to travel with her again. Some people reveal their true selves when things don’t go perfectly on trips, and it’s okay to set boundaries based on that. If she can’t reflect on her behavior, that’s on her, not you.
NTA Vemo her her half of the cost of the trip…. Accommodation, meals, transportation… why should you have to pay for her?
NTA
Holidays can make or break a friendship and doing this again will break this friendship , if this didn’t happen already.
Def nta your childhood friend was acting kinda entitled
YTA for not earlier standing up for yourself, next time call the person out immediately and make the best of it, even if it means to spend the time alone checking the destination, life is too short for a**** friends 😉❤️
Time to move on. You don’t need friends like this.
NTA. Is this a friendship you wish to sustain?
If so, be frank with her.
“Sometimes people are really good friends but don’t travel well together. I did not get the impression that you had a good time on our trip.
I think sometimes we want different things from our vacations, and I think perhaps it would be better if we vacation separately from here on out.
I would dearly love to hear all about your trips, but I think you would be happier traveling alone or with someone else.”
If this is not a friendship you wish to sustain, feel free to be frank, something like, “I didn’t get the impression you had a very good time, and it cost me a whole lot more than I planned on spending. Quite frankly, I can’t afford to travel with you again.”
NTA. Courtesy is a virtue. If she has none, she isn’t your friend.
This is terrible AI “She lives in her hometown, while I’m responsible for living in another city”