AITA for snitching on something that I overheard accidentally? I heard my sister F15 tell her boyfriend that our parents have so much money “they’re not gonna notice it’s missing.” He said they might, and she responded “they haven’t yet.” My parents do not have “so much money.” They live paycheck to paycheck so I don’t know why she’s saying that. I haven’t told them yet, they’re out of town and she was staying with me for the weekend but I feel like I have to say something. I’d want someone to tell me if I was the victim.
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AITA for snitching on something that I overheard accidentally? I heard my sister F15 tell her boyfriend that our parents have so much money “they’re not gonna notice it’s missing.” He said they might, and she responded “they haven’t yet.” My parents do not have “so much money.” They live paycheck to paycheck so I don’t know why she’s saying that. I haven’t told them yet, they’re out of town and she was staying with me for the weekend but I feel like I have to say something. I’d want someone to tell me if I was the victim.
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I’m not even gonna explain or justify this.
Ntah.
Thats it. Good day.
A couple of things.
People with large incomes also regularly find themselves living “paycheck to paycheck” – nothing about that statement means they don’t have a lot of money.
That said, you are aware of a theft from someone you care about. That, to me, trumps that you also care for the thief.
NTA
I don’t think this qualifies as “snitching.” You are apparently old enough to be in loco parentis for her — she’s staying with you. I’d tell them what you overheard, they really need to know what she’s up to. Something is wrong if she’s stealing. And make sure to emphasize that you don’t want them to tell her they heard it from you.
NTA.
NTA- Your parents need to know because if she does mess up and take too much (and I wouldn’t trust your sister with your family’s finances), it could have an impact for all of you. People of all incomes are struggling, and your sister needs that behavior nipped in the bud now before it becomes a nasty pattern of behavior that ruins other future relationships as well
That feels like a situation your parents should know about. Your sister will probably be upset, but they should know if she is spending their money. It’s also concerning that she’s saying that to her boyfriend. If I was a parent, I feel like I’d want to know about that
NTA. It isn’t snitching. We don’t know how much, how long etc and stealing only has a propensity to get worse. Better tell them before it’s something major.
NTA
Stealing money is illegal
I think in the long run you made the right call
NTA. Stealing is a crime. Your parents need to be in the loop.
NTA, your parents need to know, it’s not “snitching” as it’s something very important they need to know about and then it will be a lesson to your sister that she can’t do s**tty things like that and get away with it
It’s also a crime so you’d be an AH for not telling your parents
I’d also be worried about what she’s spending it on.
NTA
If this is her attitude – especially talking in the way she is to her boyfriend – then you might be saving your sister from a very slippery slope of stealing from other people or future housemates or employers who will not be nearly so forgiving as your parents might be. It’s not “snitching” when shit gets serious, it’s saving someone from a whole world of possible hurt.
It sounds like you don’t actually live with your parents? In that case, I would have absolutely no qualms about your sister knowing it was you, as she’ll probably guess anyway, so may as well have it out there and get the unpleasantness over with. I would tell your parents, and if your sister accuses you, then admit it – explaining the paychecks and that you feel she needs to learn the value of money and not get into future trouble. Then step back and let them all get on with it.
Unfortunately, sometimes there are no “good” outcomes, only ‘bad’ (telling) and ‘worse’ (not telling and your sister really crossing a line somewhere because no-one reined her in).
NTA. Honestly I’d think more along the lines of someone who didn’t tell was the AH.
NTA
if you don’t tell your parents she’s going to repeat her actions, i had a stealing problem like really bad when i was like 10 and didn’t stop until i got caught like big time.
NTA
NTA. She’s 15 and stealing from her parents. She’s also putting the family in danger by telling people they have a lot of money. Your parents need to be told. But before confronting her I suggest they figure out how she’s doing it and ‘catch her in the act.’ That way she can’t deny it or claim you misheard.