I (30m) was married to Marin (30f) and we have a son together who’s now 8. When Marin was pregnant I found out she was cheating on me with James (33m). James had a girlfriend who was pregnant at the same time. When my son was born we needed a DNA test to find out if I was his father or James was. As Marin’s husband I was the legal father and that made it easier when the DNA results showed he was actually mine. Because she fought to name James his father. Things were toxic. James was there for everything in the later pregnancy and the birth and Marin told me nothing. Her parents were the ones who gave me info on when my son was born so I could file with the courts for a DNA test and custody and our son’s birth was also when our divorce could proceed.
James’ ex ended up giving him custody of their daughter and so they had her full time and my son 50% of the time and a year and a half later they had a daughter together. At this point they have James’ daughter and four children together. And I won custody of my son 3.5 years ago because in order to force more money out of me, they wouldn’t feed him enough and let him wear dirty old clothes. And I only paid child support because I earned more than Marin. But we had equal parenting time back then. So now Marin sees our son every other weekend.
My son’s in therapy to help him with all the mess he’s witnessed and been a part of in some way in his young life. Marin was also ordered to pay a small amount of child support but she only paid a few times. She always uses the excuse that she can’t afford it and that might be true. I never push it because I can take care of my son without her.
For the last 2ish years Marin has looked to me to buy extra school supplies and share them among the two school aged kids. So her stepdaughter and first daughter with James. I have always ignored those requests and sent my son with supplies and donated a few to his class as requested. I have never bought a single thing for the other children in my ex’s household.
Two weeks ago my son had a small surgery and Marin showed up. Marin brought up the school supplies issue and asked me to please be decent about this and get some supplies for her girls because they couldn’t afford them. She told me they struggle to support the kids they have as it is and their other kids suffer. I tried to move away from her but she followed me to another table. So I told her I don’t care if they can’t afford their other kids. I told her that her other children are not my responsibility and she needs to figure something else out. I told her she already denied our kid food to try and get money out of me and she lost most of her time with him as a result and my priority was my kid, not the kids she keeps having. I told her I would not discuss it with her again and I haven’t but she has sent many messages through the co-parenting app the courts have ordered us to use where she calls me an asshole and not a good dad to our kid.
My lawyer knows. He tells me to keep ignoring her. And for those who might wonder, this will not remove her visitation with him. It was difficult enough to get primary custody after her denying our son enough food to try and make me pay more. Unless my son is older and doesn’t want to see her or CPS removes the other kids nothing will change re visitation.
Knowing all of this AITA?
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NTA. She chose to cheat on you. Married and had kids with her affair partner and still had the audacity to ask you to provide for the kids she has with her affair partner. That’s wild. The audacity and entitlement is insane. She should be ashamed of even asking.
Not even a little bit.
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NTA – that’s a terrible backstory (and I’m sorry you and your son have been through that), but it doesn’t matter: they’re not your kids, so you have zero obligation.
NTA. You are taking care of your child, that’s your only obligation.
NTA. At some point can you get a restraining order against her so she can only contact you directly about your son since she is insulting you and harassing you via court monitored software?
NTA. Call CPS. She shouldn’t have those kids either.
NTA
Only conversations through the parenting app. You can also reference her attempts to communicate outside of the app in the parenting app. Such as, please don’t approach me outside of the app as you did yesterday. Let’s only talk through the app.
Also, openly start recording her attempt to talk to you. Don’t speak yourself, but record her remarks. Gather evidence for your lawyer.
NTA/ Don’t respond to her text because your response will only fuel her ongoing attack. If she needs more money she needs to get a job/better paying job, help from her folks, or her husbands. Not your circus. Keep on being the outstanding father to your son. That is what matters here 100%.
NTA she has a lot of nerve to ask she can go to church school supplies donations and other non profits to support her but I would never give her a penny especially after she withheld good what a horrible person she needs to lean on her AP he was so wonderful and she made her choice ignore her and keep moving and don’t send anything more than what he needs when he sees her and I hope it’s supervised since she literally was starving him for money.
