My son is 4, I’m also very pregnant and over picking up broken toys that his little sister could try to swallow. He plays with his toys but then after a few days either starts to pick at the seams and spill the insides making a hazard of beads or whatever it contains, or if it’s plastic throws them/smashes them with other toys to break.
I’ve tried talking to him, taking them away for the day to try again the next day or even longer so he might miss them and try then. He still acts the same, less interested than when initially received but still is so destructive. I feel like a ahole for taking them away or threatening to but even if he has no toys in the open he’ll pick at walls or little things he can. We paint, we do play doh, we go outside and he throws rocks and tears up grass idk how to get him to take care of his toys yall. What do I do without being an ahole???
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My son is 4, I’m also very pregnant and over picking up broken toys that his little sister could try to swallow. He plays with his toys but then after a few days either starts to pick at the seams and spill the insides making a hazard of beads or whatever it contains, or if it’s plastic throws them/smashes them with other toys to break.
I’ve tried talking to him, taking them away for the day to try again the next day or even longer so he might miss them and try then. He still acts the same, less interested than when initially received but still is so destructive. I feel like a ahole for taking them away or threatening to but even if he has no toys in the open he’ll pick at walls or little things he can. We paint, we do play doh, we go outside and he throws rocks and tears up grass idk how to get him to take care of his toys yall. What do I do without being an ahole???
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> I feel like an asshole for taking my young son’s toys away for days even because he keeps breaking them not learning how to take care of them. Idk how to reach him
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I think the first thing you do is have him evaluated for learning or more likely behavioral challenges. Small children are somewhat destructive just through curiosity and over exuberance but this sounds like it may be more than that.