Hi. I’ve had some issues with my neighbor recently and the most recent one my boyfriend thinks I’m being a huge asshole about it.
This neighbor is in everyone’s business and thinks he’s responsible for taking care of things that aren’t in his yard.
First, things first this neighbor has a history of over stepping in small ways. Here’s a list:
1. Parked his golf cart on our parking pad without permission then went out of town.
2. Parked his golf cart in our front yard.
3. Mowed our yard without asking when we were in the process of moving in.
4. Has taken a 4ftx4ft piece of our back yard near my parking pad and built a fenced in area. I have removed the fence out of our yard and planted grass.
5. Has come into our yard twice to give us unsolicited advice on what we’re working on. We kindly excuse him but he doesn’t get the picture that we don’t want to be bothered by him.
6. Cuts through other peoples back yards to get to his yard all the time.
7. Has “cleaned” our sidewalk without permission. Our sidewalk is kept clean but he thinks it’s not clean enough. We had an altercation about this. I told him to leave our portion of the sidewalk alone and this really pissed him off. It was not good.
And lastly the topic of the hour, they had a cardboard box at the top of their front stairs that they would throw their dog shit bags into. They eventually moved this box to the side of their home about 5 feet from the door that I use to enter/exit my home. I assume because they didn’t want to deal with the smell themselves.
It is 100 degrees where I live and it’s been raining. So theres been a steaming, wet, box of dog shit right by my door for two weeks. The smell was insane. It was between our houses so there was hardly any breeze. Flies everywhere. I could hear the hum of the flies through the door. It was awful.
I know I could’ve said something directly to them and I eventually had to. I didn’t want to poke the bear especially since we just had an issue with him and our sidewalk. But there is an option on my cities citizen service bureau to anonymously report unsanitary disposal of pet feces.
So I reported it and they got a warning. They had 2 weeks to remedy this. I gave them 3 days to get rid of the box since the warning and I caved in. I saw him throw another bag into the box and I couldn’t wait. The smell was insane and had made its way INSIDE of my kitchen as I was fixing lunch and I went over and told them to move it. They begrudgingly obliged.
Now my partner thinks I’m a huge dick and over reacted by reporting them. He doesn’t know I also personally asked them but i didn’t want to stress him out by telling him that part.
Am I the asshole?
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Hi. I’ve had some issues with my neighbor recently and the most recent one my boyfriend thinks I’m being a huge asshole about it.
This neighbor is in everyone’s business and thinks he’s responsible for taking care of things that aren’t in his yard.
First, things first this neighbor has a history of over stepping in small ways. Here’s a list:
And lastly the topic of the hour, they had a cardboard box at the top of their front stairs that they would throw their dog shit bags into. They eventually moved this box to the side of their home about 5 feet from the door that I use to enter/exit my home. I assume because they didn’t want to deal with the smell themselves.
It is 100 degrees where I live and it’s been raining. So theres been a steaming, wet, box of dog shit right by my door for two weeks. The smell was insane. It was between our houses so there was hardly any breeze. Flies everywhere. I could hear the hum of the flies through the door. It was awful.
I know I could’ve said something directly to them and I eventually had to. But there is an option on my cities citizen service bureau to report unsanitary disposal of pet feces. So I reported it and they got a warning. They had 2 weeks to remedy this. I gave them 3 days to get rid of the box since the warning and I caved in. I saw him throw another bag into the box and I couldn’t wait. The smell was insane and had made its way INSIDE of my kitchen as I was fixing lunch and I went over and told them to move it. They begrudgingly obliged.
Now my partner thinks I’m a huge dick and over reacted by reporting them. He doesn’t know I also personally asked them but i didn’t want to stress him out by telling him that part.
Am I the asshole?
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> I reported my neighbors to the city because they had a box of dog poop sitting in their yard by my door.
My boyfriend thinks this was overkill and I’m an asshole for reporting them.
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NTA. You have a list of seven previous grievances against him. The time for wondering if he deserves the benefit of the doubt is long gone.
NTA. All the other behaviors aside, throwing dog poop in a box next to your door is disgusting. You had/have every right to report him or to ask him to move it.
I think NTA. Should you have talked to them first? Probably. But the fact that he’s already overstepping, treating your property as his own without asking, and thinks it’s ok to leave a giant pile of dog poop in an open container outside, close to your door is wild.
NTA. The box of poop 5 feet from your entrance/exit is completely unreasonable. WTF is wrong with people?
NTA by a long shot. What they were doing was utterly disgusting and unsanitary. How hard is it to put dog poop bags in the bin? Why did they feel the need to collect them all in a cardboard box?
Regardless, you’re well within your rights to report that to the city council because your neighbours are creating a health hazard.
The 7 things you listed that he’s done that you consider overstepping are not bad at all. Annoying, yes, but getting upset that he mowed your lawn and cleaned your sidewalk are overreactions. For all we know they could have been a complete mess and he was tired of looking at them.
The dog poop box is disgusting though. So your thought process was “my neighbor does minor things that annoy me, so I’m going to report him to the city”?
Seems to me like YTA from the information you’ve provided here.
NTA. Get cameras so that you have proof of this neighbor’s trespassing. Use that to threaten to press charges if they ever do it again.
Also, the dog poop thing is gross. I’d be anonymously reporting them daily until it’s gone.
NTA You have been so much more patient than I would be.
NTA
That is gross and he knew exactly what he was doing when he put that box by your door.
If he’s going to store dog poop bags outside, it needs to be in a sealed bin away from others’ property.
NTA that’s disgusting my ex stepdad tried to make that a rule for us all dog crap in a sealed ice cream bucket in the summer where it’s hits 30+ regularly (live in Canada) I almost threw up my mom thought I was being dramatic til she did and she had the same reaction. Ex stepdad thought we were being dramatic so he said he’d do it and prove it’s not so bad, it was hilarious watching his face go green then he ran to the bathroom and threw the bucket away in the outside garbage bin
NTA, dude! You’re not the city’s garbage bin 😂😂 I mean wtf, it’s not like you’re asking for the moon and stars, just some basic decency. IMHO, Mr. Overstep-Yard needs to get a grip and actually throw away his dog crap, like a civilized person would. It ain’t rocket science, y’know?! Keep doing you, buddy, and don’t let anyone’s shit (literally) ruin your day. ✌️😎 Keep that sidewalk sparkling! Lol.