She called you a bad father because you won’t buy stuff for children that aren’t yours? She is seriously insane.
Keep ignoring it and if you have to get a restraining order as this is harassment.
I don’t understand why they won’t take away all visitation when she was abusing your child. The system is completely fucked.
NTA.
She’s an awful person.
NTA you’re taking care of yours. She chose her struggle, you don’t have to support it.
Your patience with this woman is admirable, she has made her own bed, now she has to lie in it. NTA of course, keep focusing on your son and the two of you will be far better off then the other two and the mess they have gotten themselves into.
NTA, have your lawyer get her to agree to no contact in exchange for her not meeting her child support obligation and be done with her.
Hope you keep record of everything so your son in the future can know how horrible his mother is. Also make sure you have trust in his name so your ex wouldn’t try to take any thing that’s you have if something happens
NTA and tell her that when she pays her back child support, you’ll consider it, but then don’t coz she won’t
NTA. I can’t believe you went through that. She’s crazy tbh.
NTA one iota. As if cheating on you wasn’t bad enough, she then purposely underfed your child as a means to squeeze more $ out of you, and now she’s guilt tripping you into buying stuff for her other kids? Absolutely not. This creature is disgusting. It’s not your concern that she keeps making kids she or her new baby daddy can’t afford.
Nah man, NTA in the least. You’re simply doing right by your kid and the rest of that ain’t on you to fix.
NTA. Ask lawyers if you can forward her mooching messages to CPS
NTA. Do she and her baby daddy work?
NTA… they knew what their income was before having all those children.
Best solution – Ignore her and keep your lawyers involved.
Petty solution – Tell her to go spread her legs, an activity she is so good at if needs more money. James can help being her p**p as both of them neither have the morals or values of decent human beings.
The only time you’re an asshole for telling the truth is when your wife buys a new dress that you don’t like
How about this: “One more insult, one more demand that I do things for the kids that aren’t mine, and I will go to court for the balance you owe.” That should shut her up. Or land her back in court. Which ever she chooses.
NTA
Wow… NTA. Pretty ballsy of someone who can’t figure out birth control to expect someone to pay for her kids.
You’re doing everything right and keep your lawyer in the loop. She needs to give it a rest
Ughhh she sucks.
NTA
It’s an old saying but very relevant… she made her bed, and now she has to lay in it.
She had that many kids, they made that blended family… its their responsibility to ensure they can actually care for these kids.
There are plenty of options like birth control, termination, adoption, etc… she chose to have this big of a family.
You’re already giving her a pass on the child support, where’s that money going? Can that not be used on school supplies if she’s not actually going to give it to you?
NTA. Even if she hadn’t cheated.
I don’t buy school supplies and other stuff for random kids, neighbors, etc.
There are WAY too many places that give away school supplies. She sucks!
Something tells me that if they are struggling that much with money, that life is pretty tense there. Wonder if she is worried about him cheating on her with all the financial pressure. You lose them how you get them. OP, you keep taking care of your son and let them learn to be responsible parents.
Too bad audacity doesn’t pay, cause that is rich.
NTA
NTA – does she know that you could go to court to get her pay checks garnished for the back child support she owes? By her not paying the child support, she’s already taking money from you. Now she wants you to “give” her more money to support her other children via school supplies? No.
I love how she’s calling you a bad father to your child because you won’t help her with kids that aren’t yours. And when she was the one actively starving your son. There’s definitely a terrible parent here but it’s not you! NTA
This is awful for all the kids involved for sure, but her kids aren’t your problem. NTA.
NTA. Your ex is a very large A.
NTA. “Be a decent person” is rich coming from someone who let her own kid go hungry to extort more money from you.
Next time she complains send her an add for condoms
NTA- your son is your priority. I don’t understand continuing to have children that you can’t afford to care for. There are resources out there for her children to receive school supplies. These children also have other family members who they can reach out to if they are in need. You are donating to the classroom which is kind of you.
