My family and I went to Cancun for a family reunion. My parents (57m and 53f) and brother (22m) were talking about doing something for the last two days and I said that I think it’ll be cool but I much rather spend time with family because I don’t know when this will happen again or with who, as for availability (and honestly who from my grandma’s siblings will be able to travel in a year or two). Apparently this was all fine with my parents until now because I’m a spoiled brat for not wanting to do things with immediate family which we do all the time and that they were talking about doing something even before going on this trip, but no one told me. They were alright with me spending some time with them, but my mom and brother had made it seem like I wasn’t spending any time with immediate family and tried to gaslight me into thinking that I much rather spend time with “old people than family”.
Earlier in the day, I had to ask for help for two minutes to get help to put sunscreen on my back (where I usually get and had gotten sunburn) and they decided to start a conversation with someone when I first asked. My mom called me a liar when I brought it up. All this because I’m too drunk apparently. Am I going crazy? I feel like I am. AITA?
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My family and I went to Cancun for a family reunion. My parents (57m and 53f) and brother (22m) were talking about doing something for the last two days and I said that I think it’ll be cool but I much rather spend time with family because I don’t know when this will happen again or with who, as for availability (and honestly who from my grandma’s siblings will be able to travel in a year or two). Apparently this was all fine with my parents until now because I’m a spoiled brat for not wanting to do things with immediate family which we do all the time and that they were talking about doing something even before going on this trip, but no one told me. They were alright with me spending some time with them, but my mom and brother had made it seem like I wasn’t spending any time with immediate family and tried to gaslight me into thinking that I much rather spend time with “old people than family”.
Earlier in the day, I had to ask for help for two minutes to get help to put sunscreen on my back (where I usually get and had gotten sunburn) and they decided to start a conversation with someone when I first asked. My mom called me a liar when I brought it up. All this because I’m too drunk apparently. Am I going crazy? I feel like I am. AITA?
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> My mom said I was in the wrong and said that I was a brat for wanting to do something that she didn’t want me to do
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NTA. Wanting to cherish rare time with extended family doesn’t make you a villain, especially when immediate family time is regular occurrence.
Sounds like you are being manipulated and that your family claims time without taking into consideration how it impacts others.
NTA
there are strong indications that you are acting like an asshole, particularly due to you admitting that you are ” spoiled brat” behavior, deceitful actions, and dismissive attitude towards your immediate family members.
NTA. That’s what family reunions are for: seeing family members who you don’t get to see very often.
You may want to look more closely into your “immediate” family dynamics and do some research. There may be some crab pot mentality there where they don’t want you to see what might be available outside of them. These people will become your extended family, too, and that may terrify them for whatever reason.
NTA. Absolutely spend your time with extended family and avoid your immediate family. They’re giving you instructions, follow them.
NTA.