I (M16) and live with my dad (M40) and his girlfriend (F23). She moved in about three months ago. My mom passed away a couple years ago so this is still pretty new for me. Honestly, I get really embarrassed by her sometimes. She dresses kinda extra and acts like she’s always on camera or something. She talks too much and laughs way too much and it just makes me cringe af. She is only seven years older than me so it feels weird and kinda gross seeing her with my dad. I don’t judge people for how they live but it’s hard to feel normal when my friends come over and she is being all extra. I told my dad how I feel about the age thing and he got mad and said it’s none of my business. That hurt because I was just trying to be honest.
AITA for saying I’m embarrassed by my dad’s girlfriend?
r/AITAH
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He’s right , it’s none of your business ..
Your Dad is gross. No 40 year old in their right mind is interested in a 23 year old fetus. She’s still a child. Anyone who says otherwise is also fucking disgusting
Well i mean you are a child, and what adults do isn’t really any of your business. You should clarify what you mean by “extra”
NTA – Everything you’re feeling is valid. This situation is even more cringe af because your dad is dating someone young enough to be your sister. The only advice I can provide is to 1. Set boundaries with her and make sure she doesn’t think she can boss you around like a “stepmom” 2. Keep being honest with your dad – especially if she breaks these boundaries and 3. Do what you need to do to get out of her dad’s house when you graduate. Other than that – have your own life outside of them, so you are not constantly around them. Hope this helps.
If you’re 16, why is your dad’s girlfriend 23? Like that’s odd. Any feeling you have about this is completely valid, and him telling you it’s none of your business tells me that he knows it’s weird/somewhat wrong.
NAH – You have a right to your feelings. But so does your Dad. While the age gap thing would bother me as well, it’s your Father’s choice. Is your father‘s girlfriend doing or saying things toward you that would make you feel more awkward than normal?
I’m sorry about your mum. Sounds like your dad might be on a healing journey. Then again he might be serious idk. Regardless of motive, he clearly isn’t going to be receptive to your opinions. So your best move would be to avoid them. Maybe go to your other friend’s houses for a while. NTA but this clearly isn’t in your control right now so focus on what is.
NTA. She probably wants to smash you too…. shes had the old bull, now she wants the young calf, and shell grab you by the weiner
NTA. It’s completely normal to feel weird about your dad dating someone so close to your age, especially after losing your mom. You were honest about your feelings, and you’re allowed to have them. Give yourself time to adjust—it’s a lot to process.
NTA but also high five for your dad
That’s really tough. No you’re not the a-hole here. Your dad is probably still grieving and something about this woman is important to him right now even though you can see through it all.
My dad dated a 25 year old when I was 22. I thought it was absolutely disgusting and told her never to bring her to my home again. NTA
I rly think when things are calm u should tell ur dad how you just tried to be honest then he shut you down and that hurt. u could tell him i want to be able to come to you if im struggling w anything and that you want to prioritize communication
I can’t believe he let her move in. She must have been evicted or something. My dad did this after my mom died but the relationships never lasted until he met someone a little older
It’s bad enough that dad’s dating someone young enough to be his child, but she now LIVES in the family home – which definitely affects the 16yo OP. Mom died only 2 years ago; dad should recognize the impact his actions have on his son.
Shame on dad for choosing his sex life over being a good parent.
Are either of your grandmothers still alive? Tell them. One of them may help you sort this out…
Your dad is mad because he’s self-conscious about the fact that he’s a creepy little pervert, and everyone knows it. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
You might have better luck embarrassing his girlfriend into acting right.