I would not communicate with her at all about any child other than your own. I would make that clear on last time through the app so it is on record. I would then make a notation every time she attempts to speak to you about her other children.
With regard to the child support. I don’t know how much it is and I realize you don’t need it but she needs to be responsible and pay it. Put it away for your son to have at a later time.
I’m sorry that this is complicated for you, and I hope your son benefits from the help he is receiving. Best Wishes.
NTA. She is delusional.
NTA. These children are her responsibility. It”s sad for the children being born into this situation but that is not your responsibility.
Absolutely not the AH!
NTA at all.
Their children are in no way your responsibility. There is no argument that your ex could make that will change that.
Their children, their choice, their responsibility. Nothing to do with you.
She thinks you’re terrible for not buying her kids school supplies when she tried to starve her own kid to guilt you to provide for other kids.
She’s a moron.
And go to court and enforce the child support. They’ll start taking her wages. You might not need it, but your son needs college funds. College is getting more expensive. You would be the asshole to your kid if you don’t get the child support he deserves from his deadbeat mother.
NTA. Just grey-rock her when she brings up her other kids and tell her through the co-parenting app that your only responsibility is to your child, who is in your care, and you provided him with his school supplies + the classroom supplies requested by his teacher. That is all you are required to do. If he has homework during the weekends that he is with his mother, he should bring what he needs to do his homework, and all school supplies should be returned in his backpack when he goes to school on Monday. If they are not, she is stealing them.
Reiterate as needed that you are not going to speak with her about her other children from her marriage to James or her stepdaughter. Their material needs are the responsibility of her and James. Past empathy/generosity does not obligate you to ongoing generosity.
I would also document every month that she doesn’t pay her child support in full in the co-parenting app.
NTA whatsoever. Not your kids, not your problem. She can however reach out to churches and google other programs that help with school supplies. Where I am in the Midwest, the schools have a day set up before everything starts where they supply what you need if you cannot afford any. Worth checking into if she’s ACTUALLY struggling for school supplies.
Tell your ex if she keeps pushing, you will go to court for the back child support she owes. Tell her that you’ve been giving her grace already, and she is unequivocally asking too much.
NTA
NTA…………..She made her choices = she can deal with them.
Not your problem. Please get your child away from this sick twisted person. He deserves better.
I am livid reading that she is starving her own child….intentionally.
Document everything. Video any interaction you have with her. Ask lawyer what would get your child away from her and that nasty abusive situation. Record son telling you what is going on at home.
The last time I helped or believed my X…..she says can I send a big chunk of money. She needs extensive xrays because she might have cancer. I gave her everything I could. Had to donate plasma to eat. Next time I pickup my son, she has a new used couch, two end tables, coffee table and lamps. Yeah…ripped off big time.
I never believed anything she told me again. and continually refused to “help” in anyway.
NTA. She’s got some nerve.
NTA – She shouldn’t have cranked out kids she can’t afford. This isn’t your problem.
I’d almost be willing to bet that there’s a dollar value you could offer her in exchange for her to just go away. You and your son would be better off without her and the current family in your lives.
If they can’t afford the kids they shouldn’t have had them. That simple. I feel bad for the kids but they aren’t your responsibility and she should find a way to take care of them
NTA, you could probably push on harassment though
Tell her if she doesn’t leave you alone about the school supplies you will let the courts know she hasn’t paid child support, so she will be forced to. So leave you alone or pay.
Sounds like your a great dad.. keep up the good work. It’s not her fault she keeps having babies with others that don’t know what it means to have a child.
NTA even if she didn’t cheat you wouldn’t be TA. She needs to stop having kids if she can’t afford them. Start enforcing the child support and tell her if she gives up custody then you’ll stop the child support
Nta. This is why America needs to make it easier to get our tubes tied.
She is TA.
NTA. There’s no reason at all why you should pay penny one for somebody else’s kids. There are many resources available to help her get school supplies and school clothes for her kids, but I’m guessing she’d rather try to guilt trip you than actually do a little research.
NTA.
But a little warning.
Right now it’s “just” school supplies.
But what will happen when he gets to be in activities?
When he starts getting pocketmoney and going out with friends?
When he gets his first phone? iPad? Computer?
Anything you get for him will at some point become an issue – and they’re going to ask you to also pay for the other children because “it’s not fair they see their half/step brother have all these nice things and opportunities”
NTA. The cheating was bad enough. Causing your child to suffer (which is abuse) just to wring more money out of you, though? Being civil to her is the literal extent of what you owe and that’s to your child, not her, and only that until the courts deem him old enough to decide otherwise.
Why is this even a question?
Make sure your son doesn’t get the school supplies taken/stolen by the ex if he uses them at her house. She sounds sleazy enough that they would get “lost” if he brings them there, especially stuff like electronics and calculators.
Of course you’re not the AH, is this even a legitimate question/concern??
She cheated. The kids he has and the kids she has are none of your concern. They placed those kids well above your’s. Your child is a second class, if not 3rd class, citizen when he goes to her home. Why would you pay for their children??? They’re all kids, yes. It would be EXTREMELY nice of you to go out of your way to help them because they are, of course, just kids…but, it’s not something I would do.
Understanding the situation, as you’ve addressed it, I’d most definitely believe your child will be treated worse due to your justified decision to not help though. BUT, helping also comes at the cost of them beginning to believe, and I’d even say entitled, to a higher expectation out of you. Sounds like you’re expressing was the worst kind of leech that exists.
NTA. She cheated on you first and foremost. And tried to starve her own child to try and extort more money out of you. The best you can do would to try and limit and manage their time with him as they are not a good influence. It is not your fault that the people that can least afford it keep having children. That’s all on them.
you are NTA, and you would be NTA if you made an anonymous call to CPS for the neglect she is perpetrating on her other kids.
NTA, 100% not your problem or your issue.
Your son is your only concern and your only communication with Marin should be about your son and nothing else. Listen to your lawyer.
NTA, the courts generally won’t remove the mother’s custody of the kid unless it is REALLY bad. You are prioritising your kid. Keep it that way. Her kids and her money issues are not on you. Maybe James should actually step up and take care of his own kids?
Honestly you are NTA. But those children are your child’s siblings. Maybe ask him what he wants you to do. Sometimes teaching kindness goes a long way. It’s not your responsibility at all though. But I still think it’s sometimes worth it to be kind. This coming from someone who always bought school supplies for other people who couldn’t afford it.
I am so sorry for that situation, she madebut decision and now she is facing the consequences.NTA
Send her a link to community organizations that give free backpacks full of school supplies to children.
NTA- I have no idea where you live, but where I live there are always back to school drives collecting supplies for the underprivileged kids. She can use those resources, if she has too.
Nta. But buddy, you really knocked up a giant loser. I don’t envy having to deal with her for the rest of your life.
Tell Marin two simple words: BIRTH CONTROL.
NTA
Keep all the messages she sends you and, if possible, get in the habit of recording any in-person conversations you have with her. If she tries the whole starving you kid during her visitatios “because they’re can’t afford it” again, document it and definitely use it to get the visitations stopped.
The audacity of this woman! Do as your lawyer tells you and completely ignore her. If she continues, you can file for a restraining order for harassment. Then, she and the courts will have to figure out how to make arrangements for her visitations. Custody court can not make you deal directly with her if she harasses you.
NTA, take care of your kid, the rest isn’t your concern. The affair, and all the kids that came with it are all results of her choices. She is her husband’s problem now, not her Ex’s
NTA in any way, shape, or form! Her and her husband sounds like useless bums. If they can’t afford their kids they shouldn’t have had so many. 🤷🏽♀️. If it’s that bad one or both of them better get an additional job to help themselves out.
I might be heavily downvoted but why the f*** do people have kids if they cant afford it? For heaven sake, every child deserves good parents but i truly believe not every person deserves to have kids. STOP reproducing if u cant afford.
NTA. Your ex is unrealistic if she thinks you owe her, James, or any of their brood a pencil. Your biological child only is all you take care of.
Thank god your son has you to take care of him, who’s to say if you gave her money for school supplies , she would you use the money for that? She made her bed, let her sleep in it
Too bad she downgraded her man and now has to beg for resources.
NTA just continue to ignore anything that isn’t directly related to your son, and feel free to remind her that your son is the only thing you two have to discuss, if you feel like wasting a few more seconds of your life (she will probably keep ignoring that, but you can try, I guess).
Of course you’re NTA. They chose to have six kids. You chose to have one. Why would any of those other kids be your responsibility?
if for some reason, you change your mind, you get the school list, and buy the supplies yourself, do not give her cash. You are not wrong, if you cannot do it charitably, and will resent it, then by all means do not do it. You owe them nothing. And, school supplies is a racket. The teachers are given enough money to buy what they need. There is no check marking off of who did it, and who did not do it. What I did when we were so very poor, is I used our tax return, of around 7K and used that for our miscellaneous expenses, and Back To School fell into that category.
No. You’re good. F her
Genuine question: How would feeding your son less get more money out of you? I’m not understanding.
NTA and it’s pretty wild that she asked you to be “decent” when it sounds like you have been all along while she most definitely has not. Thank you for reminding everyone that there’s plenty of single dads out here getting it done except they’re not all over social media like the single moms feel the need to be
NTAH. You have one child. You are responsible for only one child. Ignoring her requests is the right move. If they can’t support their children, they can seek services, request help from the grandparents, contact the school, or give up something themselves. Many people are in need, and it’s my guess you would feel more benevolently towards them as they haven’t caused harm to your child.
NTA. While it’s more than she deserves, you might encourage your ex to go see her local Social Services Dept. There are lots of assistance programs focused on children. This might make a big difference in the lives of innocent children.
lord. don’t ask that question
ignore her ass
there are PLENTY OF MON PROFITS SHE CAN CRY TO ABOUT SUPPLIES
NOT YOUR MONKEY
NTA – the nerve of some people….. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.
No way
No, of course NTA. Your son is your responsibility; the other 5 children are not.
You sound like a very good dad who is looking out for his kid and doing a great job. Just keep doing it!
Your ex has a lot of nerve to try guilting you into buying school supplies for the kid she had with her AP and his other kid.
NTA, you are responsible for your son.
NTA! Not your problem friend. She chose that life. Keep looking after and raising your son. Shame on her for using those dirty tactics. Actually hurting your son for her poor ass choices. You’re doing great, keep it up!
NTA – she’s a sponge. She will take and take and take as much as she thinks she can get. She will leverage your son in anyway she can to get what she wants.
I’d ask CPS to investigate the care of the other kids to make sure they are fed and clean. Perhaps school supplies aren’t all she isn’t providing. Considering her history of abuse with your own son I wonder how the others are treated.
NTA. But Marin is definitely an AH.
NTA. So sorry that you are going through this. Your son sounds happy with you at least. Hopefully his surgery went well.
NTA at all, but I personally could not stomach knowing the other kids are suffering if I could do anything to help. Not remotely your responsibility, to be clear, just kind of a “if you can help, why not?” they’re just innocent kids.
NTA. Listen to your attorney and ignore her regarding her other children. It is possible if you were to send support to children who are not yours, a judge could see that as taking parental responsibility (putative father) and order you to support the other children. Your ex probably knows this.
NTA, bro I’m surprised you didn’t say more. Not only do I not gaf that you can’t afford the kids you continue to have, but I couldn’t care less that ur struggling. You can call me an asshole all you won’t but it’s still not gonna make me gaf. Bitch made that bed now she can lay in it.
NTA She and her AP decided to have children they can’t afford. That’s on them. Perhaps a second job would help
NTA, keep ignoring her.wish for both of your sake (you & your son) you could move away from her
NTA. Thank God you were granted primary custody of your son. In my US state (Pennsylvania) it’s almost unheard-of for a father to win primary custody for like any reason. I know a guy who got full custody of his kids while their mother was in prison for 18 months for dealing drugs with the kids in the car. As soon as she was released from prison, the courts gave her back primary custody. It’s bad here.
Listen to your lawyer. Don’t give her an extra penny. Her lying, cheating, neglectful, manipulative ass has some nerve asking you to “be decent” for a couple of kids who have nothing at all to do with you, one of whom wouldn’t even exist at all apart from her not being a decent person and betraying you in the first place.
I feel bad for the kids who suffer because of their selfish, irresponsible parents—my own cheating ex had a daughter with one of her partners while we were still married, and she’s a great kid who certainly didn’t deserve any beef from me. I send her a birthday gift every year because she’s still my kids’ half-sister—but you bear zero responsibility for them. And if what you say about her mother is accurate, it seems like there’s a good chance any money you send along won’t end up getting spent on “school supplies” for those kids anyway.
It’s a shame. Those kids deserve better than their crappy parents. Every kid deserves better than that. But there’s no version of this where they are your responsibility in any way, shape, or form. Next time she badgers you for money ask her when she’s gonna finish the backpay on her child support. Specifically mention it in the coparenting app, where it’s recorded and timelogged. That should make her think twice about pushing the issue.
NTA by any stretch of the imagination. Well done to you for advocating for your kid and weathering the storms of exclusion and custody. Keep doing your thing.
Similar versions of this have been posted recently. You’re no more an ah than those posters, if this is true.
NTA she neglected and abused your son. You staying calm and not engaging is the way to go.
You are NTA
I would ask your lawyer to get complete custody with he only visiting her son. If she cant provide for her own family that in my mind means your son might potentially be starved again or abused.
NTA, you could talk to a lawyer about harassment maybe
NTA. She’s a narcissist and has no shame. Do the legally required minimum amount of interaction and cut her out of your life the soonest you can (when your son is old enough to decide for himself or that it no longer matters).
Reading things like this reminds me why ill never have kids. This world is a cruel and unfair place.
Reason #187589 not to stick your d*ck in crazy
NTA, those are not your kids. She is lying in the bed she made.
It’s sad you think you have to ask internet strangers if you’re an asshole for not providing for your exes kids.
Ex could be a wonderful mother and coparent and you still are not responsible for her children.
Start your day saying this out loud and as if you believe it: Not my circus, not my monkeys.
Updateme
NTA. Keep being a good dad to your child and screw the ex. I don’t understand why people have children if they can’t pay for them. She and her husband are assholes for having children they can’t support. This is not your problem.
Why type up an essay to get an answer to an obvious question everyone knows the answer to?
NTA! Man, she has nerve! Doesn’t she get how she has wronged you? You don’t crash into someone in a crosswalk and the ask them to pay damages to your car! Follow your attorneys advice.
She could look into the donated school supplies many communities have each year, or use the child support she hasn’t paid for their needs. You are NTAH.
NTA
Your ex hobag chose the wrong guy!! She’s a cheap, classless loser who should get sterilized to prevent any other child suffering under her care!! You do NOT owe anything to them!!
NTA. My concernis if something were to happen to you, she may get custody and be in charge of his inheritance. Talk to an estate attorney and make sure his inheritance isn’t overseen by her and ask if there’s anything you can preemptively do about custody if you were to suddenly die.
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NTA.
Listen to your lawyer. Don’t do battle with her about her obligations. Not your circus, not your responsibility.
You are NTA. Your ex and the homewrecker are another story.
I feel so sorry for the kids who are stuck in their household because the two of them have full custody of them. They’re innocent victims of their deplorable excuses for parents.
If you ever witness anything that even remotely resembles a reason to call CPS on those other kids’ behalf, please do. That will combination help those kids, plus possibly help free your son from having to interact with her and the homewrecker at all.
The next time she asks, I would respond with, “Even though you are court ordered to pay child support for our son, I have chosen to not return to court because you could conceivably go to jail for failing to abide by the court’s decree. I am assuming you have been using the money which is supposed to go to our son’s support to help your other children. I will not be supplying you with any additional funds or school supplies when you currently are in arrears in the amount of $X,XXX. If you continue to badger me to help support your other children, you will force me to return to court to have the current child support situation re-litigated. Please do not ask this of me again.” Maybe that will frighten her enough to stop.
Tell her, you made me, you support ‘em!
NTA. those are not your children. You have no obligation to help them, and every reason not to. I’ve seen this before and, as a stepmom, people like her make my blood boil. Good for you for fighting for your son and getting him the care he needs.
NTA. Always follow your attorneys’ advice. Also, you might want to talk to your attorney about restricting your ex’s visitation rights to your kid based on everything she is telling you. But keep in mind that I am a rando from the internet, and I don’t know dick about family law.
stop popping out babies you can’t afford. simple.
that’s a lesson she hasn’t learned yet and you’re not supposed to be the one to help her.
She starved her own kid on purpose to get more money out you? That is horrible. They should have remove all custody.
You’re poor soon. He is in his growing age and she starve him. That woman is sick. Just sick.
NTA
Nta. Jfc did she find audacity on clearance?!?! School supplies are NOT much. I always went after the back to school rush and picked up supplies on clearance. I’d keep enough for the following year (and any arts and crafts we may do) and donated a bunch to the school. When I was paying a penny a folder and .05-.10 for crayons, colored pencils and markers, I was fine with loading the school up. But I sure as heck wasn’t covering my ex’s step kids or any other kids he has. It’s not like oh the relationship just didn’t work and yall stayed amicable. She actively tried to keep you away from your child then tried STARVING your child to extort money from you! ABSOLUTELY NOT.
I’m petty… I’d pick a random kid in Walmart or ask a local church if there are kids in need and help them instead… then post of fb “shopping with my buddy.” I will always help a stranger long before I help anyone who thinks they’re entitled. If she can’t afford her kids, stop having them
When will people learn that their little crotch goblins don’t matter to anyone else but them??? I have 3 of my own & would never ask their dad to help me outside of mandated child support.
NTA at all. Keep your priority your son & the next time she messages you about needing for her other kids, just reply with websites to food pantries & any campaigns that offer school supplies. See….you’re not heartless, just resourceful🤣🤣🤣🤣
NTA. Im so glad he only goes over on the weekends so they can’t steal his supplies but I feel like that’s coming soon. There are far too many ways to get free supplies all over the place. Most cities, towns, villages have back to school giveaways all the time. If she and her deadbeat husband can’t afford their children, why do they keep having them? Use that time and energy to start a business or better your career.
NTA, stand tall King! You don’t owe her anything. Birth control is free, she should have considered that. Does every man that she ever slept with need to pay a share? Where would it stop after school supplies?
If she gets you alone she might maliciously accuse you of assault so she can get full custody of your son and gouge you for $$$
Can you avoid meeting her in person unless with a witness?
This is a repost. I have read this same exact post before.
NTA. She starved your child to extort money from you; that’s a villain move.
Of course you’re NTA.
Thank you, from me, for your son. I am a divorced Mom and grateful my ex did his best to be a good father too. You sound so smart and kind, nothing about your story comes close to AIH, except for the Mother. The one thing I would offer is, regardless of what his mother is or does, her children are his “sisters “. So any kindness you show them through your son will benefit him later in life because he will have his sisters, as mess up and they’ll be. Thank You Again, I know you aren’t looking for my Gratitude. I want to thank you anyway.
I’d tell her to leave you alone or you’ll be taking her to court to enforce the child support. Then she’ll have even less money.